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I am pissed off and sulking and if it wasnt so bloody hot i'd stamp my feet

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LadyTambaOfTambaTown · 08/06/2006 15:43

Cause I am supposed to being going out tomorrow night. Its all arranged. I have friends who I havent seen for a long time coming over to Birmingham for the night. They have booked tommorrow off work. We have booked and paid a deposit on a hotel.

And now I cant go cause Mil is sulking with me and wont have ds2. My mom is having ds1. She says I need to learn that being a mother is about being at home (WTF???) and that I go out far to often (once a month)

Dh will be away for 3 nights on a Stag weekend. This was only arranged at the beginning of last week as he had origionally said he wasnt going (which is why I arranged to go out instead as I knew he would be at home to have the boys) Its his brothers stag weekend so his night out gets precidence

I am so annoyed! I have a new outfit, new shoes and was really looking forward to it. I have no other option for child care.

Am sulking.

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NomDePlume · 08/06/2006 16:01

Ah, DH at stag do

NomDePlume · 08/06/2006 16:02

Can't your Mum come over to your house to have the kids ? At least then she'll DEF have the space

mazzystar · 08/06/2006 16:02

I'm raging with your MIL on your behalf. I really think its up to your DH to stand up to her. How does he feel about her taking that attitude with you? Can't you MAKE him to say he will only go to the stag do (that he doesn't really want to go on anyway) if she can look after DS2. If not he'll go on Saturday (or is it abroad or something preposterous).

madmarchhare · 08/06/2006 16:04

Actually, thinking about it, your DH should babysit friday and then go on saturday given that he/your mil changed his mind. I didnt realise it was for 3 days.

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LadyTambaOfTambaTown · 08/06/2006 16:12

Stag do is in Blackpool (we are in Brum)

Just phoned my sister, she is already in London (was going to ask if her dp fancied meeting her nephew lol)

Am going to call my brother - I dont think he will be intrested though, but cant hurt to ask!

My mom cant really babysit here as she has a 5 year old of her own. And she likes to be at home in bed at 10pm. seeing as im not going out til 8 it would be pointless!

DH wont go on the saturday as they have arranged activities all the time they are there apparntly...

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motherinferior · 08/06/2006 16:15

Well, it's your DH's problem, I think. He's only going because she told him too...what would happen if you told him only to go on the Sat and well, he can join in the activities then, dammit?

mazzystar · 08/06/2006 16:16

Well he'll just have to take DS2 with him then!

If he went on Saturday he could be there by 10 o'clock - ie before they get up.

madmarchhare · 08/06/2006 16:17

Your brother might be interested if there cash involved... Has he got a nice sensible girlfriend he can bring along?

mazzystar · 08/06/2006 16:19

you see tamba, EVERYONE here really really wants you to be able to go out. so's there's something to talk about on Monday

Kathy1972 · 08/06/2006 16:19

Lots of sympathy.
How dare anyone be so patronising as to say anything about giving you a lesson in parenting. Grr.

I think your 17 year old brother should babysit. After all, there are 16 year olds out there with more than one kid of their own. And your MIL would be horrified which would serve her right.

Tortington · 08/06/2006 16:22

your mother comes to your house

the kids are already asleep in their rooms

you have her tea waiting for her and two cream cakes.

she watches telly for 5 hours and you pay for her taxi home

her being there as a human alarm only.

anorak · 08/06/2006 16:23

Your MIL has created the entire situation, organising your DH's life for him and pretending she didn't promise to babysit.

I'd have it out with her. Cow. My MIL is the same and we don't have anything to do with her any more. She's poisonous and it took my DH a year of therapy to understand how much he'd been dominated by her.

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LadyTambaOfTambaTown · 08/06/2006 16:27

Woooohoooooo My brother didnt even need any convincing! He jumped at the chance of having my house to himself as long as Michael is in bed before he gets her (which he will be!) I said i'll leave him money for a taxi and a dvd of his choice!

MMH - It'd be boyfriend rather than girlfriend Grin

Feel like calling Mil and saying haha beat you! try harder next time! Blush

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LadyTambaOfTambaTown · 08/06/2006 16:28

sorry money for a take away not taxi!

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motherinferior · 08/06/2006 16:29

Er...so where's your DH been in all this? Can't he at least pay for your brother?

SparklyGothKat · 08/06/2006 16:30

I was babysitting at 14, looking after 3 kids. I would ask your brother, and come home instead of staying out. Let him sleep on the sofa

Tortington · 08/06/2006 16:30

oh nice job! get exceptionally shitfaced

SparklyGothKat · 08/06/2006 16:31

yea!!! glad you asked your brother :)

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LadyTambaOfTambaTown · 08/06/2006 16:31

lol I plan too - thats why to hotels booked! I am not planning to be able to drag my sorry ass home Grin

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LadyTambaOfTambaTown · 08/06/2006 16:32

I only asked him cause you lot said to so thank you Grin Grin will have a drink for each and every one of you...

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fairyjay · 08/06/2006 16:38

I'm glad you've got it sorted - have a great night!

Just to clarify, your mil who doesn't think that parents should go out, has arranged and paid for your dh to go away for 3 days!!! She might be bossy, but she's not exactly logical.

Have fun Grin

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LadyTambaOfTambaTown · 08/06/2006 16:40

She was insistant he should go to get one over on me. She is petty like that and it pisses her off when i wont play her games.Am still resisting calling her to say Ha!

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mazzystar · 08/06/2006 16:41

No don't tell her. It will piss her off much much more when she finds out indirectly, afterwards.

Bozza · 08/06/2006 16:44

I think your DH is half of the problem really. We have a first to get the date keeps it policy. DH has even re-arranged work meetings because I am going out for a curry with my mates! But his own stupid fault for not checking the calendar.

Glad you got it sorted though. Good on you for showing a bit of iniative instead of giving in.

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