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Judge me, abuse me just tell me what you think

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WelshBoris · 14/06/2006 10:56

My X-P is messing me about with CSA, he has got his exwife to make a claim therefore reducing my daughters payments

But the child in question is not his. He met her when the child was 6 weeks old and added his name to the birth certificate

So Im seeking legal advice to demand a DNA test as his ex wife is making a fradulent claim to the CSA

His step son wouldnt lose out as he already pays money towards him

Go on then tell me Im a heartless bitch all over what works out at £12 a week Grin

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Piffle · 14/06/2006 10:57

If he is on the birth cert willingly you're out of luck.
Leave it damn the money be a bigger person. it will make you bitter...
Hugs xx

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WelshBoris · 14/06/2006 10:59

It is only damn money, but he has decided now to stop seeing her. Again

The least he can do is pay for her, we both wanted her

Sad
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serenity · 14/06/2006 10:59

No, it's the principle of the thing. If he's prepared to drag his ex in over £12 a week, then I'd be prepared to fight back. If she gets in trouble, well then she shouldn't have got involved and shouldn't have made a fraudulent claim.

Caligula · 14/06/2006 11:00

Sorry, I can't run to judging or abusing you. Not sure if it will do you any good, but it will cause him a lot of trouble and my heart isn't bleeding for him. You may find though, that even if the test comes back negative, as the child is deemed a child of the family, it will make no difference to your maintenance payments.

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WelshBoris · 14/06/2006 11:08

He does pay for him though that wasnt going to change

She is doing it to be spiteful Angry

And yes it is the principle, my daughter doesnt even know who her father is, she called my friend Dad last week Sad

We both wanted her, if he doesnt love her the least he can do is provide for her

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Caligula · 14/06/2006 11:11

I've got a bit confused now. His ex wife is making a fraudulent claim to the CSA? He has 2 ex wives (you and the other)? Plus one current parnter? Gets around a bit, don't he?

FioFio · 14/06/2006 11:14

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WelshBoris · 14/06/2006 11:16

Caligia- sorry its not ever clear. He has one exwife she has a son who isnt his biological son but he calls him his own

There are no other children involved only my daughter, who his is

He is not the biological father, so yes it is a fraudulent claim

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Piffle · 14/06/2006 11:18

Welsh Boris if he is on the birth cert as far as CSA goes its not fraud
Only the parents can order a DNA test in this country or a court in cases where people deny paternity.

I agree what they are doing might seem bastard behaviour though. But if he is in all but blood the boys father...

BonyM · 14/06/2006 11:19

But if he is on the birth certificate, doesn't that mean he has parental responsibility, and therefore the claim is not fraudulent?

Caligula · 14/06/2006 11:19

Why has he chosen to support his other ex wife's son but not your dd? I could understand (if not approve of) that decision if he still lived with her (so many men appear to believe that support for children should only be given where they live with those children) but if he doesn't live with her either, what's with this? I can understand her motivation, but not his.

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WelshBoris · 14/06/2006 11:22

He doesnt want to pay full whack towards DD

We split up, hes bitter blames me for the fact he has a massive mortgage to pay on his own

And no I dont understand either why he chooses to provide for someone elses son and not his own daughter

Sad

Piffle if thats the case, then I wont take it any further, but it sucks. He chooses to use my daughter in his games and he has won again

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spacedonkey · 14/06/2006 11:22

Agree with caligula, it's odd that he's supporting one child and not the other, particularly as the one he is supporting isn't biologically his. Very hurtful for you WB, on your dd's behalf :(

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WelshBoris · 14/06/2006 11:23

He does love the other child as his own

Probably the reason Im so pissed off at all this

he loves him but not my DD

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Piffle · 14/06/2006 11:25

CSA should though apportion any awards equally so get on the blower to make sure your claim is sorted properly too.

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Piffle · 14/06/2006 11:25

in that repsect WB he is a total wankpot and no mistake

spacedonkey · 14/06/2006 11:25

Agreed, I can't see why the CSA would make him pay more for the boy than for your dd

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Piffle · 14/06/2006 11:28

He knows exactly what he is doing, it shows him up for the tosser that he is.
He knows it is hurting you, so stop letting him know WB, give him up as a bad job, dd will be fine, honest :)

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WelshBoris · 14/06/2006 11:28

He is doing it to hurt me, she is too young to understand yet

It is split up 20% 10% to my DD and 10% to his son

If she hadnt claimed my DD would have 15% and he would have kept paying the same amount he has always paid to his son

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spacedonkey · 14/06/2006 11:29

What a bastard :(

No wonder you're angry WB

emmawill · 14/06/2006 11:32

Unfortunaley its the children who are going to be the ones who get hurt here. Would £12 make that much difference to you? It won't make him love your dd anymore I know your're hurting but isn't it better just to have nothing more to do with him. Its not the other childs fault but demanding a dna test is just going to hurt the other child in the long run isn't it? I would be really angry too but is it really worth it? Would it make you feel better, truely?