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Rhubarb · 23/02/2004 10:07

And I need a little feedback on it. Dh and I were having a discussion last night (nothing on the telly) and we decided that we are wasting our lives just stagnating here where we are. He could be doing the same job another 20 years from now, we're both fed up of living here and I crave a little bit more than the daily routine I have now. Since buying this house 3 years ago, prices have rocketed and it is now worth more than double what we paid for it. But this wouldn't make any difference to us if we sold up and bought another house in the same area. So our idea was.......to sell up, take the money and bugger off somewhere warm!

It's an idea that I've always cherished, I want adventure and I've never been happy with a mortgage, 2.5 children and a car in the driveway (not that we have a driveway!). Now dh is finally beginning to see my point. We have nothing holding us back here, dd hasn't started school yet and ds is just 11 weeks old. We'd be silly not to take this opportunity. Our mortgage is low, we could pay it off and have around 55 grand to do what we like with.

Our sketchy plans so far are to perhaps live somewhere very cheap (i.e. India) for 6 months or so, just to go somewhere completely different! And then perhaps rent somewhere in France and spend a year there looking around for business opportunities. We could just go straight to France, but it would be nice to have a little adventure first.

The only concerns are the effects this would have on our children. dd is 3.5 and ds is 11 weeks. I wouldn't like to put ds's health at risk, though I'm sure there must be loads of mums who have gone travelling with little babies in tow.

So what I'd like really is to hear from anyone who has done something similiar, or anyone whose childhood was similiar. And indeed, anyone who wants me tell me what a stupid/brilliant idea it is!

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bluestar · 24/02/2004 15:09

I think many people dream of doing this but most are too scared to actually make the jump so good luck to you. Maybe you could sell your house and buy something smaller which would be easier to rent out like a flat. At least this way you would still have a base if you did decide to come back to the UK and you could use the difference to fund your initial trip.

Rhubarb · 25/02/2004 10:31

I told my sister my plans last night (the sane one), I thought she would be excited for me, but she sounded really down. I think she feels that I'm abandoning her. She told me that she was thinking of applying to go to Preston Uni to do her nursing degree so that she could be closer to me. We've had family problems and her and I have always supported each other, now she probably thinks I'm leaving her in the midst of it all and I feel terrible

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Sonnet · 25/02/2004 10:40

Oh Rhubarb sorry to hear that...
FWIW: I still think that if it is what you want to do you should go for it - it is not as if you may be gone for ever. If all pans out and you end up living abroad your sister may come and join you.
I don't mean to sound harsh, sorry if I do - maybe you could sell the idea of free holidays to your sister while she is at Uni....

Rhubarb · 18/03/2004 16:18

We're now thinking of buying a second-hand camper van and travelling around France in that until we find somewhere to settle - it's all very exciting!

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Thomcat · 18/03/2004 16:31

Great idea nd I was going to do something very similar.

We had both decided that while Lottie was small that there was just nothing stopping us and got details of property in Ibiza and D started to get some work lined up.

Then reality started to creep in and I realised with Lottie's DS that it would be unfair on her as there's no way she'd get the same level of care and support in Ibiza. Also realised D would be DJing / doing music stuff all day and all night and we wouldn't see each other and I need my friends and family too much.

I think when you start to really put the wheels in motion as we did and nothing really jumps out at ypou and makes you panic about it all then you are doing the right thing.

Let us know how your thoughts / things proceed

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