7 yr old boy upset on Valentines day. what would you have done?

[bouncy]

My son, has been with his school girlfriend for over a year now, and for valentines day he got her a little handmade card and a little token pressie, he was all excited to give it to her this morning, and she was pleased, but then this other lad inthe class came into school with a teddy half the size of him, another bag which had chocolates and other bits in, and gave it to my sons "girlfriend" I could see that my son was desperately trying not to get upset and putting on a brave face.

It broke my heart leaving him like that, so while I was out today, I picked up a little card and a small gift and left it at home for him.

Whilst talking to my friend, she said shuldn't have bothered and to not shield him from heart-ache etc etc, I thought he was far too young for this, and that we can have a talk later about it, I just wanted to get something to cheer him up.

What would you have done?

Thanks for replying.

My son did not actually get upset that someone else bought his girlfriend a pressie, he got upset that someone had bought his girlfriend lots and he had only got her a token gift, yes we talked about its not the amount its the thought. etc etc

he has lots of girls as friends, but this girl is the one that he likes most, and as he sits on her table at school and has done for the past 3 years they remain close. They hold hands on school trips and when they are paired up and walking down the street for a school trip, other wise they just run next to eat other and chat.

I shouldn't have worried though, as she gave him a lovely card that he proudly put on top of his telly.

I just like DumbledoresGirl had a b/f at that age and I remember being devastated when he moved to another school.

I fail to see it as anything other than innocent.

My ds also 7 has had the same "girlfriend" for 2 years now, they each have other friends of the opposite sex, but just like each other the best. They did cards for each other today, I think its sweet, totally innocent.

and kiss chase, now that brings back some happy memories its amazing how slow or fast I chose to run depending on who was chasing me lol, and also remember my very first boyfriend at that age.

my 7 yr old ds1 doesn't have anything to do with girls - won't even go to their parties ( whole class invitation type ones)

oati, my friends Ds doesn't like girls, and never invites them to his parties and if a girl invites him he wont go, and if a girl does go to a party he has been known to go home with his mum.

I think it's the word 'together' that sounds weird actually. I had a 'boyfriend' from being age 3 to about 7, was convinced we would get married, and we did used to kiss (albeit little pecks on the cheek...), I also remember being 'passionately' in love with someone called George in my class at age 8 or 9. But saying 'together' makes it sound a more adult relationship.

I don't think its a question of having boys or girls as friends though, is it, its how people are characterising that friendship. And saying that the only terminology for that friendship is boyfriend and girlfriend.

DS's best friend is probably a girl, who is a lovely, feisty, spirited little thing: she is very agile and an exceptionally good climber which they both love doing together. She is also quite bossy and apparently tends to "regulate" a bit which of the other children in the class can have access to DS and they probably do have quite an "exclusive" relationship. And in fact her parents came and introduced themselves at a school thing, saying "as we are doubtless going to end up as in-laws, we thought we should at least get to know you".

But to call them boyfriend and girlfriend and to be able to say how long they have been "together" for just staggers me.

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As you would say, arf.

I feel sorry for the little boy, in that his thoughtful little gift to his friend was totally overshadowed by another boy's mother getting ridiculously carried away.

I would have done exactly the same - I'd have bought him a present to cheer him up. He doesn't need to toughen up at aged 7, what a silly notion. You did the right thing Bouncy.

I had boyfriends from the age of 6, but I largely used to either ignore them or forget they were my boyfriends. It is no more sinister than kids playing Mummies and Daddies.