A timely post one day after the celebration of American independence, which was actually the independence of one set of wealthy white men from another set of wealthy white men. The American wealthy white men managed to classify black men and women as not human but property for the purposes of the application of the Constitution and the Bill of Rights, while white women were chattel.
"We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal; that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable rights; that among these are life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness."
LOL.
It was only through the determined campaigns of abolitionists, suffragettes and civil rights movements that the word 'men' came eventually to be applied to women and black people and others who were not white.
I think it is abundantly clear that people only understand other people when they want to and that they make the effort because it is demonstrably in their own best interests to do so. I don't think there is necessarily altruism or empathy involved. I also think it is very often necessary to shout, march and demonstrate in order to make others hear and understand.
Further on the classification of white and black in the United States -- one drop of black blood (i.e. one single ancestor of sub Saharan African descent) meant classification as black. The reason for the 'one drop' rule was to reinforce white supremacy in the late 19th and early 20th century. Before then, arguments against the encoding of 'one drop' laws (and anti inter-racial marriage laws) focused on how appalling it would be for prominent families to have their pedigrees subjected to scrutiny, how shameful it would be to uncover that 'one drop'. Early marriage laws forbade the marriage of white women to non-white men, or sexual relationships between white women and non-white men. Segregation gathered momentum and the earlier scruples (such as they were) were cast aside in order to buttress the important general thrust of keeping black people in the role of second class citizens.
There is a long pattern of the privileged group assigning those who do not conform in every respect to the definition of that group to another group with lesser status. The pattern requires first and foremost the self definition of the privileged group, and the subsequent policing of that definition is extremely important. This pattern is obvious in privileged male treatment of gay men and of trans women. And the way to deal with it is not to open wide the doors marked 'women' and welcome all waifs and strays with tea and cake.
We are looking in the wrong direction a lot of the time as feminists. We do a heck of a lot of yakking amongst ourselves about exactly what is wrong and sometimes in all the millions of words we lose sight of who it is that needs to change. It's not us.