am i wasting my time with so-called friend?

[hairymclary]

I've known this person for quite a while, we met through child-related things.
When we first met we seemed to really hit it off, chatted loads and met up 3-4 times a month with our kids.
Then after a while she stopped calling and didn't reply to texts very often. I thought maybe I had done something to upset her but she said not. Things stayed pretty low-key for a while though, we met up but pretty infrequently.
Anyway, a few months ago she had another baby. I got in touch and bought a present for the baby, and her, and her other child (not that the presents are really the point here) and tried to arrange to meet.
At first I got no replies to texts or phone calls but I just put that down to being busy with the new baby. I had a few replies to texts saying yes, she'd love to see me and ds but every time I suggested a place or time I got no reply.

So, am I wasting my time? I really like(d) this person, but right now I feel like she is taking the piss.

what would you do?

Im not really new to the area, I've lived in the town about 7 years now but all the other mums seem to have lived here all their lives and went to same schools so in their eyes i probably am. Plus alot of them have older children at the same school so they're already in their groups and know everyone and not really looking to make new friends.

And earlybird my friend who I seem to be losing touch with has always been really unreliable making arrangements then cancelling when something better comes up, what makes it harder is we have dds the same age who have been friends since babies so shes letting my dd down. Most of the time i dont tell dd till the last minute now cos I know what she's like but it doesnt always work out like that.

And i think her dd is now doing the same to my dd! We saw alot of each other over summer hols and when it was just the 2 of them they were great friends, my dd thinks the world of hers, but if one of her dds other friends were around (they go to different schools so different friends) my dd kinda got shunned. My friend told me her dd wanted to take my dd on a day out to an adventure park for her 6th birthday then few days before said actually no she wanted to take another friend instead. I was so glad i hadnt told my dd or she would have been gutted. Then at her party which my dd did go to she was pretty much ignored by lucy (sorry im sick of writing her dd and my dd all the time!). My dd is now approaching her 6th birthday and I've not actually said she cant invite lucy but im doing my best to encourage her just to invite friends from her school. I can just about cope with her mum dropping me when it suits her but I wont stand by and watch it to happen to my little girl!

Same here - been here years & years. But I didnt go to school with them and im not so & sos cousin or whatever.

I think its easy enough if you are pushy and confident but those of us who are a little more reserved do find it difficult.

It IS like being at school again and the same type of people seem to thrive in that environment.

regarding the adventure park....Pesha have just read the end of your post - im sorry this woman does not deserve to be your friend. Her daughter is obviously learning her thoughless & insensitive behaviour too...move on...

Next time she calls to arrange something say "well you usually change your mind so why do you call on a day when you are free and we will do something on the spur of the moment if I am free".

i meant "don't you call"...always happens the time you dont preview - LOL