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OMG what do I do now???

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yorkshirelass79 · 04/09/2006 13:04

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anorak · 04/09/2006 13:08

The fact that you still don't want to spoil her day even though she has treated you like this gives me some indication of which one of you is being truthful.

You have to be fair to yourself. If it's only days away I would go and see her and speak now. If you don't say anything her day may well be ruined anyway by the bad feeling.

hunkermunker · 04/09/2006 13:15

I'd tell her just before she walks up the aisle, but I get the red mist.

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yorkshirelass79 · 04/09/2006 13:16

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yorkshirelass79 · 04/09/2006 13:17

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hunkermunker · 04/09/2006 13:19

Actually what I'd do is be there for her on her "big day" but reevaluate how you feel about her afterwards when everything's calmed down. It may be that you drift apart naturally, it may be that you want to talk to her about it, it may be that she'll realise she was a huge monster before she got married and she'll apologise to you for being such a cow.

I wish people who ranted re their friends and relatives would realise that the web is public. Remember that often the mindless "you're nto being unreasonable, hun" type posters are just morons too

fairyfly · 04/09/2006 13:20

I wouldn't say anything, on message boards you unleash your bile and it is not a true indication of how you want a person to think you veiw them. I have posted things on here to get rid of angst and i would be mortified if people read it. it is your worst thoughts at the worst time, just so you can offload them.

I would bide my time if i were you, she how she is a month after her wedding, see if she calms down. You could even say, god you were a bitch in the run up to your wedding!!!!! she may even agree!!!

Let her moment, take it all on the chin, the best wedding gift you can give her is patience and kindness.

wakeupandsmellthecoffee · 04/09/2006 13:20

Why not post the website and we will all reply on your behalf saying nice things about you . LOL

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yorkshirelass79 · 04/09/2006 13:27

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Dior · 04/09/2006 13:31

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Dior · 04/09/2006 13:32

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yorkshirelass79 · 04/09/2006 13:40

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mazzystar · 04/09/2006 13:44

I'd go ahead and post your thread about helping bridezilla to keep her sense of perspective, in the hope that she might see it, as well as for the tips.

Dior · 04/09/2006 14:13

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yorkshirelass79 · 04/09/2006 17:01

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mummydoc · 04/09/2006 17:05

I would just grit your teeth and smile nicely thru the whole day, afterall you dd must be really excited about being a bridesmaid, be nice for her sake even if you feel furious with your friend.

thinkingaboutit · 04/09/2006 17:16

You poor thing! As someone who use to hang out on wedding websites (though mostly to laugh at how worked up people got about favours) I would advise you to ignore it. It is complusory on those sites to be a big airhead who comforts every bridezilla and makes her believe she has the right to be a big stroppy nobhead.

Forget it. have a nice day being a bridesmaid and snigger at all the wedding things that you think are hilarious.

LIZS · 04/09/2006 17:17

remember she is soudnbing off to a potentially biassed audience, those whose lives are similarly self centred atm and focussed on The Wedding, so the replies are hardly likely to be contradictory of her pov. I think you should discuss what actually happened if needs be and hwo she might prefer you to help her cope, rather than the website conversation. Sounds as if she is overwhelmed on several fronts, it's not just you, so try not to take it personally.

Pruni · 04/09/2006 17:35

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domestickler · 04/09/2006 17:39

I have suffered this posting on a public forum about your nearest and dearest!

Can you remember PeckaSisterGate?

I unleased frustration and anger to get it all out and sister ended up reading it.

Was awful and not really a "true" reflection on how I felt about it.

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yorkshirelass79 · 04/09/2006 17:47

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sugarfree · 04/09/2006 17:51

Oh,the bridezilla that wanted feathers thrown instead of confetti if I remember correctly?
I'm amazed that you've kept your patience this long tbh.

arfishymeau · 05/09/2006 00:35

Oh YL, sounds just like my best friend who was just the most awful bridezilla for 2 years. She was unbearable, along with being smugzilla about the fact that she was going to be married, unlike the rest of us poor tragic unwanted souls.

It was just awful. She calmed right down after the wedding (and actually has stopped being such a smug married 5 years down the line now it's clear that her husband is a complete tosser).

I think I'm going to go and find your site and post about how brides sometimes lose perspective and that she possibly is being unreasonable.

I'm half toying with the idea of getting married in a very simplistic, no rellies, beach in silk dress way, so feel I can comment honestly on her thread.

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yorkshirelass79 · 06/09/2006 09:55

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Blu · 06/09/2006 10:07

Please, someone HAS to link us to some wedding message boards...how do I find them?

domestickler · 06/09/2006 12:21

hitched.co.uk is a goodun

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