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How much is too much for a hen night?

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Codswallop · 29/04/2004 09:39

Ds2 god mother has emailed me to ask me if for her hen night I think that £180 is to much. This includes a night in a hotel, spa treatments (basic) and two meals.

whilst I think it is probably lovely I just cant justify that expense when the wedding itself will prob cost us 250 quid - hotels, clothes gift etc.

I replied that she should go ahead abut I couldnt go.
Ina nice way (!)

Did I do right. it think Idid. - help!

What heappened to a night at the boozer?

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Codswallop · 03/05/2004 08:14

do you know what I am quite offended now ad I suppose it serves me right.

as someone she considers on of her bestf irnds Iam wondering who excatly IS going ont his night out!

the other thing that irks me is the smug married aspect of it and d the fact that until a couple of years a go she hadnt a ha'penny to rub together.

no have e mailed back to say forget a substitute night out I really can cope without one at a ll

lol coeeee JJ

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Codswallop · 03/05/2004 14:09

am still cross

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Lisa78 · 03/05/2004 14:14

I think that really is a huge amount for a hen night Coddy, especially with the wedding costs as well
But would think she would have a quieter (cheaper ) night for a few very close friends as well - this one sounds like its going to be attended by her fiances circle???

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Codswallop · 03/05/2004 18:33

Have NOw found out htat two other friends of hers/ours arent going too!

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ks · 03/05/2004 19:04

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katierocket · 03/05/2004 19:05

it is a lot of money but I suppose it's all relative, I mean if everyone she is asking can afford that then I don't think it's too much.

and I don't think it's fair for her to arrange something else because you're not going. It is her hen night after all, if you don't want to go fine but seems a bit mean to expect her to change plans just for you.

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Codswallop · 04/05/2004 08:01

I knw you ar e right katie rocket " what Fun wihtout ME!!" LOl

No its all ok I supppose -

Ks you old goat Lol I dont like hennights really - cant believe you do either

could wave table cloth outside window!

Its nutsfield prioty - I thought "nutbush city Limits". I wonder if it will not all go to somthing low key in a few months actually - wedding not till next year

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hoxtonchick · 04/05/2004 08:22

Sore point, I've spent the weekend at a hen do (1st one I've been to) which cost me about 200 quid in all. It's not that we can't afford it, but I was hoping for hardcore luxury at that kind of price, not a grim canal boat in the rain. And a very cheesy stripper . And it was for 3 days, way too long. So I escaped early, thank god. And I'm already annoyed about the wedding as I've had to have special permission to take ds. Big grrrrr.

hoxtonchick · 04/05/2004 08:23

Oh, & it was my birthday on Saturday, even more of a reason to sulk.

katierocket · 04/05/2004 08:23

"special permission" hoxton? cripes that sounds a bit serious.

cods- I sound like a right witch don't I, I just think it's her night so kind of her call IFYKWIM

Beetroot · 04/05/2004 08:32

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katierocket · 04/05/2004 08:34

well yes beetroot but as I said, if everyone can afford it then maybe not unreasonable (I don't know whether they can or not). I'm kind of ambivalent about it actually but don't think it's fair to say "I don't want to go so she should just re-organise something cheaper" (or words to that effect)

LadyMuck · 04/05/2004 08:44

Have to say Cod, that my SIL organised some lengthy bash for her hen night which involved satying at a London hotel and ebing pampered as well as nights out. I bowed out as it all seemed a bit OTT (and I'd have to share a hotel room with my mother!), and I really only knew my SIL, so not that much fun. In the end it landed up as a night out at the Comedy Club (which I did get to). So you're right Coddy - it may well change. And if there are a number of people not able to go then it will proably end up being a bit bitty like Soupy's one - people just go to the bits they can.

We had a shortish engagement so simply no time to take a whole weekend out...

ks · 04/05/2004 08:59

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hoxtonchick · 04/05/2004 09:01

Yes, no kids allowed. I see another lengthy rant coming on....

Beetroot · 04/05/2004 09:06

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katierocket · 04/05/2004 09:25

but beetroot coddy said she could afford it but just doesn't want to spend that amount of money -fair enough.
for some of my friends (but definitely not me) that would be an acceptable amount of money - so you can't say it's selfish without knowing the circumstances. It does seem a bit over the top but there you go.

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Codswallop · 04/05/2004 11:12

yes I would lke to point out that she is the friend of the vegetarian compromise BBq thread remember that?

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ks · 04/05/2004 11:29

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JJ · 04/05/2004 12:01

Hee hee.. this is hilarious. I'm assuming it's a lot of eye-rolling and "poor poor me" as opposed to you actually feeling seriously aggrieved, Cod. Sometimes I miss out on the tone -- subtleties pass me by every time.

Just tried to find the veggie at a bbq thread (which I also recall was quite funny) but can't. Bah!

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Codswallop · 04/05/2004 12:02

no I cant either

yes it is slighlty foot stomping posturing anger

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JJ · 04/05/2004 12:02

I'm sure there a number of people who cringed at the "actually feeling seriously.." phrase as well as other ill-written bits.

You so need to get over it.

JJ · 04/05/2004 12:03

You need more waving of the hands.

Ok, I'm off to clean the garage -- but will check back later.

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Codswallop · 04/05/2004 12:07

no cant find it. am over it now bossy!- the miracle of sleep!

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kiwisbird · 04/05/2004 12:07

dh just signed up for boozy weekend stag do for £130 this includes paintball, clay pigeon shooting, go karts, accomodation etc
But still food and drink and petorl on top of that, it will easily top £250.00 at end of it..
thanks god its last mates wedding, just ours to go now..... it'll end up being cheaper than all the hen and stag parties we've been to!