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Lets get Nutty a house (part 3) I should of known this would happen

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nutcracker · 25/03/2004 21:18

I've had a dreadful day today.
I phoned the H/A to check on things and was told thet the empty 4 bed still isn't classed as empty yet BUT when it is i won't get it because i am no longer top of the list .
Have to say, i was gobsmacked and asked the gril to repeat it several times. I then asked to speak to someone above her.
The other woman i spoke to said that they aren't allowed to tell me my position on the list. I explained that i had been told twice. First when i was top and now. She said that they shouldn't of told me and that she was not going to confirm or deny it, but then said i'mnear the top.
NEAR isn't top though

So thats it, done finished with, no house, no chance of one for god knows how long. I've finally come to the end. I can't get the council to rehouse me either and i can't be nominated either.
I am still slightly reeling from the realisation that the past two years i've spent ringing people, writing to people, moaning and crying has all been for nothing.
I really don't know what i'm supposed to do now. I really can not cope with 3 kids in a flat for the 6 weeks hols again, it will tip me over the edge.
As for me helping them to get my neighbour evicted, by giving eveidence and putting myself and my kids at risk, well they can P**S OFF

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nutcracker · 26/03/2004 16:52

Hang on, i do remember a Nicky.

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charliecat · 26/03/2004 16:53

Kent, Tunbridge Wells.

charliecat · 26/03/2004 16:54

I got the impression, Nicky might have not been a pp, but a real friend from before Kiddies but i could be wrong.

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nutcracker · 26/03/2004 16:54

Oh Kent, thats it, i knew i knew it.
I nearly applied for a 4 bed in Faversham in Kent.

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charliecat · 26/03/2004 16:55

Remember the thread

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nutcracker · 26/03/2004 16:55

I think Nicky is someone that she knew off the old estate she lived on. Don't think they are friends anymore, but i may be wrong.

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nutcracker · 26/03/2004 16:56

"remember the thread" ????????

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charliecat · 26/03/2004 16:56

Hmm, on off friendship i thought too, got told more about that but cant remember what was said now!

charliecat · 26/03/2004 16:58

Well surely knowing that Lucy finally got where she wanted to be gives you hope?? Could you not do what she did? She moved into that maisonette knowing it was going to get ripped down didnt she? It worked for her.

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nutcracker · 26/03/2004 17:01

Yeah but i don't know of anywhere thats going to be ripped down.
I don't think Lucy knew at first. She was sooooo pleased though when they said they were being demolished.
I was so pleased for her to, she deserved it.

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charliecat · 26/03/2004 17:01

I think she did know??? the thread about faversham i remember

charliecat · 26/03/2004 17:07

Are you ringing her to find out???!!!!

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nutcracker · 26/03/2004 17:12

No

I am dying to tell her who i've been talking to though.

Must go and feed ds now, and get dd dolled up for her easter disco

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charliecat · 26/03/2004 17:14

Ok, me too, guess whos phone will be ringing tonight, lovely to meet you see you around here i guess!

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nutcracker · 26/03/2004 17:58

Lovely to meet you too Small world

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charliecat · 26/03/2004 19:24

Very! Told her, she wasnt as shocked as me, oh she said, as if it was perfectly normal...oh well!

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nutcracker · 26/03/2004 20:30

Thats our Lucy, i've never known anyone as laid back as her.
She always manages to calm me down when i'm in a state about anything.

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nutcracker · 30/03/2004 11:50

O.k anyone got any more ideas of what i can do.
Dp keeps threateneing to go up to the offices of the H/A and have a word.
Sunday night i was particularly bad and got very upset in bed, was crying soo much i couldn't breath.
I just feel sooo exhausted by it all. I feels so bad that i haven't been able to get my kids their garden again.
I am so sick of living in limbo.
I feel like all the fight has gone out of me.

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nutcracker · 30/03/2004 12:18

My friend said that i should just try to forget about it for a while but i just can't do that. DD has now been accepted into reception for september, and i'd hate for her to start, settle in and then have to move schools.

Tried to work out last night if we could afford to pay 500 a month for a private rent but it would leave us no money for anything else.

Also found out that the Council are changing their lettings policy too. It was in the local paper (nice of them to tell me ). Everyone will be put in to bands. Hopefully i will be in the priority band as i have medical points, but i won't hold my breath.

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Sonnet · 30/03/2004 12:27

oh Nutty - I don't know what to say - your last post bought tears to my eyes imaging you so so upset and not being able to get your kids their garden.

I am going to rack my brains and post again later on.

What about the localpapers - empty houses lying around?
Would you move away from Brum? - whatever happened to the house in Kent?
sorry loads of questions....

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nutcracker · 30/03/2004 12:36

Sonnet - The house in Kent fell through. They rang and said that they didn't feel a 1st floor flat was suitable.
Also had a form for a 4 bed house in kent but noticed that the house was classed as hard to let and the info on the area wasn't nice either.

We have considered moving out of brum. We are on the list for Lichfield with the H/A. TBH there aren't many areas we haven't considered, but am not sure how i would cope being away from family and friends.
My mom tends to make me feel incredibly guilty if i even consider anywhere out of her reach.

I could try the papers but if i'm not top of the list anymore then i don't really have a leg to stand on.

I sometimes feel like people think i'm being much too picky and that if i was really desperate i'd accept anything. Maybe they are right.

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Sonnet · 30/03/2004 12:46

I dodn't think you are being picky at all - this is your family's life, it is not just the house but local schools which are just as important.

Just a thought: I know it can be difficult without family and friends BUT you will make new friends - and you don't need your Mum's guilt.
An off the wall idea if she does turn the guilt on to you: Does she fancy swapping houses with you - (is hers bigger and have garden)

am still pondering for ideas (in between getting on with some work) I'll be back!!

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nutcracker · 30/03/2004 13:00

Sonnet - Unfortunatly my mom lives in a one bed flat. Good idea though.

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nutcracker · 30/03/2004 13:39

Right i'm now on the list for Wheaton Aston too.
Have got to ring back tommorow to find out rate of lettings and how many houses there are e.t.c.
I told the girl on the phone that it's a little villiage so i probably have no chance and she said 'you never know'. I resisted the urge to say 'well with you lot thats true'.

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charliecat · 30/03/2004 13:45

Nutty, hello again, if your rent went up would you get anymore from the tax credits, could you look into it? I read in the borough news things here that in some circumstances you can get the deposit and rent in advance as a loan, then pay it back a little at a time on top of your usual rent. Anything like that where you are? Sending good thoughts to you!