How many friends do you have?

Jessajam · 2006-05-12T09:47:21+00:00

Can't decide if this question is designed as confidence booster or self-flagellation but here goes... How many RL friends do you have? Apart from DH/DP. Proper friends rather than acquaintances. People you would phone and invite over/out for drink/in a crisis/tell your secrets I have... two

Iklboo · 12/05/2006 10:48

Er...4. Hmm. Not a lot really is it?

TambaTheDragonSlayer · 12/05/2006 10:51

hmmmm

I have a best friend who I know I can rely on for anything

A close friend, who I tell most stuff too and do the whole girly swopping clothes thing

A friend who when im bored i'll phone and say lets take the kids out (reminds me I need to txt her back )

And my sister who I tell some secrets but not all too (as she still has this run to mom thing goin on) but is fun to go out with and lends me clothes!

And thats about it!

NotAnOtter · 12/05/2006 10:52

3 and a good sister!

notasheep · 12/05/2006 11:26

You can count your best friends on one hand.
I have 5
You know who your real friends are when you move away.
We soon found out who would travel 250 miles to see us!

Greensleeves · 12/05/2006 11:26

none

I work alone

cat64 · 12/05/2006 11:26

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FrannyandZooey · 12/05/2006 11:27

oh Greeny

:(

notasheep · 12/05/2006 11:29

I think a friend is someone you can phone at 4 in the morning

intergalacticwalrus · 12/05/2006 11:29

4 close friends and many acquaintances. I think the same is true for most people tbh.

bluejelly · 12/05/2006 11:55

Three close friends and mumsnet

MamaG · 12/05/2006 11:57

3 close "real" friends
2 v old close "real" friends

Marne · 12/05/2006 11:58

3 and dh (he's my best friend)

jessicaandrebeccasmummy · 12/05/2006 11:59

None

Dior · 12/05/2006 12:04

Loads of deeper acquaintances (people who I see without ds, not best friends, but people I can talk a lot to), but only two friends that I can talk about anything to. Both are friendships of over 17 years. Sister is good for deep/personal discussion too. I have more friends developing from being old WW members and clerks. They have 'good friend' potential, but it is too early to tell.

I am really lucky. Before ds, I only had one friend ( the other 'best' friend was from school, and we got back in touch 4 years ago), and I had zero confidence in myself. I thought no-one could like me. Then, I had ds, and had to go to a M&T group to keep sane. My mum says it was 'the naking of' me. I like chatting to anyone.

Dior · 12/05/2006 12:06

Sorry, I sound big-headed. I'm not, really! The me of today is worlds apart from the me of 5 years ago, who used to worry about being liked all the time.

MissChief · 12/05/2006 12:10

couple of close but rarely seen old friends, couple of close-ish girls night tpye friends of several yrs standing, now several "more than acquaintance" going out types..
in the self-flagellation stakes, I've never had a bf since school - and always thought I must be sadly lacking somehow ... The number of times I've heard others chat with such casual possessiveness about their bf ..
Also, my sister and I aren't close - she's postively indifferent, maybe i'm not a woman's woman. Makes me quite when I think about it..

MissChief · 12/05/2006 12:12

Dior - you don't sound big-headed at all. That's how it is for you, so that's great! Like bees round a honey-pot, your greater confidence is obviously attracting more people to you now.

Dior · 12/05/2006 12:17

pmsl - 'bees round a honey pot'! There is something in the greater confidence thing though. I used to try too hard to be what I thought people wanted me to be like. After a long session of counselling, I realised that I was wearing myself out doing this, and it was contributing towards my depression. I also think that having ds gave me a greater priority in life, and I learnt to relax.

Having said that, I'm often the one that starts chatting to people, like in the school playground. Most people like to chat, and most of them love the opportunity to talk about themselves I've noticed . It's the ones who ask questions in return that I generally warm to!

franca70 · 12/05/2006 12:30

2 friends in England, took ages to make.
5 dearest friends + some good friends back in italy. I miss them dearly everyday. (sorry, I always like to feel homesick...)

Fimbo · 12/05/2006 12:33

6 close friends, where I live now in England and lots of people to nod to. About the same back home in Scotland and one of my sil's.

2shoes · 12/05/2006 12:34

not many
2 good ones and lots of people that I am sort off mates with
could do with more though...
any takers:o

plummymummy · 12/05/2006 12:51

Bf = 20 year friendship, two very close friends from college (met 7 years ago), one friend I call a few times a year and another I met at work two years ago who I keep in touch with a couple times a month. I feel lucky to have 5 friends I tell you - many people just have superficial friends.

motherinferior · 12/05/2006 12:52

Quite a lot. Friendship matters a lot to me.

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Jessajam · 12/05/2006 13:24

Of my two, one is a friend from school who I met when we were both 11. The other is actually my boss (weird?) we became friends while I was working for her (still am) and it became an out-of workplace-too friendship.
Both are people I know I could phone at 3am with a crisis, both would drop everything and help (and I have done same for them).

Have never been good at making friends (can't do 'small talk' and also lack self esteem so need friends who are able to kick me up backside every so often and remind me that they DO like me! In fact me and my frind from school have a pact to remind each other of this regularly since we both fell out of touch with each other and thought the other one didn't wnat to hear from us etc etc etc!!

Have 'people I know' and go out for drinks etc with a group but they are 'really' DH's friends and their partners...

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