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Is it to weird? Or should I tell them to keep out of it?

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PipBeckett · 08/03/2004 21:46

I'm trying to arrange ds2's baptism for in a few weeks time. Two of the godparents to be live in Canada and are flying to England totally out of the blue so I'm grabbing the opportunity while they are here.

The problem is that like most churches these days, ours doesn't have a full time vicar. He's shared between several churches and on the Sunday I want ds2 baptised he isn't available. Members of the congregation and elders of the church take it in turns to do services when he isn't there and currently there is no one down to do a service on this date.

My dad quite regularly takes the church service and when he doesn't, he leads the Sunday school. When I mentioned to my parents that the vicar wasn't available my dad asked what I thought about him doing it. I thought it was a lovely idea and would make things extra special but quite a few people have given me negative comments. My dh thinks it's a good idea and he says that what we think is all that matters.

Is it weird having your dad baptise your child or should I view it as special?

BTW the church is United Reform and there is an area in their guide which allows church members to take special services and baptisms.

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musica · 08/03/2004 21:48

My dh was baptised by his grandad who was a vicar, and that wasn't weird for him or his family. Depends I suppose on whether your dad feels able to do it.

PipBeckett · 08/03/2004 21:50

My dad is more than happy to do it. He loves taking the services and I know he'll make it special. I shouldn't let people get me down.

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ponygirl · 08/03/2004 21:52

I was baptised by my grandfather (he was a proper vicar) and I've always loved the fact. He also married my parents - mum was given away by her mum: also lovely in my book. Go for it, I think it's a lovely idea, and your dh is absolutely right: it's what you two think that matters.

womba1 · 08/03/2004 21:53

PipBeckett, I think having a family member carrying out a baptism is wondeful and incredibly special for all concerned.

I can't imagine what nagative comments you've received and so long as you, your dh and your Dad are happy with it, isn't that all that matters?

Hope you all have a smashing day regardless

Love Womba1

Janh · 08/03/2004 21:58

Who has made negative comments? It sounds like a lovely idea to me. If your dad is happy to do it and you are happy too then it should be lovely.

Tell them to stuff it! (Whoever they are. If they are family then don't invite them to the reception afterwards!)

miggy · 08/03/2004 21:59

I think its a lovely idea. Cant think of single negative thing about it.

miranda2 · 08/03/2004 22:01

Can't see a single problem. Should be lovely.
I'm baptising my niece in May!

sb34 · 08/03/2004 22:02

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Tommy · 08/03/2004 22:30

Sounds lovely! My Goddaughter was baptised by her Godfather!

suedonim · 08/03/2004 22:50

It's not at all weird, I think it's lovely! My sis was married by her vicar grandfather and ds1's Jewish ceremony was conducted in part by my DIL's Rabbi sister.

Also, a very good friend was married by her church minister father. The only down side was that she had to wait 2.5yrs to get married in order to be able to book both her dad and her chosen reception venue on the same day, lol!

Hope you have a wonderful day.

princesspeahead · 08/03/2004 22:50

sounds perfect! what could possibly be wierd about it? Codswallop's ds was just baptised by her dad, sounds like it was a lovely day.
And it will be special not just for you, but also for your dad, which is a great thing in your gift, if you like. Go for it!

misdee · 09/03/2004 07:40

i think it would make things extra special that day. your dad will be so happy, your ds2 will love the idea when he is older, and to me it seems WOW. its a lovely idea and makes me feel all mushy inside.

handlemecarefully · 09/03/2004 09:02

I think its very special PipBeckett.

I went to a wedding once where the vicar was the groom's father. It wasn't in the least bit wierd, just made the ceremony even more meaningful if anything.

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Hulababy · 09/03/2004 09:22

It sounds like a lovely thing for your dad to be able to do. It really is special. What better gift to his grandchild?

Marina · 09/03/2004 09:39

Let me guess, other members of the church making the negative comments? Aren't Christians adorable sometimes!
I think it would be lovely to have your dad baptise your ds, Pip...what a special way to welcome him into the church.
I think most people have views on whom they want to baptise their children...I couldn't help feeling a teeny, weeny bit sad when it was our "usual" parish priest who did dd, rather than our Curate, a wonderful NSM who baptised ds1 and conducted a very moving funeral for us too. But dd's baptism was still a perfect day in the end

susanmt · 09/03/2004 10:25

I would say go for it as well, it will make it even more special. If I was having my kids baptised then I would want someone special to be doing it, I think it sounds like a lovely idea.

mothernature · 09/03/2004 10:29

How sweet..I would say yes yes yes go for it, what a wonderful feeling it would be to know you were baptised by someone who loves you and will help you through out your life, it would be an extra special bond between them...

Thomcat · 09/03/2004 10:39

I think that's a wonderful thing and you're very lucky. How lovely.

WSM · 09/03/2004 10:44

I think it is a lovely idea Pip, also not sure what the negative comments could possibly be !

MadameBeetroot · 09/03/2004 10:45

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babster · 09/03/2004 11:28

It's a lovely idea (and I'm not even religious). Who better than someone who loves your child? I can't imagine why anyone would think otherwise!

MrsCodswallop · 09/03/2004 11:37

NO MY DAD DID ALL OF MINE

HE MARRIED ME TOO (!)

ITS GREAT BUT YOUR DAD WILL BE VERY NERVOUS

motherinferior · 09/03/2004 11:42

Speaking as an athiest...how lovely, please go for it!

MadameBeetroot · 09/03/2004 11:43

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