Reports of Zombie's demise...

[IamtheZombie]

have been greatly exaggerated. She may be a wee bit battered and bruised, but she bends and doesn't break.

Most of you probably know her back story but, for those who don't, here's a very brief recap:

The last 2 1/2 years have been absolutely horrendous: family crises, a breast cancer diagnosis and 20 months of treatment for that, bereavements and sorting out her late MIL's estate. As you can imagine, she found it a struggle at times.

Just under a year ago, DZOH began an "inappropriate" on-line relationship with a woman he "met" playing scrabble on Facebook. At the time he was spending most of his time at his mum's house in Nottingham sorting things out and putting it on the market. The on-line relationship fairly quickly progressed to a full blown physical affair. The woman lives in Wales and he would pay her train fare to come to Nottingham to see him. Zombie was fully aware of everything that was going on and tried to do everything she could to save her marriage. He left Zombie in mid-February, first staying in Nottingham before moving in with her in mid-March. He continued to come back to DDS to take Zombie to her hospital treatments. In mid-May he started making reference to coming back to her. He finally did so in mid-August. Two weeks after he came back they went to Kos for a fortnight. Halfway through the holiday he told her that he was leaving as soon as they returned to the UK. Which he duly did on Friday, 13th September.

Zombie went through all the trauma, drama and devastation between October and August. That is behind her. She's relieved that that it is finally over. A few nights ago she realised that she was sitting here completely relaxed and smiling for no reason. It's as though an enormous weight has been lifted from her.

She's currently packing up his belongings, deciding what she needs to replace, etc. He will come with a man and a van in a few weeks time to remove everything. There are obviously other pracicalities to be sorted out but they are doing so in as amicable a manner as possible.

Can Zombie please ask those of you who are Facebook friends with her NOT to say anything publicly on there about any of this.

Onwards and upwards.

Bewitched that's the reason I don't take myself too seriously.IFYSWIM

Oh my goodness, I really didn't mean to devalue photography in any way, i hope you didn't think that.
I wish we were having this conversation face to face because I would be able to contradict what I said above.
And you wouldn't think I was a complete twat.

Hey no Bewitched I understand.I came to photography relatively 'late' and brought all my life experiences.It was something I never considered I would'do' .I do not think you are being a twat at all.It is so weird to discover that you can do something that you never ever considered.....

Oh good, thank you.

Lovely to discover that I imagine. Maybe you have other hidden talents.

Zombie had a wonderful back, neck & shoulder massage today. 30 minutes of sheer bliss. She still feels like a blob of jelly.

She also enquired and it's possible to get a full body aromatherapy massage at a good price. She knows what she's doing week after next.

Oh, and as she was 15 minutes early, she popped into the charity book shop just around the corner and found a copy of The Handknitters Handbook for £2.50.

A bit of spoiling, a good deed, a bargain and a nudge towards reviving a creative skill.
What a very excellent day Zombie and

Glad to see you back Zombie.
I thought you had name changed to blondeshavemorefun or some such name.
Good to see you back on the threads.

You Go Gurrls! Can I assure Bewitched that I am hoping for no discovery of a 'hidden skill' except perhaps to find sleep!

S'been a while Zomb, but even though I've been preoccupied elsewhere for time, had to jump on the thread to say your wit and generosity has always garnered you special fondness from me. Crappy times for you but unsurprisingly met with strength and grace.

I luffs knitting Zombie although it gives me terrible backache these days-I hope you have some good wool shops in your parish

It was indeed an excellent day, Bewitched.

Zombie will never name change, hangs. She's become extremely attached to this persona.

Sleep is good, sans.

Vivi!!! Thank you. Zombie has missed chatting with you. She hopes all is well with you. xxx

Zombie believes that there are, sans. She's got Shrewsbury, Telford, Ludlow, Bridgnorth and Much Wenlock all within (nearly) spitting distance.

Why don't you have a go at yarnbombing

I was being discreet! (for once) you live in an a location throbbing with artisan wool shops

Zombie gave up on discretion yonks ago, sans.

Oh, and throbbing sounds good...

Haha I was about to type thrumming but my RL persona typed throbbing Seriously I knitted people fingerless long mitten/sleeves last year as presents and other people asked me to make them..... very satisfying

sanssoleil Thrumming is very good for inducing sleep

I want to ask why you are without sun but I won't because I'm trying to be more discreet

Because I have no sleep Ggrrr I am VERY indiscreet! Bewitched Sans Soleil is one of my favourite films and I am from a land that has little daytime(!) you are now making me speak all hurdy gurdy Unfortunately a few days after this NC I was diagnosed with a severe Vit D deficiency and as for thrumming well....are you referring to a bit of nocturnal harp practise?

"nocturnal harp practise"

Zombie is boggled!!!

I suspected Bewitched was talking dutty! although true fact I can play a mean harpsichord-I am just not Laura Ashley enough for a harp glad the massage went well

Oi, you two started it with yer thrumming and throbbing!

I will be stealing "nocturnal harp practise"

I hope Zombie is having a nice lie-in after such over excitement.

Sorry about your vit.D problem sans, that must be difficult to rectify and quite common in a land with little daytime. I don't think Donavan will be much help.

I hadn't heard of that movie, I think it would put me to sleep after about ten minutes.
Oh, maybe that's why you like it?

Zombie slept very well and didn't emerge until slightly after 9.00. She's just finishing her 2nd cup of coffee and will then head upstairs to shower and dress.

Hello Zombie, have only just seen this thread despite its longevity.

So sorry to read of all your more recent dramas, I knew about the cancer and bereavement issues but not about your OH's defection, return and re-defection - what an arse! I am glad that you have made peace with the situation though and have your cats and a newly spacious home in which to relax!

Glad you had a good massage - and I had a thought about your hip pain, have you been checked for bursitis? And if so, have they suggested a cortisone shot into the hip bursa? Sounds awful but a friend of mine has had this done and it worked pretty well the first time (less so after that as she has become allergic to the cortisone, sadly!) so I thought I would mention it in case no one else has. :)

Sansoleil - do you take vit D3 supplements? I have been vit D deficient but have been supplementing since I discovered it, 2 years ago (in Australia, as well, but I don't go out in the sun much, it's too feckin hot!). I have been checked a few times since, and apart from when I was a few months pg and it had dropped (baby was stealing it), it's been in normal range since. I take 3000 IU per day (4000 at the moment because I've had bronchitis again but will drop back to 3000 soon).