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Stupid Things Non Parents have said to you

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Pennypocket · 10/04/2004 11:08

I know there is already a thread on this somewhere bt I can't find it so thought I would start another.

A 19 year old girl I sit near at work has just turned to me and another Mum and said the only reason why some newborn babies wake in the night is because they are not being fed properly in the day. I informed her when she decides to have kids she will be in for the shock of her life. I have never met anyone whos newborn didn't wake in the night - does that mean everyone I have met including myself is guilty of neglect??!!!!

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sandyballs · 13/04/2004 16:51

My so called "best friend" recently said to me
"Your children are a great advert for not having any, whenever I get broody I come round here and realise how much I love my life"!
I found that very upsetting, barely spoken to her since.

PotPourri · 13/04/2004 17:35

That's terible Sandy. I can't believe someone said that! Maybe it just came out wrong (have you seen the thread on how to stop yourself being broody - that's a giggle). You should tell her that it hurt your feelings. Alternatively you could think of something about her life that makes you soooo happy you have your loving kids. (miaow)

gingerbear · 13/04/2004 17:39

Would you like to come on a hen weekend in Barcelona????

Of course I would..........

kid · 13/04/2004 22:37

I hate hearing 'I love kids, couldn't eat a whole one though!' or another one I heard was from someone I hardly knew when she saw I was pregnant 2nd time round 'didn't yu learn from your mistake 1st time round' I love my kids and would have loads more, if someone else would do the pregnancy bit for me

littlemissbossy · 13/04/2004 22:52

Relay of recent conversation I had with non-parent who I used to work with:
"don't you get bored being at home with the kids?"
"no actually i'm so busy that the day flies by"
"so don't you get bored being at home with the kids?"
"no - i'm surprised i even had the time to go to work"
"so you don't get bored being at home with the kids then?"
this is from a woman who "can't imagine having children in the near future, I'd have to change the car and X (her h not a dh, he is womaniser!) would have to move his cd player" OMG who needs contraception with reasons like this?

Tommy · 13/04/2004 23:00

I had "Are you ever going back to work?" This from my SIL who does have a DS but has worked full time since he was 3m and seems to think that her darling brother (myDH!) works his socks off all day so I can just sit around all day and/or spend all his money (so true )

Chandra · 14/04/2004 01:02

MIL claims that DS's cousins were potty trained at 5m, but her mil was worse, she claimed her children were able to ask -with words- to be taken to the toilet at 8m. I hope his thing doesn't run in families

M2T · 14/04/2004 08:36

Best friend who lives a student-style life in the big city:

"Why don't you EVER come to visit me anymore, I'm having a party tonight and I'd love you to come."

"Coz I can't get the buggy up the 3 flights of stairs to your flat and I've noone to babysit."

"Can't you just FIND SOMEONE to babysit for him, purleeeeeeeease.... just for tonight??"

said in my head not out loud< "Oh YEAH, why didn't I think of that!! I wondered what that queue of babysitters were doing outside my house, I keep having to turn them away as I've no parties to go to!"

HMPH!

They just don't have a feckin clue....

oliveoil · 14/04/2004 09:23

I confess that when my friends had children before me, I remember thinking 'there is no way I am doing the distraction thing, MY children will do what I ask, when I ask, no messing about'.

Oh how I laugh at that now when I am saying 'look ***, lets go and see the doggy/cat/Fimbles/daddy/big lorry/do you want a biscuit PLEEEEASE'

toddlerbob · 14/04/2004 09:29

From a pregnant friend today "when do you stop feeling tired?"

hana · 14/04/2004 15:42

on dd( who is 2.6) 'Oh, she's walking really well now isn't she' ( was walking at 1) and the same couple
'Oh - she can talk a little now, can't she?' (a good talker from 2)

littlemissbossy · 14/04/2004 15:50

why is it that non-parents get your kids names wrong?
"and how's little Lewis then"
"his name's Joshua"
"oh yes, I knew it was something similar"

Frenchgirl · 14/04/2004 16:21

From FIL, every time he sees dd (4 and a half): does she do her nights yet? Grrrrrrrr (did them at about 5 months old, thank you)
But that's probably him being senile

2babies · 14/04/2004 16:23

When DD was 6 weeks old, I went to a wedding. A young woman sitting next to me at a wedding was surprised that people kept coming to me and saying: 'are you getting any sleep?' She asked me: 'doesn't your baby sleep all the time?' I said: 'yes' She said: so what's making you so tired?'
I didn't have the energy to answer her.

Easy · 14/04/2004 16:36

My ds is 4&1/2. A friend of mine who has never had children was VERY impressed last week cos ds could explain what caused a rainbow (When the sun shines and it's raining).

Is that so astounding?

Levanna · 15/04/2004 01:26

"Aw, she's just like a little person!"
(Urrrm, yes - obviously, she IS one, after all.)

and

"Wow, she looks just like you and your DH!"
(?!?! - can't think why she wouldn't!)

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