Ok, neighbour lives about 6 doors up. Her h walked out on her & 2 kids. Still around a lot taking kids to footie etc. He gives her money. Think she works part time
She rings me up this pm, says she's been stressing about whether she should ring me & difficult to ask etc etc, but the money her h has given her this month not enough, got bills to pay etc - can I lend her £100??!!! I am crap & saying no. Am also crap at hiding feeling so sure I sounded dubious on phone but sort of agreed to try and get to bank tomorrow.
Think is, I've had problems retrieving (much smaller) amounts from her in past, we're not best pals,in fact not seen her for ages, as she doesn't venture out in cold weather. But our kids are mates & go to school together. I feel bad she's having shit time with h, and feel bad for her kids, but also think she must know a million people better than me to ask, and I am a brooder, and I know it will bother me to lend it as I had problems getting money back before, but I think this is down to her 'charmingly forgetful' nature rather than dliberatley avoinding.
But ifI lend it, what happens if she doesn't pay me back? And hristmas is on way?
Basically, I don't want to do it, but how do I get out of it without causing problems with neighbourly relations?
Or am I being really tight to poor neighbour with bastard dh & I should do the right thing and lend it?
Why did she bloody have to ask me. It's not a tenner is it?