Do you say, "WE are pregnant" or "When WE were pregnant"?

[ghosty]

For some reason this really really bugs me. Why do people do it? Yes, my children are also DH's children ... but I was pregnant, not him - does he have the saggy skin, the c/s scar, the droopy boobs to show for it? No, he bleeding well doesn't!

I spent all day with someone today who kept saying, "When WE were pregnant" and by the end of the day I wanted to scream

It really isn't like me - I am usually pretty chilled about how other people do stuff .... sigh.

the head on top of your neck you understand

snurk

The phrase makes me want to scream "DON'T BE SO WET!"

ew. Bad timing!

ROFL

cheers colditz .. need a laugh this morning after DS's cruel psychological mummy-torture

I've heard (from wet earnest dad in pressed jeans and fleece,whilst unpacking Tesco bags0
'Well we've been trying really hard for a baby for 18 months now..'

Gah! What am I even doing in the homes of such folk????

No chance, it is me who spends three months with my head down the loo, followed by six months of peeing every 5 mins and looking like a spotty beached whale. No way would I let a partner try to take any part of that!

Trying really hard with extra vigorous shags?? BARF.

When I was pregnant I didn't get emotional, have nausea or go off food/get funny cravings. Dd's father did all of that, so for him "We are pregnant" would have made sense.

i always said 'i' never 'we'. dh was never preg. he made me preg but never was preg.

No,
I am not Maggie Thatcher or the Queen.

when he has the morning sickness, indigestion, sciatica, constipation, piles and extreme discomfort never mind the carrying it, giving birth to it and feeding it, I will let him say "We are pregnant"

I'm all for men giving birth. I'm happy to massage his forehead and take photos of the baby coming out

lololol...I agree.....not taking anyhting away from my dh here, but if it's about being pregnant it was ME not US....but I suppose some blokes are extremely involved and all that...but I think my dh would cringe if I said something about our pg, lmao...can just imagine his face!

no

No I didn't - it sounds bloody stupid and is factually inaccurate!

I'm pregnant
Dp says to people
Piff is pregnant - or we're expecting a baby next year etc

Chronic sinusitis - and two sinus infections.

Acid reflux so bad I developed an oestophageal ulcer.

Oedema so bad my calves were like cricket bats and pitting w/DD1, and I still have carpel tunnel in my right wrist 9 months after DD2's arrival.

Sciatica.

Diarrhea.

Vomitting.

Forceps delivery.

Urinary incontinence.

A graze on my bits.

'We're' pregnant my ARSE!

LOL!

No I don't

I was pregnant

WE were expecting

It irritates me too!

No no no! BUT, I do think "We're having/expecting a baby" is a much nicer way of telling people. I remember tearing DH off a strip when he told some people first time round by saying "X is pregnant" - made it sound like he had nothing to do with it!

Absolutely not. And it really p* me off when dp tries to claim he is suffering because he has to put up with my suffering!!!!!!!!!

only thing I suffered from when I was pregnant was dd's father (which is why I married someone else in the end)

Do these same women say - we are having our period???

No. Why would I? Bit yucky and sentimental isn't it? Did DH get huge and emotional? No. Did DH get indigestion? No. Did he have to stop doing anything he did before? No. Did he got through labour? No.

I was pregnant. We became parents when DS#1 was born.

how crass