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Does it pee you off when others wont srick to your routine?

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Mosschops30 · 12/04/2006 13:21

God I am fuming, listening to poor ds singing on his baby monitor because he cant get off to sleep.
Took him to the in-laws for 2 hours this morning, when I get back at 11.45 ds is asleep in buggy. They giggle 'oh sorry thats not in the manual is it'.
So I have to wake him up after 20 minutes sleep, feed him dinner, and now cant get him off to sleep.
If everyone else (childminder and friend who had him yesterday) can do it why cant they!

Rant over!

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Mosschops30 · 12/04/2006 14:28

well have just got ds out of bed, he's been there a while with no sign of sleep, nightmare!!

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Caligula · 12/04/2006 14:28

DD usually has a PM nap at nursery, but won't at home. Peer group pressure.

milward · 12/04/2006 14:28

same here pc - I'm often told that dd3 had a good nap!!

oops · 12/04/2006 14:29

usually i have to take one of them with me- to prevent world war 3... now where are MC inlaws when i need them? Smile

pooka · 12/04/2006 14:36

Just listened to that Janh. Excellent link Grin

Bozza · 12/04/2006 14:44

Mosschops I am sorry I am still not understanding why you woke him up. Would have found their comment highly irritating but would have accepted that the sleep had happened and then tried to work round that.

DaddyCool · 12/04/2006 14:46

i hate this! my mum will be like this when we get to canada and i'm even hesitant to give him over to her.

she'll not watch him, let him do what he likes and feed him full of junk food.

bundle · 12/04/2006 14:49

why did you have to wake him up?

CountessDracula · 12/04/2006 14:52

Mosschops I would have just let him sleep on, does it really matter if he has lunch at bang on 1pm or whatever? He won't notice!

Sounds like you have a very strict routine, I didn't therefore can't really understand I suppose. If dd was tired she slept, if she was hungry I fed her (within reason). And fwiw I would NEVER have woken her if she was asleep, god forbid!!

nothercules · 12/04/2006 14:58

My mum looks after dd for two days and a week and I'm grateful she does it. I think if it would give her added stress if I was so specific about when I wanted her to sleep. It does often make for a difficult evening but I know my mum is being really good having her in the first place so I let her manage the best way she can.

niceglasses · 12/04/2006 15:00

I'm with CD as well - would just be grateful if my mum offered to have any of mine and wouldn't be laying down any rules. I know they get loads of junk there (and I give them a fair share as well so that is saying something) but I think if they are looking after them, you can't stipulate a routine as it might not fit in with waht they are doing.

compo · 12/04/2006 15:02

If it upsets you this much it sounds like you're better off not asking anyone to look after him!!

CountessDracula · 12/04/2006 15:02

Yes I agree compo!

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Uwila · 12/04/2006 15:03

Mosschops, I'm with you. Positively hate when people defy my routines. Although if they were looking after him as a favour then I suppose you take what you get. However, if it was a paid childminder/nanny, then I'd be more irritated.

But, hey, when childcare is free, I'd take what I get.

oops · 12/04/2006 15:05

i am from the camp of "it is just 1 day" and yes it is a bit rough later in the evening, but hey ho
I think you are lucky to have people to take him tbh, but then that's just my slant on it as we have no family locally and the 2 parents that are left are too ill to take the kids at all. Sad

CountessDracula · 12/04/2006 15:06

Yes but that is totally differetn if they are paid!

oops · 12/04/2006 15:07

uwila- defy is a strange word to use!
Smile

compo · 12/04/2006 15:07

when ds goes to nursery he no longer has a nap and is very tired when he gets home. I don't mind though cos the next day with me he sleeps for 3 hours - bliss Smile

WestCountryLass · 12/04/2006 15:50

That doesn't really bother me to be honest. My kids do have routines of sorts but if things get chopped and changed for whatever reason we jsut go with the flow. Personally I would have let him sleep and given him dinner when he woke up.

bundle · 12/04/2006 15:52

ooops, i think "defy" gives it all away Wink

Uwila · 12/04/2006 16:06

I think defy is a nice word. Smile

suedonim · 12/04/2006 20:27

My friend has looked after her grandson in her own home from Tuesday mornings to Fri evenings, including the nights. He was on a strict GF routine but it restricted my friend's activities so much that she ditched it and did what suited her. Her daughter wasn't very pleased to start with but he always went back to his 'home' routine and eventually she appreciated that her parents were saving her having to shell out a fortune in nursery fees. Paid care is a different kettle of fish, imo.

CountessDracula · 12/04/2006 21:13

Don't mention the war Suedeonim