Do you say, "WE are pregnant" or "When WE were pregnant"?

[ghosty]

For some reason this really really bugs me. Why do people do it? Yes, my children are also DH's children ... but I was pregnant, not him - does he have the saggy skin, the c/s scar, the droopy boobs to show for it? No, he bleeding well doesn't!

I spent all day with someone today who kept saying, "When WE were pregnant" and by the end of the day I wanted to scream

It really isn't like me - I am usually pretty chilled about how other people do stuff .... sigh.

No it sounds stupid.

Even "we are having a baby sounds wrong". I am having ghe baby (well i wish I was but fingers crossed!!).

DH was v. helpful on the alcohol front last time - he drank my share too!!

No. Because "we" didn't have 200 stitches, or two haemorrhages, "we" were not butchered in theatre with no anaesthetic to remove a retained placenta, "we" did not have our nipples bitten virtually off, and "we" do not leak urine when "we" sneeze. It's bollocks. IMO.

Nope. I was pregnant. HE was the same size as normal, eating and drinking anything he wanted, and not seeing the new year in throwing up because the baby didn't like peppers...

I was pregnant.

He just looked it.

rofl intergalacticwalrus.

I am also irritated by this 'we' business - like the bloody Royal We or something.

dp goes into hysterics laughing whne he hears men saying this.... he doesn't even say we're having a baby, it's always 'Pink is/was pregnant' or 'i'm going to be a dad'

tbh, i uaually say 'we're having a baby' (NOT we're pregnant) but he feels even this is inaccurate as in his words 'my job is over, your the one that has to do the rest, i can't take credit for it'

pmsl at all this. fortuneatley (sp? why are my kids dyslexic??) DH has never been pg - can't imagine the fuss if he was

I don't understand

Ha! I cringe at all this "going through it all together" tosh. If my H had ever said that I'd be wondering why I was having a baby with such a wet blanket

nope - I was pregnant but dh and I were expecting a baby or having a baby next year.

oh so glad it's not just me
yes - we're having a baby, but I am pregnant thank you very much. 'we're pregnant' just makes me want to barf

intergalacticwalrus got there first on the 'he just looks it' gag though.

I'm not very good at 'we' fullstop really though - I realise I say 'I' much more than the average smug married

i cant stand the people who say 'we' are pg. i keep telling dh if he wants more after this one he'll have to come up with a way to have them himself, then we'll see whos complaining!!!

Ha ha Intergalacticwalrus. my DP also looked it - when I was about 5mo pregnant one friend said to me "you've just about caught up now!"

my dh heard a partner on the phone outside of delivery suite saying ' we are 5cm dilated now'

like to know where he was dilating!!!!!!!!!

I have had partners ask me how much dilated are we??

YUK YUKL YUK very puke making the ' we ' thing

Helen