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Really not meaning to be judgemental but suspect that despite my best efforts I am

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Miaou · 09/12/2006 18:09

The dds have a friend to stay overnight. She is lovely, she has visited a lot before, though not since we moved house a couple of months ago. I know she has been really excited about coming and we have had several aborted attempts at getting them together.

Anyway - she came with a carrier bag full of overnight stuff, and a carrier bag full of sweets! No exaggeration, there must have been about £10 worth of stuff in there. I met the mum halfway because of the distance and by the time we got back to the house they had had strawberry laces, a milky way and fruit pastilles. Since being here the girl has eaten two Kinder Buenos and shared another pack of pastilles and some butterscotch sweets. I think there may have been more too. And she has still got a box of maltesers left!

She is lovely, and very generous - has shared all these with my dds. And for them, it is only a one-off, so I don't mind them having so much sugar (though I daresay I will be scraping them off the walls before bedtime ). But I can't help but wonder about the state of her health. She is a naturally skinny person but is developing a fat tum, and has several fillings, and only likes fatty, sugary processed food, which I know is what she gets at home.

Well I guess I have answered my own question - it's none of my business really! But she is nice and I hate to think that she is going to turn into a fat, pasty teenager

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JesusWasReallyWelsh · 09/12/2006 18:10

It's awful Miaou, I know children like that aswell

Breaks my heart

moondog · 09/12/2006 18:12

I know women like that.
(Who are you JWRW? Boris?!)

JesusWasReallyWelsh · 09/12/2006 18:12

Of course MD

Glitterygookwithchocsonthetree · 09/12/2006 18:13

if that's what she gets all the time.

Mine went for a sleepover the other week and I sent a fudge for each of them and that's more than enough for a treat.

Pruni · 09/12/2006 18:14

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moondog · 09/12/2006 18:15

I've just been to a birthday party.
Packed with women with enormous arses pushing plates of cakes,biscuits and sweets into the faces of kids who DIDN'T BLOODY WANT THEM.

Twas hellish.

Glitterygookwithchocsonthetree · 09/12/2006 18:15

Yeah, I agree, I suppose not so bad if it's a big, major, one off treat. Although I still wouldn't send that amount of stuff, I must admit.

mustrunmorenakedthroughthesnow · 09/12/2006 18:16

We know a 5yr old who has just had 7 baby teeth taken out, rotten through. Eats nothing but sweets and choc morning to night. Looked peaky at home after the extractions, so his Mum offered him a glass of coke to cheer him up

moondog · 09/12/2006 18:16

I used to have midnight feasts in boarding school though.
They were ace.
We would go to where all the trunks were kept in the cellar (aka 'the dragon hole') and stuff and stuff and stuff.

Burnt it all off though as no central heating and compulsory lacrosse every bloody half hour.

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Miaou · 09/12/2006 18:20

Pruni, I should have made that clear in my first post - she eats like this all the time. We used to live just down the road from her and she would get a couple of quidsworth of sweets every day after school. Every time she came for tea she would bring two or three packets of sweets. And she doesn't eat anything healthy - it was over a year before she would even try our homemade bread!!

Her mum is lovely too. But it is definitely part of the culture here (Scotland). I'm in the very small minority of mums who don't buy sweets for the children to eat as they come out of school

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Judy1234 · 09/12/2006 18:20

I don't know what these mothers are thinking when the child turns up with a massive bag of haribou sweets when they come to play. They are basiclaly sticking a notice on their forehead "I am a bad mother and I want to prove it to the world" or else they're as thick as a plank.

WonderCod · 09/12/2006 18:23

we always take percy pigs to my sisters.

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Miaou · 09/12/2006 18:23

Absolutely not true of either the child or the mother in this case, Xenia. As I say, it's a deeply ingrained cultural thing where I live. It's certainly not as simple as saying the mothers are "thick"

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Miaou · 09/12/2006 18:24

percy pigs? What are they?

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WonderCod · 09/12/2006 18:24

yes marks and aspencer ones
ro fizzzy fish
yum

Glitterygookwithchocsonthetree · 09/12/2006 18:25

OMG Love percy pigs adn fizzy fish!!!

WonderCod · 09/12/2006 18:25

oink

edam · 09/12/2006 18:26

No, Xenia, they are providing their child with a treat. I take ice lollies round when ds and I visit my best friend and her kids in the summer. No different, really. And I don't think it makes me a bad mother - anyone who would leap to the conclusion is barking, IMO. Should be bloody grateful they haven't got anything more serious to worry about.

Pinotmum · 09/12/2006 18:26

I think some mums are in a kind of denial about the health issues. They like seeing their children happy and as you say she shares and is a lovely girl. No mum would set out to rot her child's teeth and guts unless she was a bit cuckoo. Dh is Scottish and I know what you mean about it being cultural in a way.

shepherdswatchedtheirfLOCKETS · 09/12/2006 18:27

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WonderCod · 09/12/2006 18:27

yes i dont hihnk its the end of the world

Jimjams2 · 09/12/2006 18:32

I like percy pigs- I encourage ds2 to get them,

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Miaou · 09/12/2006 18:33

Honestly, I have absolutely no problem with kids eating sweets! Far from it. It's just the quantity and the possible long-term effects on her health that bother me.

As I said, it's really none of my business, but I can't help but care.

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Socci · 09/12/2006 18:35

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JesusWasReallyWelsh · 09/12/2006 18:35

No harm in you caring Miaou, and if you know that she makes a habit out of eating so much sugar and junk, then it is worrying.

My cousin and her cronies all take sweets to the school gates aswell. Kind of like a status symbol, how many freddo bars you can give your child before 3.30