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Dilemma: Vile, vile neighbour who shouts "Shut up" and "Sort your baby out" when she cries at night, well...

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Tinker · 03/05/2006 19:02

...my eldest daughter plays with his partner's daughter. In the street I can cope with but I'm right to put my foot down at her playing in their house aren't I? Aren't I?

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Tinker · 03/05/2006 19:25

Please someone be remotely interested...

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Dior · 03/05/2006 19:26

What a horrible neighbour. Sorry, no advice, just wanted to bump the thread!

QE · 03/05/2006 19:26

tinker - absolutely no way would I allow my dd to go if I had a neighbour like this. You are dead right to put your foot down.

What a vile man he sounds.

cece · 03/05/2006 19:26

yes

FrannyandZooey · 03/05/2006 19:27

Sorry, it's quite busy on here tonight, lots of threads. It's up to you where and with whom your dd plays with, of course. Who is giving you a hard time about it? Your dd?

Tutter · 03/05/2006 19:27

Well done for not scratching her eyes out frankly.

Our neighbours just banged on the wall the other morning (6am) and that was enough to make me want to go and clout them.

frumpygrumpy · 03/05/2006 19:29

Just about to do bedtime stories so will have to fly but, yeah, I think in the street is fine because the girls like each other but probably not in his house. Too close for comfort, sounds like he has a patience problem and a short memory about crying babies. Why are people like that not embarrassed? Too ignorant for embarrassment I guess. Shame.

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Tinker · 03/05/2006 19:32

Oh thank you people. I'm giving myself a hard time. Daughter no 1 is being mature saying it's vile neighbour (VN) who is wrong not rest of his family etc.

We're having lots of revenge fantasies but last night wasn't good. My partner shouted back and then couldn't sleep since he was so anxious. Male of another family attacking his own family etc. All making me so Angry and Sad

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Adorabelle · 03/05/2006 19:41

Is there no way you could talk to V.N. & explain that you do not make your baby cry just to p*ss him off, but crying is just part & parcel of having a baby. Or is he that vile you could not approach him in that way?

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Tinker · 03/05/2006 19:43

He's that vile Adorabelle.

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Adorabelle · 03/05/2006 19:45

Oh well Tinker B*gger Him. If it wasn't your baby crying he's the type of neighbour who would have something else to moan about, There's always one!

Adorabelle · 03/05/2006 19:46

Babies cry, Fact. He'll just have to deal with it, or you could always put some ear plugs through his door!!

chipkid · 03/05/2006 19:49

is he vile to your face in the street?
I only ask because sleep deprivation can make usually sane peole behave in a deranged fashion.
For instance-I have been woken by a burglar alarm down the road every night for a week-it goes off for twenty minutes and it drives me demented. So even though the owners are away and are unable to do anything it is turning me into a raging monster in the night!
If this neighbour is woken regularly by your baby he may be struggling too although I donot condone what he says to you through the wall

edam · 03/05/2006 19:49

What about his partner? Could you talk to her? Frankly this guy's behaviour is stupid - he's hardly going to achieve what he wants by shouting at you, is he? Completely unrealistic to think banging on the wall will magically silence a crying baby. Someone needs to point that out to him.

WWWontSlagOffAnyone · 03/05/2006 19:51

Yes, you are right to put your foot down, how bloody vile and rude and horrible, as if you can control a baby crying at night! Is the woman nice? Could you talk to her?

Adorabelle · 03/05/2006 19:52

Agree with Edam, is his partner a reasonably woman who yu could approach & talk to?

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expatinscotland · 03/05/2006 20:31

no, i would not allow my child to play in their house.

catsmother · 04/05/2006 00:48

I understand how sleep deprivation drives anyone to distraction but there is a huge difference between loud music, adults arguing, furniture being dragged around, hoovering in the middle of the night etc - and a baby crying. What's the point of shouting at someone to "shut their baby up"? ..... the parents aren't likely to be enjoying a crying baby either !

Given his impatience - temper - and rudeness, i wouldn't want a child of mine in his home if he was going to be there too.

ScummyMummy · 04/05/2006 01:07

Oh babe. how horrible. Poor you and partner.:( I wouldn't be comfortable with your daughter going round there either. What a bastard. [bad vibes heading his way from me AngryAngryAngry]

nightowl · 04/05/2006 01:41

theres just no excuse for it really. my dd cried 90% of the time up until about 3 months old and she tantrums and screams a lot of the time now, she always has done. but my neighbour has never said a word and she must hear it. awful man.

ItalianJob · 04/05/2006 08:37

Yep your right - I wouldn't want my child playing at the house of someone I thought was vile!

joelalie · 04/05/2006 10:31

You have my sympathy. If your baby cries a lot there isn't much you can do I guess. I used to bf on demand through the night so very little crying actually happened but on the occassions when they were ill or teething they used to get quite loud. Never a complaint. Had a few comments about other nightly noises though ...Blush

Having said all that there are homes where the babies are left to cry. Not all parents are that concerned Sad. But not sure how hammering on the walls and bellowing would actually help you though....

We get more hassle with an overenthusiastic car alarm in our street Angry

joelalie · 04/05/2006 10:33

BTW. No I wouldn't let her play in his house. Street fine, but house no.

oliveoil · 04/05/2006 10:37

Is he still at it? What an idiot.

Could you maybe pop round with your daughter to drop her off when you know he is in and have a chat to him? Maybe try and clear the air. Clutching at straws here I know.