Does it pee you off when others wont srick to your routine?

[Mosschops30]

God I am fuming, listening to poor ds singing on his baby monitor because he cant get off to sleep.
Took him to the in-laws for 2 hours this morning, when I get back at 11.45 ds is asleep in buggy. They giggle 'oh sorry thats not in the manual is it'.
So I have to wake him up after 20 minutes sleep, feed him dinner, and now cant get him off to sleep.
If everyone else (childminder and friend who had him yesterday) can do it why cant they!

Rant over!

I did wonder if I was venturing where angels fear to tread, CD!

i would be grateful of the help, plenty of mums dont have the option of leaving baby with someone they trust for a couple of hours. i certainly wouldnt moan about it. and i would never wake a sleeping baby just to stick to a routine. but if the routine is impoortant for you then its probably easier to look after you baby yourself.

What is a routine??

Hi mosschops,

I got the impression from your original post that this is not the first time your inlaws have disreguarded your ds's routine. I can see why this bothers you and can understand how it upsets your child for the whole day. I don't know what your circumstances are but if it's possible maybe you could try and decide whether the disruption your in-laws cause you when they have your ds outweighs the benefits you gain from it.

I do feel that grandparents should respect the wishes of their grandchild's parents but expecting someone else to follow a routine to the very minute is prehaps a little unrealistic. The fact is, the only person who will look after your child EXACTLY like you want them to is you. This is not a criticism or a judgement, just a fact!

When my dds were little and grandparents offered to look after them, I knew (with a heavy heart) that they would be fed and watered with totally inappropriate food/drink and spoilt rotten. I could deal with that.

However, I am in agreement with Mosschops about disrupting any (vague - in my case!) sleep routine. Basically, any sleep during the afternoon meant I'd be up till the early hours with a completely frazzled brain and a screaming set of children. I had the pits of PND, and knowing that I had to suffer half the night because MIL thought a "short 10 minute nap wouldn't matter" made matters a darn sight worse.

i'm with CD on this one

god - I'm at my mums at the moment and she is looking after my nephew full time for the month ( other grandmother does it next month, they take it in turns - too tight to get a childminder or nursery place but don't get me started there...) point is his schedule is taped to the fridge door and is followed to the minute depsite me visiting here for 3 weeks with my 2 girls, we have to tiptoe around the house during his naptime twice a day. FFS!
completely agree with suedomin