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Shakinglikealeaf's update.

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shakinglikealeaf · 04/05/2006 08:30

Hi
Thanks to so many of you who gave support at a very much needed time. I just wanted to let you know that April was pretty dire but I'm entering into May much more upbeat and positive.

Went to the EPAC unit yesterday and got wonderful news. I have miscarried successfully which means no theatre for me (sigh)H and I start mediation next week and he still continues to be a wonderful father (thank god, I was very worried for LO that he wouldn't be)

RL support is still available to me in droves which again makes me feel positive about the future and whatever life I may have, alone or otherwise.

I bought myself a really beautiful necklace to remind me of the baby I lost, I'm not ready to start wearing it yet but it felt right to buy it so did indulge in a bit of retail therapy in the end.

So to summarise, things have been dire, the outlook had seemed shitty but I was wrong, I'm going to have a rosey future again, I just know it. I'd like to also add that despite what happened to me I do think there are many, many wonderful, loyal, trustworthy men out there. Closer to home my wonderful father,brother, BIL and friends have reminded me of this.

xxx

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anorak · 04/05/2006 08:33

I can only admire the attitude you've taken.

The way you're thinking and acting is what will make your future rosy. I wish you every good thing. Your husband is a fool to lose you from his life.

anorak · 04/05/2006 08:34

What a stunningly great attitide you have - I can only admire it and wish you every good thing for the future. Your husband is a fool to lose you from his life.

anorak · 04/05/2006 08:35

Whoops sorry first post did not register my end!

Still no harm in saying it twice eh? Smile

schneebly · 04/05/2006 08:37

Hi SLIL

I think you are wonderful and so strong - you have just the right attitude and I am really glad you have the support you need. The necklace is a lovely idea. I wish you health and hapiness and the bright future you deserve.
Love
Schneebly.xxx

Tutter · 04/05/2006 08:37

have been reading your posts and admire your guts and positivity - best of luck over the coming weeks and months x

HellKat · 04/05/2006 08:37

What a wonderfully positive outlook you have. After everything you've been through. I'm very similar.
Beautiful idea about the necklace, what a lovely keepsake. So pleased you did'nt have to go through the trauma of surgery.
Days like today (sunny, bright blue skies and warm) always put me in an amazing mood anyway. So here's hoping your future is as bright, sunny and filled with warmth as today.
Good luck in everything hun. You've been amazing x

Carmenere · 04/05/2006 08:39

I think you are an amazing woman, but you are right, your intelligence and resourcefullness will see you through this crappy time.

Esmummy · 04/05/2006 08:43

Thanks for letting us know how things are going SLAL, i started a thread for you earlier in the week asking how things were going.
So so glad that things are looking up and you are feeling so much more positive.

Chloe55 · 04/05/2006 09:26

I have followed your threads SLAL and I'm so glad you have got so many supportive people around you. Your LO is very lucky to have you as a mother with your positive attitude.

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shakinglikealeaf · 04/05/2006 12:39

Ah thank you, for those kind words.

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Heathcliffscathy · 04/05/2006 12:45

your attitude restores my faith in humankind slal. you deserve good things and with your attitude will no doubt get them

Marina · 04/05/2006 12:45

Good to hear how you are doing, agree your h will be mad to let you go. So glad you are doing OK and think you are fantastically strong :)

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shakinglikealeaf · 04/05/2006 13:33

Soph, I thought you were the cynical type! Wink

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Heathcliffscathy · 04/05/2006 13:34

questioning rather than a total git i hope....

busybusybee · 04/05/2006 13:52

shakinglikealeaf - Your rosey future sounds fantastic, Id like one of those myself :o

I couldnt quite understand from your post, what is your H going to do? Have you kicked him out?

Peachyclair · 04/05/2006 14:30

You're fab Grin

other than that, others have said it better than I could

love the necklace idea.

robin3 · 04/05/2006 14:38

You have dealt with this brilliantly and you're absolutely right...I've seen mates crash so low in similar situations but they all look back and laugh now because their lives have turned out brilliantly.

What's more there is something to be said for not knowing what the future will hold and approaching every day as an adventure.

As one of my mates says, every time she faces problems...'another chapter for the book'.

Good luck!

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shakinglikealeaf · 04/05/2006 14:45

Hi Busy.

Yes H no longer lives here but he comes every evening to take over Lo's cares (bath/bottle/story/bed) as he always did. He desperately wants to make amends. Stuff has come to light, recently, to prove that things looked worse than they were, however I still regard most of it as absolute betrayal and so does he- although perhaps to others it wouldn't be. Sorry to sound a little cryptic but we're still mid talks and I'd rather save it all for then- it's a very complicated story.

I'd say he is pretty broken and despite all of my reassurance that he could have access to the LO whenever and wherever he insists he wants to get back with me and I've told him not to get his hopes up and things don't happen quite as easily as that.

I'm just trying to pick up the pieces, to be as positive as I can be for me and my LO.

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frumpygrumpy · 05/05/2006 13:12

been off MN for a bit and was just looking to see how you'd got on. Best of luck babe x.

Rhubarb · 05/05/2006 13:15

I'm so glad for you that things look better now! I was a bit worried for a while! You sound like such a strong person, very sensible and level-headed and he is very lucky to have you! I hope things continue to go well for you.

Best of luck!

secur · 05/05/2006 13:16

My goodness, you are a strong and brave woman, I really admire your stance and the way you have handeled all of this. Good luck for your bright and rosy future Smile

blueteddy · 05/05/2006 13:18

Wow! What an amazingly positive attitude you have - I admire you.
All the best for your new life.Smile

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shakinglikealeaf · 05/05/2006 21:43

Awww I'm glad I logged in today-thanks for your best wishes.
xxx

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AllieBongo · 05/05/2006 21:46

you're fab. you deserve to be happy again soon x

galaxy · 05/05/2006 21:47

Way to go girl - inspirational

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