are we going to annoy other parents if dh goes to dd1 xmas show?

[misdee]

he has never been to one of her family assesemblies or xmas shows whilst she has been at school as he has always been too ill. this year he is well, but is connected to the LVAD, which ticks all the time, quite loudly. He will need to be seated on the end of aisle, and will havwe to be the last in/first out due to the crowding etc.

should he go? will other parents get annoyed?

And do go armed with donor leaflets!

Sod em if they do ! He has every right to be there to support your dd, but how nice of you to worry. Doubtless his machine will be drowned out by the whirr of cameras, videos, coughing, crying etc !

good one stockings.... go for it misdee

He should go. Of course he should.

If I'm brutally honest, I think I might look a bit if I saw one. I'd try not to, but I'd be interested - sorry

But I wouldn't be irritated or annoyed.

Think of her little face when she sees him there.

It will be noisy with small siblings too. Really don't worry. I'm sure we have walked passed each other may times without realsing who we are!

Oh God yes. Dd made so much noise last year I was mortified. She would certainly have drowned out any machine noise.

good point about small siblings. wont be taking dd2+3 though as they get over excited and may step on wires etc.

Donor leaflets on chairs and BHF donations would be brilliant!!!

shit a brick, if they kick up a fuss tell them that you are both LVAD fetishists! and that this is how you get your rocks off!

FFS it is christmas, if they don't like it, fuck 'em. What next, kicking Tiny Tim's crutch when he lisps 'Gawd bless us ever one!'????

lol.

i am just very aware of how much it annoys us but then we go have it with us 24houres a day.

will you be able to hear it over the whiring of all those cam corders???

misdee- of course you should go.. dd will be so proud. If you are both really conscious of the noise, you could ask to watch the dress rehearsal and then non-one can moan. I'm sure the school would oblige. But don't not go because of what other people might think.

of course he should go. Let them know first so that he gets a good seat
did that with dd and she got one in the front row,

Definitely go!
It'll be lovely for all of you.
No-one else will get annoyed.
(And if they do, they're not worth bothering about.)

Just clear it with the headteacher first who I'm sure will agree then there can't be any trouble over it. Are small children allowed in? At ours the youngest ones are taken off to a creche provided by the school so the performance isn't disrupted but if it's more of a free for all it would be easier. Also does the school do an official DVD recording of it that they sell which it might interefere with and can it be sound proofed the device for teh day, sort of wrapped in blankets and plastic so the ticking isn't heard?

Speak to the school and get the seats you require reserved and the stuff anyone who stares-and yes,great idea about donor leaflets-maybe get the school to put one on every chair prior.

As for the ticking-I would rather have a constant ticking than screaming kids any day

I agree with the bollocks to everyone he has as much rightto be there as they do!
Ask the teacher about handing out leaflets too(or putting them on seats)it may make people more aware of whats happening and bring it closer to home.

cant wrap it up, it needs constant air flow and needs to be kept at a steady temperature, its an electrical device after all.

will speak top teach and head tomorrow.

I'm not saying you shouldn't go but if you are going to feel uncomforatable could you ask to go to the dress rehersal ? At the dcs school you are asked to go to the dress rehersal if you are taking younger siblings and I guess it is less crowded. I would hope the other parents would be more understanding than you expect, so I think you should go to the main performance if thats what you want, but not is it will cause you more stress.

I don't think that you even need to 'clear' it with the staff per se - you are perfectly entitled to say that you are both coming and there are some special requirements which really boil down to not much more than reserved seating to allow you to come in last and leave first. I would be deeply saddened as a parent if another parent felt unable to come to their child's performance and would bend over backwards to make it happen. Fingers crossed for you that it's all terribly straightforward.

yues, what i say speak to the teracher i mean to sort out seating. they are doing 2 shows, the afternoon one will have siblings etc, and the one ion tne evening the following day will be grown ups only. it wil lbe safer to go to the evening one tbh.

Last school thing we went to (in fact every school show) there was a kid allowed to cry scream runn abot and kick chairs, drowned out every word from the stage. If people put up with that then I think DH will be just a minor distraction.

spoke to dd teahcer today, she is reserving two seats on the end at the left for me and dh. says she will move anyone who sits on them apart from us. there should be a plug nearby as well.