please can you help me dance again?

[Heathcliffscathy]

i love dancing.

i used to go clubbing at least once a week.

I used to choose partners based on dancing skills (this was as disastrous as it sounds and is the one bit of all this i do not miss at all).

then i met dh.

he doesn't like dancing.

i stopped going clubbing really (my fault not his).

also lots of my friends stopped to.

problem is, I REALLY miss it. I'd love to go dancing say once a month. Not to pull. No recreational drugs. Just dancing.

But I don't know where to go anymore.

I like breakbeat, electro, hiphop, rnb, drum and base, rare groove, indie, lots really.

But i have no desire to feel like a plum and be surrounded by gurning 16 year olds.

I'm 34, wearing quite well.

Do you think it's all over and I should reconcile myself to weddings only?

If not, does anyone know a good (not cheesey a la carwash) club night in london or within striking distance with an older crowd where i might like the music?

i know i'll get slated for this but i just miss it so much.

too not to. sorry.

Soph when you find it can I come too?

YES

!!!!!!

ballroom dancing love

oh am crapola at dancing btw but I do enjoy it and know how to have a ruddy good time

thanks twiglett

[sticks tongue out emoticon]

i hate four to the floor house and trancey stuff btw.

i'm not going to get any joy here am i?

i love dancing

dont do it enough either

dance at home, i do lots

have you considered doing ceroc?

its fun and suitable for all ages

think there's a website for it that lets you search your area .. used to go to one in Fulham at the Leopard Lounge .. its a bar obviously

I miss clubbing too. But when I moved to the UK, all the clubs seemed to have weird footwear rules (no trainers fgs) and I couldn't be bothered. No, I lie, we went out to a 70s club once. Not that tempting.

Saw lots of middle aged women dancing on Friday night.

With their dresses and matching shrugs, comfortable shoes and jackets. Just incase its cold. Sipping their vodka and lemonade

Bless

I know exactly how you feel. I'm no pro but I have always loved dancing - in any shape or form. I'm 34 and seem to be resigned to dancing around the kitchen with my kids at tea-time. Dh just not that bothered and would need a few pints in him before hitting dancefloor. But ofcourse where do you go to where you won't look out of place? Not enough weddings happening in our circle.

some ceroc venues in London

don't need a partner .. go with a mate and have a few drinks

Is looking out of place that grave a sin?

I mean, I wouldn't want to be in the middle of a whole "pulling" thing, I guess, but I don't really care what sort of place I'm dancing in. I just found UK clubs overly fussy about what you wore (from what I could find out) and really pricey.

I was used to Montreal clubs which were very varied and mellow, generally. Often very mixed clientele (sexual-orientation-wise) and hence less of an obvious "pulling" scene.

twiglett, i hear what you're saying but and i'm up for starting more formal dance classes too, but I MISS clubbing. i miss getting sweaty and dancing for four hours straight because the music is so good.

you need an all night rave! they're coming back apparently. i just dance around my living room on my own like a prat

Huh, there's a Ceroc place at the end of our road, pretty much. Whatever Ceroc is - looks like tea dances or something?

I saw a chill-out thing for families on Sunday mornings in a club, mentioned in the Guardian or something. Was West London.

Is salsa too cheesey? Or how about a really hardcore dancercise class, there must be a huge choice if you live close to London.
I used to love dancing at clubs too but felt old and hasbeen by the age of 21 . I get freaked out everytime I've ended up in a club the last few years, all those blokes squeezing your arse and coming on to you.

yes ceroc is cheesy .. but I like cheese

i sometimes work at a gym and they do really good exercises with really loud music that always looks fun

Hmmm, for me, dancing isn't about all doing the same thing at the same time together. It's about relaxing and having fun and enjoying the music.

I think you'll just have to not give a toss about what anyone else is thinking .. get a group of mates together and just GO

stop being a wuss

Anyone loving the Ballygowan ad with T-rex Cosmic dancer? Had to go to Limewire and download right away. If it doesn't inspire you to dance nothing will.