quick thread, anyone still up & online?

[Dixie]

anyone there just for a chat?

typo, sb34 I meant

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anyone about could do with a chat??? having a bad moment

oh i wish mumsnet had a live chat room for times like this....

Dixie I'm here if you still are. This is very slow today though.

history: had very recent split ith hubby if you didn't know, he walked out on me with my 2 kids (2 & 12 weeks old). well today he came to collect them for a visit...it was a bit narky...and the eldest was really crying for 'mummy to get in the car & come too". Then I return indoor to my empty house, all alone....its the 1st time & i feel so very sad

Oh Dixie - that must leave you feeling utterly, utterly wretched - bad enough to be left on your own without your children but to have to endure your son crying out for you like that is unbearable.
You have shown so much strength throughout this horrible time - you can and will get through it and things WILL get better. I have no experience of marriage break-up personally but being single for longer than average before meeting dh I had the dubious privilege of going through marriage break ups vicariously with 2 friends - as I was single they knew they could ring me up at any hour of the weekend and I'd turn up with a bottle of wine ( they tended to be house bound with children).
Both of those friends hit very very low ebbs - one of them - similarly to you was in hospital having her second baby when the husband left - an affair he'd started during the pregnancy.
Neither of them would have given me any credibilty if I'd said 8/9 years on they'd be as blissfully happy in new realtionships ( adn one new baby) yes I know that 8 years sounds a long time - it didn't take them 8 years to re-find happiness, that's just how long it is now since their break ups.
Hold on to the idea of a happy future and I hope you managed to get through this afternoon OK.
bayleaf

Is anyone up? I can't sleep for worrying.

My dad is really ill - had chemo/stem cell transplants 2 weeks ago, has zero immunity, in isolation in hospital, and has got fever/infections. Today my mum phoned to say he was having breathing difficulties and they were transferring him to intensive care. He did improve a bit during the day.

On top of this we have managed to get a nuisance caller - not necessarily malicious - sounds just like a confused old man. But he's phoned several times during the day, and 10 times since midnight! BT can bar his number from our phone, but it will take 24 hrs. In the meantime we've had to switch off our phone, and leave the answerphone on ... but I'm just left lying awake worrying in case my mum is phoning with bad news

I'm here, KMG, although I hope you've managed to get to sleep by now. I've nothing very useful to say, really, except to send you a big ((hug)) and that I hope your dad pulls through. Take care, Sue

Thanks Sue - we had 7 messages on ansafone from the nutter! But fortunately none from my mum.

Now trying to decide whether or not to take the kids out of school/nursery and go over there to be with them.

7??? Oh dear! I hope he's been barred by now.

Re going to see your parents; personally, I would. You may have read elsewhere on mumsnet about when my dad was ill and dying, and I was running round like a headless chicken, driving hundreds of miles a week. But I don't regret a single one of those journeys or the time spent seeing dad. You don't get a second chance at these things.

Do let us know how things progress and if you need to 'let it all out', you know where you'll find a whole bunch of sympathetic ears.

kmg1, I agree with suedonim. Yes, go visit your parents. My thoughts are with you and your family and I hope your father continues to improve. Within the last four months my dh had two intensive sessions of chemo and picked up aspergilosis pneumonia with the first (he's still on antibiotics for that) and sepsis with the second - - which landed him in intensive care for three days. He was in the hospital for three months but he is home now and doing pretty well. I'm not sure bringing the kids is a good idea if yout father's immunity is zilch. They may not be allowed in his room, etc. When my dh's immunity was gone, I restricted dd's visits to dh until it was safe for him to see her again.

Thanks all - I have come over - 6 hrs on 5 trains (4 changes), with my 4 yr-old , but all went smoothly.

I've never been in an ITU before, and was shocked to see my dad in such a place, but I'm glad I've come. Will stay a couple of days now.

Glee - dh is unwell, and very busy, so leaving both boys with him seemed unfair. So I've brought the little one with me, and left ds1 at home (he's school age). ds2 can't come into ITU, but my brother's here as well, and only 2 people allowed in at a time, so we can visit in shifts.

Kmg, just wishing you well and hoping that things are not too distressing for you.