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Does anyone who a stay at mum get REALLY bored?

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emmawill · 05/07/2006 15:02

I love my children to bits their 18 months and 5 months and I love being with them don't get me wrong but sometimes my life just seems totally about them and I get so bored of baby stuff. I just get so very bored on times not though that I would rather be anywhere else if that makes any sense.

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beckybrastraps · 05/07/2006 15:05

I'm afraid I did rather. After a year I needed something else. I started studying again. Open University, so done at home. Changed my life! I LOVE it, and I love being at home now as well.

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emmawill · 05/07/2006 15:11

I've been looking at different courses to try and find a career which will fit in with the children and dh but they all cost money and unfortunaley that's something we haven't got at the moment.

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TheLadyVanishes · 05/07/2006 15:15

actually at the moment i don't, probably because dd has started taking her first steps and she is so much fun to be with, we go out a fair bit and anytime at home is relaxing. Maybe a year down the line i might get itchy feet and want to go back to work who knows

beckybrastraps · 05/07/2006 15:15

I know. The money thing is hard. I pay monthly, and it's a real stretch. I also feel a bit bad that I'm using more of the family finances and not contributing at all. Fortunately dh thinks it's a great idea as I've talked about it for years, and I will be able to use the new qualification when I go back to work. He's done further study too, but fortnately his company paid for it. There's no way we could afford MBA fees!

fattiemumma · 05/07/2006 15:18

YEAP!

it sounds terrible i know, but i fi won the lottery i'd go back to work!

only part time but i just miss that adult conversation and the oppertunity to use my brain.
i love my kids dearly but i am sure theyw ould like a break from me jusa s much

beckybrastraps · 05/07/2006 15:19

I know what you mean TLV. Last friday I was walking through the market in the sun, dd with me ponting out all the things she could see, (finally talking after some speech problems), about to grab a coffee and a cake, and I thought I have a GREAT life!!

PrettyCandles · 05/07/2006 15:19

Not since I discovered Mumsnet.

No, seriously, it does get boring. What about council-run adult education classes? They often have creches and you can get grants if you need - though they're not expensive for what they are. I foudn them sanity-savers.

beckybrastraps · 05/07/2006 15:19

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emmawill · 05/07/2006 15:32

I've looked at council courses but there's nothing I really want to do, plus my dh might be changing his job soon therefore we will have to move and then I might have to stop any course I start. I did my MSC distance learning and I found that so hard and I was a chef worked spilt shifts so quite a lot of time to study and I had no children so I think your doing really well becky. I also with my two its so doing anything with the pair of them as guarnteed one will start that its probably my fault as I sometimes can't be bothered to go out. Oh dear maybe I should shift my lazyarse more!

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ScoobyDooooo · 05/07/2006 15:34

No i dont really get bored i always seem to be doing something & then when i do get some time (like now) i come on the net & see what is happening

Mercy · 05/07/2006 15:44

I've been an SAHM for five years and in the last 6 months or so I've been getting increasingly fed up with the sheer monotony of it all. Everyday it's the same old thing. Must stop before I start ranting!

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emmawill · 05/07/2006 16:25

Maybe I'm just having a bad day, but is like everyday is the same, I hate doing housework everyday and some days its like if its not one child screaming at me for something its the other and I can't do anything I want to do. I sometimes envy my DH going out to work at least he's himself at work, I'm just mum and wife

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Notquitesotiredmum · 05/07/2006 16:33

Totally sympathise. When I had ds1 I expected to be a sahm forever, sipping pimms in the garden, whilst a contented toddler played at my feet! When he was 12 months old, I was hammering on the doors of work, begging to be let back in!!! I only went back part-time, but it covered the cost of a nursery place for him and we both benefitted. He had new friends to play with and he became easier to entertain at home. His own toys and friends had a novelty to them, when we weren't seeing them every day. And I had a grown up conversation and a whole cup of tea occasionally. I would have loved to have loved being at home with my little ones all day, but had to accept that it just wasn't me. A part-time job was the answer for me. Good luck.

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emmawill · 05/07/2006 16:39

I don't think I could earn enough to cover 2 of the at nusery school. Yes I'm probably just having a bad day.

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nicnack2 · 05/07/2006 16:42

been a part time sahm for the last 3 years. ds1 3 and ds2 4 months. I have been bored, location, age i think.i started later than my contempories. Have a super childminder and this has helped as i feel that ds1 has 2.5 days of unadulterated days of play then the rest with me. We have made the decsion to reverse role and dh to be a part time sahd and i return full time. this happens week on monday.the boys will still attend childminder to alow dh to start business.

CarolinaMoose · 05/07/2006 16:44

yes. It's the constant demands (and I've only got one kid ) that are the hardest thing to deal with, it's ok when he's playing happily and obv lots of fun sometimes too.

I do a couple of voluntary things mostly from home which makes me feel like I've got a purpose outside my own four walls iyswim.

Wordsmith · 05/07/2006 16:47

Yes I do get bored. I work part time and on Wednesdays (I work Thurs and Fri) I am climbing the walls. I love my kids to bits but DS2 (2.3 yrs) is a right pain in the at the moment and part of me wishes he was at nursery full time! It sometimes feels like one long grind, esp. in this weather!

Mercy · 05/07/2006 16:57

emmawill, just had another look at your OP. No wonder you feel overwhelmed - they are very close in age!

Do you go out during the day on a regular basis?

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emmawill · 05/07/2006 20:25

No I've tried lots of different groups but its so diffcuilt keeping a eye on the both of them as dd who's 18 month is very shy of strangers and ds who is 5 months has very bad reflux so nobody else can really help unfortunaley. I don't really know any other mums in my area either.

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albosmum · 05/07/2006 20:39

You are not alone! - i too am bored but keep trying to make it less monotonous by trying different activities - but i think its a bit like paid work for the first year of the job you are learning , the second year you are doing the job and after that you are just doing the same things over and over again which means its time to change and get a new job

FloatingOnTheMed · 05/07/2006 20:44

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Surfermum · 05/07/2006 20:47

Yes, not bored with being with dd, playing with her and taking her places, I love that. It's all the constant cleaning, tidying up, washing, etc that gets to me. I work 13 hours and it's the break from the drugery that I need. That and getting plastered on mumsnet meet ups!

CADS · 05/07/2006 20:50

Was just chatting to a friend about this today, we have both been SAHM for 2.5 yrs and we both feel like you do. In our case, we need more adult company and to get out & about more.

FloatingOnTheMed · 05/07/2006 20:54

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emmawill · 05/07/2006 21:10

I think thats my problem I'm not really a mummysy mum either I sometimes find that at playgroups they can be full of earth mothers who only talk about how wonderful life is with their super intelligent wonderful child! (sorry I'm just jealous, I wished I was more of an earth mother type but its just not happening!)

I try to do a lot of arty things at home like this morning I trying finger painting but as soon as she was covered in paint my 5 month old started screaming had to see to him before I knew it, kitchen and dd covered in paint. I can only give her 100% of my attention when ds is either asleep or Dh is home.

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