will they think i'm a desperate saddo?

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hi all,

i've just got back from trip to park with 2 littlest ones, they were playing, i got chatting to 2 mums (this never never ever happens in our local park- most days i try to avoid eye contact- you know the type of place). so today my kids start playing with their kids and we seem to have some kind of bond thing going on (they were, as my best friend would say "our type of people"!) so when they went i gave them my number and said did they want to meet next week at local play cafe?

now, my husband has told me off for this kind of behaviour before and reckons i come across as a desperate saddo, but i think sometimes you just click with people and if you dont make the effort then you may miss out on a really good friendship.... ON the other hand, they might think you're a complete lesbian psycho....

I would think how nice..wish I had done that

i think that is great!!

did they seem keen or run off screaming ??

think it depends on the place

if you were in brighton for instance i think other mums would think it quite normal
in oldham you would be avoided at all costs.

i think its much about the cultural tone of the area.

its noice you do that - some people especially mums are themselves very lonely and isolated and just want someone to chat with

lol at run off screaming

did you give them your mobile no.? i find this is easier as somehow its less stressful texting someone than phoning their house no.

ie folks tend to text you more that phone your house

ive found

I live in a small village and knew (still dont know) nobody with a baby near the age of my DS.
Aparently there was a lady that had a child and knew no-one and wanted to meet other new mums - she even gave her number via the HV to me. A few days later i bought a card with 'congrats on the birth of your DS' and said if she ever fancied a cuppa or chat just to call or pop in and left my details.)I have never heard from her 9 months on... perhaps i'm a saddo!

than phone your house

ive moved a lot (can you tell)

nip thats such a shame !

thats so funny- running off screaming!!!!! no they didnt really, though i guess we will find out if they turn up next week!
mmm, the area, thats a funny one. well we live in Exeter which is gorge- but we live 'on the wrong side of the river'- you know where people have 3 heads and smell of rotten sardines and still wear velour trackies thinking its trendy. (hope havent offended anyone there!))). not us though obviuously!

Yeah i know! Not sure why she did that, but hey - ho, DS is now 9 months and things have become easier... and i'm back to work! Perhaps one day we'll meet up outside the school and can get on then!

I think that's great. What's the old saying? Strangers are just friends who you haven't yet met... Good on you!

or shun her completely.... not that you'd be bitter or anything

oooooh!! you see, that;s the sort of thing i do! but then i am a psycho saddo !!

absolutely, no such things as strangers, only friends you haven't met yet !

and if people don;t respond to the hand of friendship, it is their loss, not a reflection on you !

I think you're right Custardo, I've moved from Oldham to near St Albans and know people's reaction in each place would be v. different!

I think thats great. The mommys at the park I go to see eachother most days. We always sit and chat. We know eachother's children's names. We do not know eachothers names because we have now known eachother for so long that its too weird to ask. We all get on well and I wish one of these days one of us would get up the nerve to do the same. Well done you.

Surely it's a lot less "sad" than the meet-ups that us lot have, having "met" in a virtual community!

When FioFio and I first met in RL, at a playcentre, I idly told an interested by-stander that we had met on the net... Fio was horrified .. the person was a school aquaintance and she was convinced that rumours would be rife that "Fio'sDD'sMum" has lesbian meetups with the strange women off the net"..

[disclaimer: neither Fio or I are gay... well Fio may be but I don't know about it]

Were there rumors in the end?

ppb, then the time will drag on and on and you either have asked their names and forgotten or just never asked at all, and its kind of a bit too late to ask names by that stage. ds1 is in year 3 at school and still havent the foggiest what the mums names are, despite talking to them almost twice daily! i'm sure they may have said their names but i'm just crap at rmemmbering. wish people had to wear name badges, like it was the law or something.

It is silly isn't it? I am always worried I'll run into them and be in the position of having to introduce them.

No that I know of Paula.. .. but then my DS doesn't go to Fio's DD's school

youd just have to make a bit of a joke about it, you know 'ha jha how silly we are, we've never even asked each others names' or you could try the old 'do yoi know for some reason i've completely forgotten your name"- that would deffo work for me cos more often than not i find it hard assigning the correct names to my kids

Well I think it was nice of you. I would do it too except I have yet to encounter any mothers at our local playground who speak English!!

All seem to be Eastern European, African, Asian..... I'm in East London!!

How lovely to have such a multicultural playground!!!!!!!!! All the kids look just like my daughter at mine.

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You lost your what Fio??? Why have you brought your boobs into this??

(have you seen my "housing" thread.. can't email you.. no address book as only have lap top at moment)