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Do you think you're fat?

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ThingsThatGoHumpInTheNight · 08/08/2013 22:22

I do. And I'm wrong. I know rationally I am not fat. I am 5'5 weigh 9st7ish, dress size 8-10, body fat 18-22%, you can see my ribs from behind and my abs in front....so why oh why do I constantly feel crap about myself?

I do eat more crap than I probably should do (chocolate 5 times a week Sad ) and I do carry weight up top (32FF boobs)...but I am not fat. So why do I feel like I am? Constantly worry that I am. People I don't know well (new work colleagues, random people at parties) make offhand comments 'healthy breakfast again eh?' this morning as I ate a croissant and fruit at my desk and it makes me feel awful.

Are other people like this? Why????

Sorry to anyone this offends...I feel for people with weight issues, I really do, but been thinking about this today (sparked by comment this morning) and wondering if I am the only one?

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Talkinpeace · 10/08/2013 17:17

Ok how about if you don't have an obvious waist you are fat.
Keira Knightley and Madonna then Hmm

Marypoppins
Don't weep. Try 5:2. Start Monday.

AmericasTorturedBrow · 10/08/2013 17:59

Feral I feel the opposite of you....I'm 5'9", bouncing around 9.5stone, size 8-10ish but I know women the same height and weight who are smaller than me!

I know I'm not fat, I used to be fat, but it doesn't stop me feeling fat. I don't know if its losing a bit of weight now makes me even more critical of my weight? Also I live in USA where vanity sizing is in full force (example - I am size 10 in British topshop, size 2 in American GAP), so I don't trust dress sizes at all.

A this weight my chest is starting to look scrawny but my muffin stops are still stubbornly there and the second bum hangs around too. My mum was always an excellent role model for healthy living, very quietly helped me avoid getting an eating disorder in my teens (my self hatred ended up manifesting in self harm and attempted suicide instead Sad) but I grew up in a secure and loving home so I don't know where my issues with thinking I'm fat come from.

Maybe it's because I was always on the chubby side that its hard to change my mentality? I spoke to a friend from school the other day who has resolutely stayed the size 8-10she was at 16, a mutual friend and I were always sized 14 and now at 30 are both size 8-10, first friend was describing us both as "skinny" but I think that's just altered perception as we used to be her fat friends!

Ugh I don't know but I'm with you OP, mi know I'm not fat but some days I am utterly convinced that I am

jumpingpillows · 10/08/2013 17:59

yes

burberryqueen · 10/08/2013 18:07

yes i am fat - size 16 and about 5'6' = no idea what weight i avoid scales but i fear it may be 13 or 14 stone.
the last guy that asked me out then sent me a text calling me 'fatso' and i have not recovered from that . we are both in the fifty-ish region and it took me right back to school!
tell me more about this 5.2 thing anyone?
i did slim down from a size 18 by not eating chocolate and only eating when v hungry which i know sounds obvious but.....

GinGirl · 10/08/2013 18:08

I'm a stone above my target weight, DC4 is 11 weeks so the 'cutting myself some slack' time is starting to run out. Am waiting for baby to be a bit more predictable in terms of evening feeds so that I can get out and exercise. I eat healthily so for me exercise is the key. Shifts the weight, improves my mood and tones me up. It is starting to bug me that I don't look as good in clothes as I would like to, but I don't think about it constantly.

AmericasTorturedBrow · 10/08/2013 18:10

Oh GinGirl you have loads of time to cut yourself some slack, he's tiny! I didn't start to drop weight until DD weaned herself off the boob at 10months...

Talkinpeace · 10/08/2013 18:18

Burberry
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/fasting_diet/1820028-The-5-2-thread-number-25-One-year-on-from-Dr-Mosleys-Horizon-ep
Come and join us

Gingirl I agree with ATB - until they are at least 6 months you are still rebuilding the brain proteins they stripped out of you

YoniRanger · 10/08/2013 18:19

Feral- I'm 5'5 and 12 stone. I'm a size 14 or 12 in vanity sizes.

I know I'm a bit wobbly but I'm also a (slow) half marathon runner. I think I must be dense!

lilackaty · 10/08/2013 20:00

I am fat & know I am. It upsets me hugely and is actually stopping me from doing things that I want to do.
I broke my leg and dislocated my ankle 4 months ago & still can't walk very far & definitely can't do any exercise except cycling but have not modified my eating in line with this. I really need to sort myself out.

Talkinpeace · 10/08/2013 20:39

lilackaty
Come and give 5:2 a go.
You have nothing to lose except weight, stress and a few snacks.
It works.
You still get to eat all the foods you love - just not every day.

Pinupgirl · 10/08/2013 20:52

Or accept that people come in all shapes and sizes lilac and don't live you life on miserable diets that don't work-the diet industry makes a mint for a reason you know.

Talkinpeace · 10/08/2013 20:56

pinup
people may come in all shapes and sizes but fat young people turn into ill old people - so their kids have to look after them and handle their hospital woes.
I'd rather not be ill later in life

Pinupgirl · 10/08/2013 20:59

Do skinny people never get ill then talkin-when I was thin I got cancer. What happened there then?Hmm

You can be fat and be healthy than a thin person you know-do you honestly think a thin smoker is healthier than a fat person?

ArgyMargy · 10/08/2013 21:12

Thumbwitch - yes, I know. I just get irritated by women colluding to delude themselves that they are "average" when they are clearly overweight, unhealthy and storing up trouble for their later years.

YoureAllABunchOfBastards · 10/08/2013 21:13

I am 4ft 11 and weigh 12 and a half stone. So yes, I am fat.

However, at Easter I was 14 stone, so then I was fatter. By Christmas I will be less than 11 stone. Still fat, but getting there.

lilackaty · 10/08/2013 21:22

Thank you so much - I agree with you pinupgirl but I am bigger than I want to be & my clothes are too tight which makes me unhappy.
I am going to try the 5:2 after my holiday as I have lots of friends who swear by it & have lost loads of weight. I keep using the excuse of when my ankle is beter but that is going to be a long wait so I need to start asap! I will see you there talkinpeace.

amothersplaceisinthewrong · 10/08/2013 21:26

I am five foot seven and now weigh 9 stone 2 and feel great - size 10 -8. A year nd a half ago I was 12 stone, and verging on a size 16 and felt horrible, fat and frumpy.

It took me eight months to lose the weight, by eating less and moving more. I am not fat now, and think for my age I look great. My DH agrees.

Talkinpeace · 10/08/2013 21:26

lilackaty go for it. And losing weight will help your ankle - think of all the strain you will be taking off your joints.
Have a good holiday.

pinupgirl
I did not say that thin people do not get sick. That's silly.
But grossly overweight people have a massively increased risk of
diabetes
heart disease
stroke
alzheimers
digestive disorders
all of which are massively reduced if they lose weight.

lilackaty · 10/08/2013 21:36

Thank you - I am really looking forward to it.
I hadn't thought of that about the weight on my joints - yet another motivator.

MaryPoppinsBag · 10/08/2013 21:36

I will have a look at 5:2 thanks Smile

Beastofburden · 10/08/2013 21:37

Poor lilackaty. Have you thought of swimming? It won't hurt your ankle, and honestly, nobody can see you in your costume, because:

(A) you are underwater
(B) they haven't got their contact lenses in and their eyes are full of chlorine
(C) they are miles away thinking about something else.

I went today, overweight as I am and surrounded by fit students, meh, and nobody noticed or cared.

Local pools do classes, quite cheap even for private lessons.

People often dismiss swimming as they are shy but if your joints are vulnerable, there is no safer way to exercise.

Talkinpeace · 10/08/2013 21:41

Before I lost weight (second picture on my profile) I was crippled with knee pain for several days per month.
Last summer, before doing 5:2, it was starting to come back - I needed bandages to keep moving.
Now I've got my weight down I get no pain at all from my (badly damaged) joints.

Get a strong bag, put 14lb of food tins in it. Pick it up, carry it around for a bit. Now put it down.
Think of the relief you will feel when you have permanently put that amount down. And more.

Pinupgirl · 10/08/2013 21:45

How tall are you talkin?-you look very thin in your photo. My sister is very thin too-size 6/8-she doesn't eat properly and smokes like a chimney. She looks older than me due to her gaunt faceGrin

Talkinpeace · 10/08/2013 21:50

5'5" ~ 8st 11 ~ age 48 ~ 2 teenage kids ~ never smoked ~ serious gym habit ~ love my food

and you?

EBearhug · 10/08/2013 22:05

My ex has been in hospital for the last week, and hasn't eaten in that time (obviously he's got some nutrition through a drip).

There are worse things than being fat.

(He will be fine in time, and in the meantime, he's in the best place. And he's definitely brighter than last week.)