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My X-P is messing me about with CSA, he has got his exwife to make a claim therefore reducing my daughters payments

But the child in question is not his. He met her when the child was 6 weeks old and added his name to the birth certificate

So Im seeking legal advice to demand a DNA test as his ex wife is making a fradulent claim to the CSA

His step son wouldnt lose out as he already pays money towards him

Go on then tell me Im a heartless bitch all over what works out at £12 a week

All I want is for him to love her

so no dragging people through the court wont help things but i really dont know what else to do

how can he not want to be in her life?

Best revenge WB
Have a great life honey xx

Oh WB I really feel for you I've never been through what your're going through so maybe I shouldn't post. I would hope that if my dh left me in a similar situation I hope I would feel that I would want my child to feel as much love as posible and that won't come from trying to make him love her more from teaching diginity and self respect and sending he updates and let him know just how wonderfully she's doing and then see how quickly he wants her back in his life.

fuck him

you're a fantastic mum and she has all she needs

my dad was similarly shite when I was a little girl but my mum kept her dignity and she brought me up right

and she was everything I needed

it's his loss. his massive loss, and your gain, and he'll realise one day, however late it is, just as my dad realised when I started popping out grandkids

I want to be able to say to my children when they're older "your dad did actually bother to pay maintenance for you, you know".

I'd like to be able to say it, but currently it's not true. But I think even if he has to be forced kicking and screaming to pay that £2.50 a week maintenance, he should be made to do so, so that my children know when they ask (as they inevitably will) that he made that minimum commitment to them. I don't want to have to say "no, sorry, your father doesn't/ didn't pay any maintenance". Which is why I occasionally persecute the CSA about him. And why I totally understand why you want to get him to pay, irrespective of the paltry amount.

Have decided, after a long talk with a very good friend of mine, and after the advice from you lot, not to do anything

Just shows Im bothered, and Id be joining in his "game"
Ill just keep bringing DD up the best I can and leave things like this go over my head

Thanks girls, if it wasnt for you lot being so rational I would have sent some very nasty texts to him this morning

Yep WB totally his loss. Just show him what a happy, beautiful well adjusted girl you can bring up on your own and what a lovely life you can have without him. Easier said than done, I know.