will they think i'm a desperate saddo?

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hi all,

i've just got back from trip to park with 2 littlest ones, they were playing, i got chatting to 2 mums (this never never ever happens in our local park- most days i try to avoid eye contact- you know the type of place). so today my kids start playing with their kids and we seem to have some kind of bond thing going on (they were, as my best friend would say "our type of people"!) so when they went i gave them my number and said did they want to meet next week at local play cafe?

now, my husband has told me off for this kind of behaviour before and reckons i come across as a desperate saddo, but i think sometimes you just click with people and if you dont make the effort then you may miss out on a really good friendship.... ON the other hand, they might think you're a complete lesbian psycho....

i think she was just talking to me!!!!!

k it is a lovely thing to do. and i would love to do it. but am too shy. so everyone please give me your number if you meet me in rl and like me

am not a mad lesbian stalker either

will you be wearing a red carnation?

I don't think they'd think you were sad, a bit eager perhaps, but only because good friendships tend to be organic don't they, not instantaneous.

I do think it's a nice thing to do.

Pitty i've always fancied a mad lesbian stalker.

IveLostMyBoobs, LOL, of course she was, silly me! I was starting to consider the lesbian-stalker option then, what with Fio bandying her boobs about in an irrelevent way..

Another thing; men don't understand the relationships (casual aquaintance/best friend type) that women have with each other.. their relationships with each other are nothing like ours. They don't think or communicate in the same way or want/expect the same thing as us from their friendships (have read enough books on men/women to know this for sure) so don't take any notice of what DH says! Hope it all works out.

Good for you. Course you're not a saddo, its a great way of making new friends for your kids.

thanks shiny, and if it looks like they have misinterpreted my genuine friendliness for wanton lesbianism and thats what they were hoping for, i'll send them your way !

to anybody- do your kids have friends simply because you like their mummies? mine do! my boys both have AS and are rubbish socially (bless!) so i get to pick their friends....

some of the ones theyve picked out for themselves have left quite a lot to be desired frankly

Well it's nowhere near "next week" yet is it? So dont start 'flattering yourself' about their lezza-assumptions yet! And if their anything like most young mums, they probably won't even be thnking about arranging anything until Wednesday of next week is almost upon them!

well, i AM gorgeous...ha ha ha!!!! and i hope they dont leave it til weds, meant to be meeting them on tues.
got to bloody go to hospital now to take ds2 for blood test. no idea what for. but they have summoned us so we are going. guess will find out when i get there. ta ra for now.

Some and some really. The child DD considers her best friend is my best friend's DD.. but that was always going to happen as we spend so much time together and help each other out with childcare. Whether the friendship carries on in this manner remains to be seen (they are unlikely to attend the same school ever unless they both end up at the local grammar (high hopes!). DD has her own school friends that are nothing to do with my preferences. DS1 (14) has all 'his own' friends these days.. but I like them all (and their families that I know of).

DS2 is a different matter; he too has SN and it's difficult/impossible for him to make his own social arrangements although having said that he loves everybody so he's not fussed!

No, don't think it is sad or lesbian behaviour at all. I am now good friends with a woman I met in the park. It did take about a year (after seeing each other in the park 3 times previously and it wasn't a park I go to often) before SHE asked me for my name and no.

She wanted me to sign a petition and I agreed, but I thought it was a good way of handling it by her. I had wanted to ask for her no., but was worried I was being a bit hasty, so gald she did it first ! I think meeting mums can be a bit like a first date sort of thing, but "if you don't ask, you don't get" and it may become a wasted opportunity

I am moving home and in my new area I will defo. be making an effort to meet mums/dads more quickly. I think I have been a bit slow in the past.

crikey, just went downstairs from gassing on here and found dd and ds2 (2yr and nearly 4 yr) sat half naked in lounge surrounded by a million opened choc coin wrappers, with very very dirty faces. oh dear, what a shit mother i am!
fear i may be getting obsessed with mn.

(I think the lesbian inferences were said sort of jokingly Rose.. and re. Fio's comments when we first met up..)

(Not suggesting anything derogatory about being gay obviously.. this thread is just mentions the possibility of people getting the wrong idea I think)

It happens ILMBBH. It's normal.

Those of us who actually are lesbians might take offence. We make friends too, you know

and lesbians can hae stalkers too y' know

Charliegal, that was why I said that.. there was no offence intended. People of both genders and any sexual persuasion presumably have and make friends in all kinds of ways.. I'veLostMyBoobs was 'worried' that the women might think she was a 'mad pscycho' or whatever (tongue in cheek) and I added that when I first met an Mner, she jokingly suggested that the person who I told that we met on the net, might think we were having a lesbian liason.

Don't be insulted. It's just a convo about imagined 'wrong ideas' people might have.. but usually don't!

didn't mean to cause offence to lesbians sorry or stalkers (JOKE!)

i would be happy if anyone offered me their number in the park. i will be the one in the red carnation

sorry again

Sheesh, there will be so many of us drifting about with red carnations, desperate for some adult company, that we'll all be meeting the wrong people.. , altho I doubt that it matters!

Eh, sorry, didn't think any lesbians gays or straights were going to be offended. I was just relating my comment re. OP's "lesbian psycho" -

I thought ivel was being funny (funny as in ha...ha..ha.. not funny weird by the way !!)and I was trying to be funny back, obviously it all back fired

Yes, lesbians, gays, straights, bi-sexuals all others make very good friends, I thought that was an obvious point to make.

I'm curious Charliegirl, if as a lesbian it makes you more cautious about doing things like asking for numbers in case people get the wrong idea?

I have a friend who took a long time to ask for numbers and things and I have always wondered if this is why as she is very outgoing.

why? is she a lesbian? anyway, how have we got onto this?!!!!!! am getting worried there may be 'virtual fisticuffs' in a minute