My mum died 5 years ago today.

[lou33]

And it hurts as much as it did then. Will it ever get easier? I just can't deal with today.

Lou, missed this yesterday but couldn't let it go without adding a few (((hugs))) of my own. You must miss her so much, I'm so sorry. I don't have any words of wisdom other than it's OK to be so sad, you're allowed. She must have been a pretty special Mum - 'cos you're lovely
Hope today is a weeny bit easier.
MM xx

lou, I know just how you feel about the phone. 4 years on from my mother's death I still get the impulse to pick up the phone and talk to her, then realise I can't do that any more, so I have a conversation with her in my head instead. She always used to phone me around 9.30 am each day and I still feel empty when the phone doesen't ring.

It has got easier for me, in a way, because I feel she has moved on. I have a very strong feeling about where she is now - not in heaven. I can't explain it, and if I did you would think I was mad. But I feel in my heart that she is happy and still with me, in a way.

I hope you the happy memories of your mother give you much comfort, but it's not easy to move forward, is it?

My dad died almost 17 years ago and I agree with Janh it does get easier. You will never ever forget how great they were but it truely does get easier, it just starts to hurt less. I hope that makes sense.

I'm not a religious person at all but the thing that makes it easier for me is knowing that although our boys never met Grandad he 'knows' all about them and looks after me and them, I suppose abit like a guardian angel. I love that thought.

I hope you're feeling better today.

Lots of love.

Lou, I missed this thread too. I am so sorry.

The best thing anyone ever told me about loss was 'you don't get over it, but you do get further away from it'. Good luck in your journey, sweetheartxxxxxxxxxxx

You're all so lovely, am now sobbing again! Thank you everyone.

Lou,

I hope you feel a smidgeon better today. Lots of well meaning hugs coming your way.

Hope u feel better today too.

Melsy xx

Hope today is better Lou. How lovely to be so loved and so sincerely mourned. What better tribute could any of us pay? And of course, she is alive in you and in your children.

Hugs and kisses to you xxx

So sorry for your loss, My mum 'left me' 15 years ago, I sympathise with your feelings right now, I buy my mum her favorite flowers and put them in my lounge next to her photograph, I love her and miss her so much....I'm sure you wil find away of celebrating her life... (((hugs)))

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hugs and kisses for you xxxxxxxxxxxxxx