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He won't stop crying............HELP!!

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busybee123 · 11/06/2004 08:15

My ds is 17 weeks old and every night about 1 a.m he wakes up and thats it.......no more sleep for me for the rest of the night!! he just won't stop crying. He wont take a dummy or a bottle and hates bring swaddled. I have even tried putting him in my bed last night purely as a last resort to get some sleep, but he didn't like that either. He usually exhausts himself and drops off eventually about 6 a.m by which time I have to get up with the other children. But this morning he is still going now.....he has had a bottle and some breaskfast as well....but he just keeps going.....I am at the end of my tether....had about 6 hours sleep in the past 4 nights. I feel like a jibbering wreck and a total faliure cos I can't pacify him no matter what I do. DH doesnt hear a thing and sleeps through it all. He knows what is going on though and says if i wake him he will help...but its like getting blood out of a stone waking him!! and even then he is in no fit state to do anything!! I don't like to disturb him as he has to go to work the next day, and he has a very hard job labouring so he needs his energy. I have mentioned it to the health visitor and she just says its a phase i have got to sit out. But I can't.....i have 2 other children to see to. I have got to get ds2 ready for nursery this afternoon but i have no energy to do anything. I just want to collapse in front of the telly with the kids and go to sleep!!!! [we need a bleary eyed, knackered expression!!] Can anyone suggest anything? PLEEEEEEEASE!?!?!?!?!

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busybee123 · 11/06/2004 13:41

albert, dd was diagnosed with asthma as well when she was 5 months old. cuppy, he is starting to wake up again now so i daresay he will be ready for round 2 any minute now!!! doctors say they cant fit me in til thursday......yeah right!! they close for lunch anyway, so when they open at 2 and he is awakes screaming then i will ring them again i think......i cant go on like this........

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champs · 11/06/2004 14:07

busy-- it is not on for gp to expect you to wait till thursday !! Is there an emergency system at your surgery? how about just going there when baby is crying and ask them to fit you in? It can be very upseting when baby cries for a long time, and frustrating too. You not having much sleep is a worry too as you have children to look after. Some gps and hv make me wonder where they got their training from.
Is there anyone near by to come and spend a couple of hrs with you? even if you dont want to leave baby with them, just having someone with you can help.

Not to sound too flipant, have you tried taking baby for walk in pushchair? sometimes movement can help ease babies. Also you can be out of the house so it doesnt feel like the walls are closing in.

champs · 11/06/2004 14:09

also, could he be ready to wean?

misdee · 11/06/2004 14:16

demand to see someone today.

can anyone find the number for crysis (is that what its called?) they may be able to give u some supprt, day or night if we're not about online to help.

it isnt too early for teething, dd2 cut hers thro at 16weeks. have u got any teething gel/powders? might be worth trying. hope u find something soon. and bug that doctor all afternoon if u have to!

aloha · 11/06/2004 14:18

Champs, it's not hunger. In her first post Busybee said he won't take a bottle at night when he wakes. I really, honstly don't think weaning would help at all, especially so very early.
12hours of crying in a 17week old really doesn't sound right to me. I agree, pop along to the surgery and wait to be seen as an emergency appt.

aloha · 11/06/2004 14:19

I also think you should give a painkiller. You can give baby Nurofen if you don't want to give Calpol.

Piffleoffagus · 11/06/2004 14:25

I'd def try calpol for at least one night, if it works then you know he's crying from a real reason, then can assume teething of go get his eyes nose and throat looked at...
Poor possum andppoor you!

doziduck · 11/06/2004 15:00

I aggree with everyone who said you should demand to see the doc, to put your mind at rest if nothing else. I did this with my son, the health visitor after hearing him down the phone came straight round but couldn't do much to help. Can't think of anything practical to suggest for you but you have my sympathy, ds1 was a bloody nightmare so i know how you feel. He will get better

Flip · 11/06/2004 15:10

Agree about standing in doctors with baby screaming. I've done it with ds2 when no one could tell me why he was having problems breathing. He screamed none stop for twenty minutes and by the time the doctor saw him he was in such a state he was admitted to hospital. You need some help busybee, be pushy and demand to see someone. I've even had to acost a doctor in the carpark at the surgery when the receptionist was a complete cow.

californiagirl · 11/06/2004 17:00

Trust me, it's not too early to be teething. We said that all last week. DD, 14 weeks yesterday, has 1 tooth with its whole edge through and one just one point through. Luckily, she chose to be inconsolable for 3 hours only once and it was a Sunday afternoon. Of course, if we'd believed she was teething we would have given her something for the pain.

At the least, tell the Dr. he can't keep calpol down and get something else.

champs · 11/06/2004 19:51

aloha-- ooopps thought he was over 4mths, and thought maybe he just didnt want the milk as that happened with ds2 i couldn't work out why he was crying as i had changed, checked temp, offered milk. happened a couple more days at the same time and it dawned on me to try some food and he ate it and went to sleep.

busy--- how r u now? is baby still crying? did you go to docs? will add to others that not too early for teething.
sorry if i made it worse by asking about food

cuppy · 11/06/2004 21:24

Hope things are better now Busy...??

aloha · 11/06/2004 21:28

Champs sorry if I sounded snappy
Busybee, how are you?

champs · 11/06/2004 22:31

aloha, no appologies needed!! wasn't offended, thought maybe I sounded insensitive so thought I'd explain my reasoning. anyway we mums are allowed to be snappy, it's our right dont you know

woodpops · 12/06/2004 19:39

My ds used to suffer quite badly with colic. While infacol helped to a certain extent he still used to wake about 3ish grizzling. Until I discovered Aston and Parsons homeopathic powders. They were fantastic apparently they're for teething children but my ds didn't have any teeth till he was 14 months. There was istant relief on his face when I gave him one. For some reason they calmed him down, we got peace and quiet and more importanlty SLEEP!! Give it a go.

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busybee123 · 14/06/2004 08:14

hello everyone.........i have not posted over the weekend as I was trying to catch up on sleep while DH had the kids! (mayhem doesnt even come close?!!?!) Well he finally settled on saturday night. But this morning he is unsettled again..........maybe its just me he has taken a dislike to??...........

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Flip · 14/06/2004 08:27

Have you taken him to the doctors?

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busybee123 · 14/06/2004 08:42

no not yet.....but if this carries on i will be down there this morning......he was fine over the weekend with DH. Like I said, its probably me!!

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Flip · 14/06/2004 08:50

Babies pick up on our emotions. If I'm having a bad day then it's often made worse by ds2 picking up on that and being really clingy. I tried the positive mental attitude no matter how crap I felt with ds2 and he's been a lot better. But lack of sleep will make anyone feel totally crap. Thinking of you.

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busybee123 · 14/06/2004 08:54

thanks flip

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champs · 16/06/2004 16:34

hi busy, how is baby now? how are you?

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busybee123 · 16/06/2004 16:41

hi champs...he is a lot better thank you. he still wakes up at 1am and has a bottle now, but goes back to sleep til 4. we have had the odd night where he still stays awake, but after tipping a glass of water on DH he gets up to help now!!! DS wants to get up at 4 then though so, its still hard going but at least i get SOME sleep SOMETIMES!! my other 2 slept through at 10-12 weeks!!

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busybee123 · 21/06/2004 09:05

ok...after a few reasonable nights, we are back to square one again. DS has gardly slept all weekend. I was having a row with DH at 5.30 am today...he was moaning cos I asked him to get up to the baby after I had been up all night with him. All he did was put him in bed with us and when he kept crying he was saying 'shut up will you...I have got to go to work soon...' Well I'm sorry but I have got to manage 3 kids and a house all day having had NO sleep whatsoever for 3 days!!! So much for help and support hey??? I feel like I am in this alone. He is great with the kids in the day but he is rubbish at getting up to them at night. Am I being selfish?

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busybee123 · 21/06/2004 10:09
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busybee123 · 21/06/2004 10:59

anyone???? im all out of ideas!!!

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