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Does your child have a birth mark?

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Spod · 29/03/2004 20:57

My dd has a red birth mark on her face...between her eyes and another on one eyelid. they are fading but have never really botherd me. Other people's reactions to it have surprised me though. some people dont want to mention it at all... many say things like 'what a shame' or ' you'll have to get that seen to' . Someone even offered to 'touch it up' and remove it from photographs!!! TBH i was quite grateful as it meant that my dd was recogisable and harder for someone to pinch in the hospital. Has anyone else had strange reactions to their baby's birth marks? and, for facial ones will you 'get it seen to'?

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Hulababy · 29/03/2004 20:59

DD just have one brown coloured birth mark but it is behind her knee on one leg. It is actually reducing in size as she gets a bit older. I actually have one in the same place!

stupidgirl · 29/03/2004 21:08

Ds has a strawberry birth mark just above his ear. It was obvious for quite a long time, until his hair grew over it. I was told by various people that it would go by age 2, or by 5. He still has it (age 5.5) but it is fading, and also not obvious as it is under his hair. Tbh, the fact that he had a cleft lip was a bit more of an issue! It never bothered me either, but some people do seem to be very upset by them. Sad really.

150percent · 29/03/2004 21:11

DS2 has a mark between his eyes and also at the back of his neck. I think it is called a "stork-beak" mark and is meant to fade in time - I was told about 12-18 months. At 10 months it is still noticeable, but doesn't bother me. I suppose I still have a slightly odd view of him, in that he is SO similar to DS1 in looks (even with the mark, dh has still picked out the wrong baby in a photo!). I guess I just assume that the mark will fade because DS1 hasn't got it - how illogical is that?!

WSM · 29/03/2004 21:16

DD has 'stork bites' (clusters of small red marks) on the back of her head and she had a few on her eyelids when she was first born. We were told that they'd fade by the time she hit 3 years old. The ones on her eyelids went when she was around a year old and she still has the ones on the back of her head but her hair (very fine and sparse) is just beginning to cover it.

With regards to obvious facial marks I would probably leave them, unless they were very large and dark. I do think that as a parent you do need to think about the potential bullying issues when they are older. I think I'd leave it and possibly do something about it if DD prompted me.

fairydust · 29/03/2004 21:17

DD has a birth mark at the back of her neck so does her two cousins and her Aunt.

roisin · 29/03/2004 22:12

DS2 has a small birthmark on his tummy, and a large one (c.2" diameter) on his bum. It's brown and hairy. Obviously it's not often seen, but people do comment on it when they do see it. (He's almost 5, and it won't go away). But apart from preventing a career as a porn star, I don't think it's a problem to him, and have never considered doing anything about it.

Benjaminsmummy · 30/03/2004 10:54

Benjamin has a strawberry birth mark on his forehead - occasionally people have asked if he scratched himself but's that's about it. I think it looks like a bindi (not sure how you spell it) and it means I always know it's him! I think his hair will probably cover it but I think it looks lovely anyway

LIZS · 30/03/2004 11:17

Both mine had strawberry marks at birth - ds on crown of his head (covered by hair and then faded) and dd inside mouth, now gone. They also each have a "cafe au lait" mark - ds on back of calf and dd on lower ribs, to one side. She also has a superficial mark on the white of her eye but no treatment advised until later on if at all. It was more obvious as a young baby, perhaps because more people looked harder at her, and did get commented upon but less so now she is older.

lydialemon · 30/03/2004 12:37

DS2 and DD both have 'mongolian blue spots'. Ds's are on his ankle, wrist and base of his spine/bum and DD has one on the back of her hand and essentially a blue bum. Our only real problem with them is that they look exactly like bruises.

We took DS2 to A&E when he was about 5 mths because he was dehydrated after a stomach bug, and we got the third degree about his 'severe bruising'. Nobody had heard of these marks, so they got a pediatrican down who confirmed they existed and I hadn't been mistreating him!

They're meant to have faded by 3, but no sign of them disappearing yet.

nutcracker · 30/03/2004 12:44

DD2 has a brown birth mark on her bum in exactly the same place as i have one

motherinferior · 30/03/2004 12:56

Dd2 has a charming comma shaped birth mark on one of her thighs. I anticipate it being as admired as the little mole on dd1's bottom

dinosaur · 30/03/2004 13:10

Slightly different, but my DS1 has two joined-together toes. I was only ever concerned about whether they would affect his walking/running etc, but my dad made a commment about "getting them fixed" when DS1 first came home from hospital.

prettycandles · 30/03/2004 14:06

DS was born with 'stork-bites' between his eyebrows and on the back of his neck, and a mongolian blue on his bum. The stork-bites faded within a couple of years (I don't remember exactly, but the ones on his neck were gone by 1yo, and on his face by 2yo) but they used to get very red when he cried, even after they had apparently disappeared. The blue is still visible, but is much faded. He also developed cafe-au-lait marks after being exposed to summer sunlight.

I used to worry a lot, not about the marks themselves because I knew and believed they would fade, but about whether he would develop a strawberry mark. I have one, which appeared when I was a few weeks old and grew very large indeed. It looked like I had had a very large over-ripe strawberry squashed onto the edge of my eye. It probably started shrinking and fading when I was 6 or so, and was virtually invisible by the time I was 16. Oddly enough, although I was often bullied at school, my birthmark was never the subject. I myself was never bothered by it, and nobody else seemed to be, either. I was often asked about it, usually by 'new' people who generally assumed that it was an injury. When I asked my mum how come they weren't bothered by my mark she said that they had decided that if they weren't bothered then no-one else would be. It seemed to work!

If my mum saw another mother with a baby with a strawberry mark, she used to embarass me by dragging me up to show how the mark would fade (she still does that! ) to reassure the mother. I didn't care for it then, but now that I'm a mother myself, I do it too!

strawbs · 13/09/2007 23:41

My little girl began to get her strawberry birthmark on her head when she was a few days old and within a few weeks it had grown to almost 2 inches in diameter and was raised into a bump, I never worried that much about it as my daughter wasnt concious of having it and i certainly wasnt going to make her concious of having it although other peoples reactions did surprise me especially my health visitor who was quite amazed that i wasnt going to let her get lazer treatment, why would i put a helpless little baby through all that pain when it will go away in its own time,The funniest remark i heard was a little girl who asked me does your little girl take it off going to bed.lol. A is now 3 and you can hardly notice her strawberry, she got quite worried one day when couldnt feel it anymore she said my strawberry is lost and started to cry now instead of having an aggresive red lump on her head she has a beautiful blond streak of hair coming through her strawberry.

hertsnessex · 13/09/2007 23:45

my boys have one each on the back of their necks - like 9 red dots - they are fading, and arent two big - my dh says they are like 'seals of approval' on exit!!!!

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Bewilderbeast · 13/09/2007 23:48

DS has one round the back of his head at the base of his hairline and one on his back. They are not hugely noticeable. I have at least 5, two of which are bad. I still, as an adult, get a load of grief about it. The worst thing I have been called was devil witch (in a multitude of languages) by a crowd in Tunis Medina. Dr's frequently say "oh you've had a bad fall"

jenisie · 25/11/2007 20:35

My son has a dark brown birthmark on his chin. He is seen by a plastic surgeon every couple of years to ensure that nothing untoward is developing. My son is 9 now but when he was a baby I received loads of totally insensitive comments from adults (other children never seemed to noitce it or were too polite to mention it). While I have only ever thought of him as a handsome chap other adults have been spectacularly cruel and insensitive. I still cannot understand what prompts comlete strangers to be so rude. I was almost always caught unawares by people's comments as to me he was simply my baby, so when people said "Aargh what's on his face" I always quickly searched his face for the dreadful thing that was attached to it and then I'd realise that they were only talking about his birthmark - most of the time I smiled and said "It's only a birthmark" but inside I wanted to cry and tell them not to be so bloody rude - it's ironic that I could never be as rude to them as they'd just been to my son. As he has grown up I find that people comment much less - in fact I can't remember the last time anyone mentioned it. He has had the occassional comment in school but he has explained to the other children that it's only a birthmark & he hasn't had any further grief. At the beginning of each school year he dreads the new intake because he knows that he will be stared at and qizzed but by the 2nd week of term that's generally over & done with. In the long term I am anxious about how he will cope when he goes to comp., but we will have to be aware and see what happens. His only option for removal is to have an op to cut the mark out and sew up the skin because the mark is the full thickness of his skin - so instead of a birthmark he would have a scar - ultimately that will be his own deceision when he is old enough to make his own mind up. I would be interested to hear other people's experiences.

tibsy · 25/11/2007 20:47

dd has a nevus under her chin and on her upper chest. its very red, and slightly raised in places.
i've had several people approach me to reassure me that their son/daughter had one, and 'it will go, i promise' (was that you prettycandles )..very sweet, but it really doesnt bother us. dd is just beautiful.

tibsy · 25/11/2007 20:48

jenisie - your son sounds lovely. what a shame that he has to go through that every new intake tho. people can be so insensitive sometimes

perpetualworrier · 25/11/2007 21:22

DS2 has a hairy raised mole about the size of 50p coin on his left cheek.

We have had it checked and are supposed to keep an eye on it for changes, but don't notice it form a cosmetic point of view.

He calls it his furry spot. So far other children have been curious, but not nasty and adults don't comment at all. DH says he's going to be such a good looking chap he will need this small imperfection to stop him being too full of himself

I have a similar one on the back of my wrist. My Dad handled it brilliantly when I was young. It was always called my beauty spot and I was quite proud of it.

3missyshohoho · 25/11/2007 21:28

DD2 - 8 months old - has one of the raised red birth marks on her tummy. It wasn't there when she was born but appeared like a scratch when she was about 6 weeks then transferred into a inch wide raised mark. Every now and again DD1 points to it and then look at her chest as if she should have one (she has just turned 2) !

PurplePillow · 25/11/2007 21:28

My dd had the "mongolian blue spot" on her bum when she was under 2 and hv said it was quite common in afrocaribbean kids!! not our gene pool (as far as i'm aware!)

She also has a pinkish butterfly on her thigh and another pinkish one on her groin, which i also developed since her birth in the same place

3missyshohoho · 25/11/2007 21:33

....bum birthmarks seem to be quite common! At least you can cover them up! lol!

Fanargadeb · 27/11/2007 10:47

my baby boy 6months has one on his back which is red but it looks like a finger mark like where u ve picked him and held to tight it bothered me at first i was worried whether the health visitor wud think i had done it, stupid really lol but it doesnt bother me now.

NoBiggy · 27/11/2007 10:54

DD2 has a strawberry birthmark on her side, about the size of a 2p. She's 15 months now, I don't think it's changed size but the middle seems to have faded.

When she was first born, DD1 would touch it and then see it the red had come off on her finger

We had a day at the beach in the spring, my aunt was there, she saw it and asked if I'd eaten many strawberries during pregnancy

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