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I am pissed off and sulking and if it wasnt so bloody hot i'd stamp my feet

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LadyTambaOfTambaTown · 08/06/2006 15:43

Cause I am supposed to being going out tomorrow night. Its all arranged. I have friends who I havent seen for a long time coming over to Birmingham for the night. They have booked tommorrow off work. We have booked and paid a deposit on a hotel.

And now I cant go cause Mil is sulking with me and wont have ds2. My mom is having ds1. She says I need to learn that being a mother is about being at home (WTF???) and that I go out far to often (once a month)

Dh will be away for 3 nights on a Stag weekend. This was only arranged at the beginning of last week as he had origionally said he wasnt going (which is why I arranged to go out instead as I knew he would be at home to have the boys) Its his brothers stag weekend so his night out gets precidence

I am so annoyed! I have a new outfit, new shoes and was really looking forward to it. I have no other option for child care.

Am sulking.

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dinosaure · 08/06/2006 15:44

Can your mum not have both of them?

madmarchhare · 08/06/2006 15:45

Oh no, she's definately backed out then?

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LadyTambaOfTambaTown · 08/06/2006 15:45

Apparntly not! She says she has no room for them both. (which is kind of true) I did call her to ask her but it was a firm No

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madmarchhare · 08/06/2006 15:46

Is it worth begging?

dinosaure · 08/06/2006 15:46
Sad

That's too bad.

madmarchhare · 08/06/2006 15:46

to mil, not your mum

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LadyTambaOfTambaTown · 08/06/2006 15:46

Yup MMH, spoke to her not long ago. And she has no recollection of her saying she would have them! I must be going mad because I know she said it should be fine! She says the convo never happened.

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Feistybird · 08/06/2006 15:46

Blimey - I remember your original thread about this - I can't believe she's being so petty. Sounds like she's bitter and twisted to me.

madmarchhare · 08/06/2006 15:48

Is she actually doing anything?

anorak · 08/06/2006 15:48

Sorry if I'm being too judgmental but your MIL sounds like an evil old witch.

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LadyTambaOfTambaTown · 08/06/2006 15:48

Tried begging! Even said my 17 year old brother could sleep over at my house so DS2 could have his room at my moms (Or i would pay him to sleep downstairs!) but she said NO NO NO

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LadyTambaOfTambaTown · 08/06/2006 15:50

MIL is "teaching me a lesson in parenting'

In her day her and Fil never went out when they had young children.... sigh...

I would have been annoyed but not as annoyed if she would have given me a little more notice of her change of heart!

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madmarchhare · 08/06/2006 15:50

I mean begging mil.

Is your brother not on your list for babysitting then?

mazzystar · 08/06/2006 15:52

How dare your mother-in-law take that attitude? Why isn't DH intervening. YOU have childcare fixed up - HIM! So its up to him to find someone to babysit - that is only fair.

And three nights is loads for a stag do, why can't he join them on Saturday?

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LadyTambaOfTambaTown · 08/06/2006 15:52

Im not sure I would be entirely happy with my brother babysitting, he's 17 but hasnt babysat for me before and I think over night might be throwing him in at the deep end!

As for begging Mil. Would have more luck getting blood out of a stone! Fil phoned me after we spoke to apoligise! She was very rude! But saying that, shes never been one for manners.

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anorak · 08/06/2006 15:53

Can you get a friend or relative to come and sleep over at your house to babysit? My brother does this for me sometimes.

madmarchhare · 08/06/2006 15:54

Can you convince DH to have a word with her. Cry or something...Grin.

mazzystar · 08/06/2006 15:55

Can your F-i-l babysit. He sounds more reasonable.

oliveoil · 08/06/2006 15:55

I think this is your dh's problem myself.

Get him to sort it or his stag do is at risk.

Think you will find a babysitter then, ha!

You arranged your night out on the basis of him being there after all.

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LadyTambaOfTambaTown · 08/06/2006 15:55

DH isnt intervening cause he is a wuss. Hes scared of his mommy. He wasnt even going on the stag thing til she told him he had to go last week and that she had already paid for his place. She already knew I was going out then too. She thinks I treat her precious son badly because I allow myself to have a life, dont have his dinner on the table every night and dont weight on him hand and foot... he has such a hard life!

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madmarchhare · 08/06/2006 15:55

Could your brother baysit, but then you come home instead of staying out?

Esmummy · 08/06/2006 15:58

God what a witch ! I'd be hard pushed not to slap my MIL if she dared to tell me I needed a lesson in parenting.

GRRRRR Angry sorry i know that doesn't help you

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LadyTambaOfTambaTown · 08/06/2006 15:58

Fil is lovely but does as he is told! Mil is one of those bossy, pushy types and the only person it doesnt work on is me! I feel sorry for the wife of her eldest - they live next door!

Relative wise - My sister will be in London with her boyfriend, she goes every weekend.

Sil, is 38 weeks pregnant and has 2 young girls (and her dh will be on the bloody stag do!)

My best friend has gone to France on holiday

Am pathetically short of friends! And the ones I do have are going out tommorrow night!

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Beetroot · 08/06/2006 16:00

can brother have both kids at your house?

NomDePlume · 08/06/2006 16:00

What a nasty old baggage your MIL is. TBH, I'm not that impressed with your Mum, either Tamba. If she can find room for DS1, then I'm sure she can find a 2ftx4ft space for a travel cot.... But hey-ho, Sorry to hear that you are being let down by family Sad. I assume your H is working and that's why you need sitters ? Can any of your mates you'd trust step in ?

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