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shouting so loud that your throat hurts - because they don't bloody listen

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MrsGoranVisnjic · 16/02/2007 21:44

first, second or third time

do you ever?

do you feel bad afterwards?

can you stop?

and are you looking forward to school starting again

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MrsGoranVisnjic · 16/02/2007 21:52

you see I believe, in my cocky frame of mind, that you must all do this, because what kind of freakish self-control must it take not to just lose it after having to ask 50 times for the simplest thing to be done and being ignored

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MrsGoranVisnjic · 16/02/2007 21:53

of course, I am momentarily avoiding the fact that this is mumsnet and that you are all perfect online

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moondog · 16/02/2007 21:55

Try whispering next time you are cross.
Frighteningly effective.

Oh and don't abuse yer voice like that.
Terrible for the vocal chords (and I speak as a salt)

Tortington · 16/02/2007 21:57

no no no!

i can't believe you're doing this

nope its not a rant from a lentil weaving hippy - now you have discovered they are anethetised to your loudness, you must get your quite stern voice. using a low tone, you speak normally sounding every syllable and letter of each word, in poshest voice with an over arching " how very dare you" intonation

happy menacing!

Sallyheartshapedstrawberry · 16/02/2007 22:02

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MrsGoranVisnjic · 16/02/2007 22:05

oh gawd love you

its the juxtaposition between a 6 year old who should know better and a 3 year old who patently doesn't

we're swinging from lovely interaction and activities to total ignoring me and mayhem atm - bedtime was not fun

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sunnysideup · 16/02/2007 22:31

OK I'm not a hippy weaving lentil or whatever it is, either but I've never done this because it's utterly pointless and I don't like to waste my time.

If I had shouted, and shouted to no effect then I would think of another way out of the situation that might have more chance of WORKING!

I'm not someone that ever gets to the point of shouting though, maybe am ultra repressed or something.

But i do think it's a case of thinking of other ways of getting stuff done without asking 50 times and being ignored....why pursue a path that patently isn't working...ask another way so that you don't get so cross that you shout.

emkana · 16/02/2007 22:34

I do this and hate myself for it.
Not all the time, but far more than i should.

BandofMothers · 16/02/2007 22:41

Hands up to that one too.
And dd1 is only 3. Trouble is , she talks like a 4/5 yr old and has for a long time, so I forget how young she really is.
Feel so guilty about it after. Made her cry once when I shouted cos it made her jump.
Am actually taking her to drs on Wed to get her hearing checked as am convinced that she actually cannot hear me sometimes.

ScoobyDooooo · 16/02/2007 22:44

I have been known to do this, i was very poorly the other day & ds was really playing up & not listening i asked him to put his shoes on about 20 times he just kept ignoring me so i shouted & shouted in the end i started bloody choking

sunnysideup · 16/02/2007 22:59

but why keep on asking when it's clearly not working? Why not try another strategy?

BandofMothers · 16/02/2007 23:05

I'm open to suggestions!!!

Sallyheartshapedstrawberry · 16/02/2007 23:06

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SherlockLGJ · 16/02/2007 23:07

I did it the other day for the first time.

It worked................until today... so ergo it did not work.

I won't be doing it again.

Pasta jars tomorrow.

pinkchampagne · 16/02/2007 23:08

I sometimes do this & hate myself for it too.

sunnysideup · 16/02/2007 23:10

well if it's something like shoes and your request has been ignored, why not challenge the child to a race, say you bet you can get yours on first....or say "oh, no wonder you don't want to put these shoes on, these shoes are for a boy who is going to get a treat from the shop when we're out", or say "quick! The tickle monster is looking for feet!! Hide your feet or it'll get you!"

Stuff like that has NEVER failed with me, anyway and there is usually more goofing and laughing in our house than shouting not trying to sound all sweetness and light, it isn't, but I just can't see WHY people persist in ASKING 50 times when it isn't working! Be creative! Think your way round it!

NuttyMuffins · 16/02/2007 23:12

I used to but no one listened so now I mutter what I was going to shout under my breath. The kids see me muttering and say 'what' and then when i have their attention, I calmley tell them what it was I wanted to say.

SherlockLGJ · 16/02/2007 23:12

Aw thanks for that SSU never thought of that.

I shout when every avenue has been explored.

pinkchampagne · 16/02/2007 23:13

I shout because I am a crap mother atm!

BandofMothers · 16/02/2007 23:14

This will sound crap, but sometimes I just don't have time. But it is a good idea.

NuttyMuffins · 16/02/2007 23:15

I'm sure you are not PC. Everyone shouts now and again, doesn't make you a crap mother.

BandofMothers · 16/02/2007 23:15

Bet you're no crapper than the next mum pink, wait the next mum was me!! What's up?
Just saw you in the shopping thread with pinkbubble? You seemed happy!!

pinkchampagne · 16/02/2007 23:19

I am happy talking to PB because she is my friend & she cheers me up!
Am feeling a bit of a crap mum & a bit crappy all round really!

pinkchampagne · 16/02/2007 23:20

Been shouting too much recently & I hate it.

pinkbubble · 16/02/2007 23:23

Dont mean to hijack the thread but you are selling youself short PC, your DC adore you esp when we are trying to shop for bloody lemon soup!!!

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