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Am I right to be angry at my dieting friend?

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paulaplumpbottom · 05/02/2007 14:12

over the summer a very close friend of mine had mentioned that every year on her birthday her grandmother had made her afternoon tea with all the trimmings and commented on how much missed doing it. Yesterday was her birthday so I was up at dawn making cakes, sandwiches, loaves and tarts from scratch. I got out all my best china and laid out my coffee table. It looked perfection and I was pleased with my hard work and thought she would be really suprised. When she got here she looked at it and said that she was on a diet and didn't touch a bite. She didn't even take a cup of tea. I am really angry and my feelings are hurt. Am I over reacting?

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lulumama · 05/02/2007 14:14

oh my goodness me

not even a cup of tea??

how sweet of you and how ungrateful of her !! blardy hell, she could have forgotten about the diet for a morning! and how many calories in a cup of tea ???????

well, you sound like you are a really kind and thoughtful friend, what a shame she didn;t react in a more positive manner!

tell you what, you can do it for my birthday, i'll eat it all !!

mummytosteven · 05/02/2007 14:15

No, how very rude of her.

Caligula · 05/02/2007 14:18

Well I'd be annoyed with her.

brimfull · 05/02/2007 14:24

what a selfish bitch!

morningpaper · 05/02/2007 14:25

Ahh Paula you sound like the best friend in the WORLD and she sounds absolutely appalling

I'm so sorry for you - you are so lovely!

wurlywurly · 05/02/2007 14:27

paula will u do that for me for my birthday (sod the diet, sounds fab!!)

footprints · 05/02/2007 14:27

That sounds unbelievably rude. Did she not even thank you for all your hard work???

itsmeNDP · 05/02/2007 14:29

What a sweet thing to do, and what a silly moo she was to dismiss it all.

Miaou · 05/02/2007 14:29

Totally, totally OOO. What a cow.

Not even drinking a cup of tea - that really is unbelievable!!!

Tortington · 05/02/2007 14:29

did you knwo she was ona diet?

FatFikAndFugly · 05/02/2007 14:31

what a lovely thing for you to do. Do you think she missed the relevence of it?

MrsBadger · 05/02/2007 14:32

I agree it's cross-making to go to so much effort and be knocked back so hard, but I wonder if she was just so surprised and upset about the memories of her grandma this brought back, and the diet was just an excuse...

wannaBeWhateverIWannaBe · 05/02/2007 14:37

I would be annoyed. Even if she was on a diet she could break it for one day surely? she clearly has no idea.

I think what you did was lovely.

my birthday is on the 17th, and my address is ....

edam · 05/02/2007 14:39

She was very rude. It's my birthday today, if you need someone to eat up the left overs?

dmo · 05/02/2007 14:44

oh my god
i'm on weigh watchers at mo but if my friend did that i would be so thrilled and ate the cake

poor you
you should have called us mumnetters over we would have helped clear up

Lazycow · 05/02/2007 14:50

Can I just add another view

Before I say anything I will say it was very lovely of you to do this for her BUT I am currently on a very strict diet where you don't eat any food (only food replacements). It is really working but if I break it at all and eat normal food I get really hungry and it takes about 3 days of being hungry to get back into it again.

If you had done this for me I'd have been really upset and tried to explain it to you but I wouldn't have eaten anything either. This is partly because I know that when I start eating sweet stuff I can't stop so 'sod the diet for one day' is just not an option for me right now. I would have had the tea though (without milk !!)

A couple of questions

1 Is your friend very overweight and is this something she has struggled with for a while with - if so she may ?

2 did she realise how much work you had put in and the reason for it?

It does sound like she was rude though as she didn't really explain to you what the issue was. To just say 'I'm on a diet in this instance is quite rude'

Original poster
paulaplumpbottom · 05/02/2007 16:29

You are all welcome at my house for tea at any time!!!!!!

She isn't overweight at all. I think she just wants to lose a few pounds which I think is great. I didn't know she was dieting. I know how hard dieting can be and I would never sabatoge someones diet.

Should I say something to her?

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motherinferior · 05/02/2007 16:37

Say breezily to her next time 'ah, I assume you're off the diet then ho ho ho ho ho' and watch her face fall. B*tch.

Hulababy · 05/02/2007 16:37

Very rude. She should have at least explained fully if it was some diet where she can't break at all - better still warn you in adavcne.

TBH I can't think of any valid reason for her to be so rude to her friend who had gone to a lot of effort. To not even have a cup of tea is bang out of order!

And I am on a diet, but if a friend did this I would be quick enough to break it, and return to my diet the next day. My friendship would be more importnat!

3andnomore · 05/02/2007 16:39

That is out of order, ungrateful cow....grrr, would have really ennoyed me, too!

2shoes · 05/02/2007 16:58

only read the op. what a rude cow.

McDreamy · 05/02/2007 17:00

awwww that's so rude, what a lovely friend you are....it's my borthday on the 19th and I am going to be on my own - I would love a tea party

colditz · 05/02/2007 17:02

She is a miserable bitch with no social skills, and you are a wonderful friend to have

VeniVidiVickiQV · 05/02/2007 17:05

Yes, you are. Can you come round to mind and make me an afternoon tea.

Low fat cakes though

Lazycow · 05/02/2007 17:12

Well if she isn't really very overweight I'd say she really was being rude and I'd be p*ed off too. She could have had tea and at least a small portion of cake or a sandwich or something.

I'm sorry all your effort was so rudely received. As you can see from here most people would have really appreciated it