OK.
Had a message from someone not on the therad to say there is a lot of upset caused by my leaving, and what I said. I have skim read some threads just now, and am v tired, so apologise for missing info / incoherency.
I decided to leave - for then, for as long as it felt right, maybe for good, for a few reasons. Spending too much time, but also the way i felt i was spending it.
I was concerned / upset / sometimes angry at the way some posters were getting treated. i am a fan of robust debate, don't atke stuff personally myself (much) and don't usually get into rows. But I kept seeing people's spats (feindly or hostile0 careering across threads and taking over threads of new and shaky people. Stuff that I thought was insensitive. Don't need to go over it and resurrect it!
I have been fed up about the tone of some threads, and the way context is (can be) ignored.
My reaction to the 'junk' thread was accumulative, and not all about moondog. Language is important. One day, some of us were pointing out to the Beeb that thier headline about death after bf-ing was inflammatory, the next we are being told (by some - some of the same posters) that Moondog's thread title was ok and it is basically the fault of the reader if they get upset. I am talking about the effect of words in the title, not the notion of linking the article or having a factual discussion about it.
I was incensed by your bringing up of the SN thread title, Greensleeves, because that seemed exactlly a case in point about double standards - one title is ok, one is not, you can decide Fios title was not ok, but that moondogs was completely different, and I was angry that you appeared to be defending a position you didn't even have much sympathy with in order to support moondog.
By the by. You are not the reason I decided to leave that night. It was the tone of Mn in general - some of the things that have been said on a thread started by MI. And I shouldn't have made presumptions about your relationship with special needs, my irritation was about what i perceived to be double standards in what was ok to post, and where you had apparantly decided that someone else was NOT alowed to post something v close to their heart, but moodog COULD post something that may be very close to trampling on someone else's heart. Not by posting the link, but by using words like 'peddle' and 'junk'.
For the rest, we'll see. MN has been brilliant for me, it si brilliant. But in truth I haven't enjoyed it as much recently because of things I intervened to say on threads at the time, or because of things which have been talked about generally this week. But charging off in a fit of fury isn't the best way to make it better, more suportive or more generally fun (for all) - i knw that.
I have come back because i am sorry that my exit has caused knock-on problems.
And just to clarify, I'm not talking as an SN member. My visits there about ds are specifically about containable issues, i don't live the life of Fio or Jimjams, not at all.
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