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very serious question, think hard, its v important

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nailpolish · 14/12/2006 09:56

woudl you rather

live near your family and friends, have a nice house but have to work a crappy (not necessarily badly paid) job and your dh has to work a crappy job too, which has longer hours, so you hardly see him
OR

live further away from family and friends, say 2 hrs away, have an ok house, decent area, but you both have jobs you enjoy, and better hours

pick one

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Zog · 14/12/2006 09:56

Live further away, definitely.

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nailpolish · 14/12/2006 09:57

does it basically come down to would you rather have a nice house or a nice job

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purplemonkeydasheranddancer · 14/12/2006 09:57

further away
easy.

sandcastlesforanaussiexmas · 14/12/2006 09:57

second one. I think enjoying your job is quite important, otherwise you'd be miserable at home.

A nice house isn't everthing!

Zog · 14/12/2006 09:59

Yes you'd be near your friends/family with Option A but you'd be miserable, worn out and wouldn't have time to see them.

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nailpolish · 14/12/2006 09:59

yes i agree

day to day life is important and thats about 99% down to your job isnt it

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expatinscotland · 14/12/2006 10:00

have non-crappy jobs. crappy jobs SUCK.

yomellamoHelly · 14/12/2006 10:00

Live further away too. Can always make new friends and visit old ones. If you've got kids too I would say the extra time with them is the most important consideration.

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nailpolish · 14/12/2006 10:01

they do dont they expat, esp if you are away 13 hrs a day 5 days a wk

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ChristmasCaroligula · 14/12/2006 10:01

Further away.

Family and friends move around anyway.

MerrilyTooBuzzi · 14/12/2006 10:01

2 hours is nothing - further away

colditz · 14/12/2006 10:01

Do you have a car? If yes, live further away.

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nailpolish · 14/12/2006 10:02

yes we have a car

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TinsellyRhino · 14/12/2006 10:02

further away definitely

corrina28 · 14/12/2006 10:02

live further away and have jobs that you both enjoy, you can always travel to go see friends and family and they can come and see you.

moondog · 14/12/2006 10:02

Further away deffo.
Being happy in your job is vital NP.

Two hours isn't so far.
You could easily see them a couple of times a month.

(Still struggling with this one eh?)

moondog · 14/12/2006 10:03

It must be crucifying your dh.
Poor bloke.
He moved to make you happy didn't he?
He sounds like a real treasure.

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nailpolish · 14/12/2006 10:03

its doing my ficking head in MD

dh has been told his job is being downgraded, he cant find a new job here unless it is shite and i find a shite job too

he can get a job in edinburgh easy tho, so can i

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compo · 14/12/2006 10:04

definitely the second option. If you're lucky enough to have a job you enjoy definitely stick with it

bundle · 14/12/2006 10:05

2nd one, 2 hours away is nothing

moondog · 14/12/2006 10:05

Your priority must be to yuor immediate family (ie girls and dh) not to parents and siblings.

It's not good for any of you if you are not spending quality time (Gah,hate that phrase but ykwim) together.

As you know.

compo · 14/12/2006 10:05

ooh would love to live in Edinburgh....

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nailpolish · 14/12/2006 10:06

i would mvoe back to edinburgh tomorrow, the girls wil be at school soon, its dh who is reluctant saying i would miss my mum and friends, he loves the house more than me!

i just want dh to stop this commute, its been 20 mths now

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expatinscotland · 14/12/2006 10:06

Two hours is NOTHING. I'm thousands of miles away.

Gem13 · 14/12/2006 10:07

Definitely second option. Crappy jobs and not seeing DH v. family (can call them, visit them, have them to stay) and friends (likewise and make new ones) = no contest.

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