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Fairly deep for this time of day but.. who are you??

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essbee · 28/06/2006 15:09

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Jimjamskeepingoffvaxthreads · 28/06/2006 15:13

stressed? I think that's my identity. I identify other people by jobs and kids/lack of/type of.

JessaJam · 28/06/2006 15:18

I was thinking about this the other day...and wondering if more women identify themselves by their relationships to others ( a Mum, a Wife/Partner etc) while men tend towards their jobs (a Lawyer, a Builder etc)

I think I think of myself as Dh's wife and Ds's mum and struggle when I try to think who I actually am....

expatinscotland · 28/06/2006 15:20

a woman

zippitippitoes · 28/06/2006 15:20

an eccentric

emsiewill · 28/06/2006 15:20

If I was asked to describe myself, I suppose I would say I am married with 2 kids first. Then I would talk about my job, then about my hobbies / interests. So I suppose I define myself by my family first of all...hmmm this is interesting...will think some more about it.

bluejelly · 28/06/2006 15:21

It depends where I am. At work and in social situations (eg at bars etc) I am definitely a journalist. In the playground and at children's parties i am definitely xxx's mum

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essbee · 28/06/2006 15:23

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Thomcat · 28/06/2006 15:26

Not sure how I see other people, depends how I meet them, through work, thought parenty type stuff, through going out to clubs etc, it really does depend.

I see myself as a young woman who has 2 graet kids, a job she enjoys and who still gets to party and have fun.

Ultimatley I still see me as me, not someone's mum, or wife (deffo not as someone's wife).

I see me as .
Can't explain it anymore than that really.

What sort of person am I? A positive, generally quite happy one who likes to be busy andf have fun.

trefusis · 28/06/2006 15:28

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Jimjamskeepingoffvaxthreads · 28/06/2006 15:32

Hmm will think more about this later. It's interesting. Recently I have been seeing myself as a misfit from the "normal" world- hence the reason that in our house "normal" families are usually referred to as "the neurotypicals." But I feel very much part of that other community. In which case I am defining myself by my relationship with ds1, despite having 2 other kids. Weird.

I don't define myself by work at all, but dh does because he was really pleased when I started my new work as he thinks it sounds good!!!

Jimjamskeepingoffvaxthreads · 28/06/2006 15:32

that other community being the disability community,

motherinferior · 28/06/2006 15:37

I define myself far too much in terms of my children.

FioFio · 28/06/2006 15:38

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Blackduck · 28/06/2006 15:40

I define myself far too much by the work I do....

southeastastra · 28/06/2006 15:40

fio that's eloquent!

Thomcat · 28/06/2006 15:41

I think you sound fab from all that Fio, just wanted to say that, not at all egotisical, not even slightly.

SoupDragon · 28/06/2006 15:43

I'm a swan. Drifting serenely, calmly and in control along the river whilst paddling like mad underneath.

Thomcat · 28/06/2006 15:45

LOL Soupie

SoupDragon · 28/06/2006 15:47

hehehe It's true though. I think I portray an image of being in control but at home, alone, I'm a shambles of disorganisation and frantic paddling.

Cappucino · 28/06/2006 15:59

if people make me laugh I like them

if they don't I don't

also if they don't laugh at my jokes

I'm thinking and thinking of something more worthy to say but I honestly think I'm that shallow

Mercy · 28/06/2006 16:01

Same as MotherInferior.

A while ago a mate of DH's that I hadn't spoken to for absolutely ages asked me how I was. I replied 'oh well, dd is doing xyz (or not), and ds is doing abc (or not)'. He stopped me and said 'No, how are you?' - I didn't have an answer tbh. There is no me!!! (a lot of the time)

Tortington · 28/06/2006 16:14

i've done this in too many training courses - but it always strikes me as rather odd that you feel guilty fro defining yourself partly as your job or roles - i dont see why not

i spend many hours being shouted at by residents and i define myself as person to be shouted at by residents person. i come home eat - i am fat person i sit at computer i am online interactive person.

yes its what i do and its what i am

should i use more descriptive words like
slighly odd
on the outside looking in
forgetful
imaginative
unimaginative

and somewhere in there i am mother nurse and frikkin dentist at this moment in time. - well in about an hour when emergency dentist is open.

everyone always struggles when the trainer takes away roles - and it all starts to sound like the arts section of the guardian.

i am ...unique
i am... thoughful
i am... pensive
i am....

yes yes so is everyone else.
i am fkin impatiant!

expatinscotland · 28/06/2006 16:16

i HATE those mother fucking training courses, custardo.

i always thought of them as a get out of jail pass.

until the speaker started talking . . .

i had to go to one on time management once.

'what's important to you? what do you value?'

um, money.

expatinscotland · 28/06/2006 16:17

i managed my time really well on that one, managed to sneak out at 4.30 and go do something i valued: get to happy hour early enough to grab a great table for my mates to join me.

Tortington · 28/06/2006 16:20

LOL expat - spot on!

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