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Have just got in and am still shaking, got told to &^%^&** off in town today by an eldery gentleman!!!!!!

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spacecadet · 06/03/2006 13:04

Im so furious about this and upset as i had my 18 month dd with me at the time.
basically was queing in a shop in town this morning, came my turn to pay, so i walked down the other end to pack my shopping, turned round and this man (approx age early seventies) wandered through past the till and stood there behind me!!, his wife also walked through and stood to the left of me and as i was about to key in my pin number, so i turned to this man and asked him politely to move back, which was ignored, so i had to key in my number with him stood right behind me.
after id done that, as i took my receipt i turned and said"i thought you were going to pay for my sbopping"(in a sarcastic voice), he just glared at me, so i said" its very intimidating when people stand behind you when you are paying, you should keep back off the till", his wife retorted, "oh shove off you silly woman!!" and he shouted at me, "oh why dont you just F$^^k off!!!!!" i was flabbergasted, but managed to quip back"oh, foul mouthed as well as ignorant", i was physically shaking when i walked out of there, to make matters worse, the checkout operator shouted after me"oi whats youyr problem!!"

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spacecadet · 06/03/2006 13:52

moondog-yep actually gentleman is certainly a word he will never be aqainted with, except if he reads a dictionary and if he does he should perhaps look up the word, manners..grrrrrr

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lars · 06/03/2006 13:55

Space cadet, totally agree with you sorry my typing slipped and meant to read it should apply to all suppermarkets. I had this done in M&S, which I was really annoyed at the closure of the customer to my details.

As I said my mother had this done in the post office and the clerk did tell the customer to move back. I would complain and this also highlights a another security concern. larsxx

jco · 06/03/2006 14:08

God, why is it that some people think that being old gives them the right to be rude and abusive, Angry

i was at the park a few years ago, my ds who was 2 at the time was on the slide but a girl of about 10 kept coming up behind him and bashing into him with her feet, i politely asked her to stop and made sure i spoke to her nicely as she was only a child herself. All of a sudden this old guy who i assume was her grandad came charging across the park shouting at me, i tried to explain to him what had happened but he just screamed at me that i was a 'fcking bully who should grow up!!!! i tried to defend my actions and he called me a 'fcking bitch'.

I couldn't believe that somebody would behave like that especially in a playground full of kids. I know what you mean about feeling shaken up SC, it does leave you feeling that way

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spacecadet · 06/03/2006 14:29

i know that this man was not representative of the entire older population but i did find myself thinking, "how can i respect my elders when they behave like that?" what sort of an example is he?

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nailpolish · 06/03/2006 14:34

i dont like old people in general, they are very rude

if i need to ask someone for a hand (like helping me get a buggy down steps or something) i always ask young people, young looking gents in particular. they are the most willing to help. old buggers just ignore.

i take dd's (dd1 - 3 - walking, and dd2 - 1 - in buggy) on the bus to take dd1 to playgroup. we always get the 855am bus, there are about 6 old wifies get the same bus every single day and GOD FORBID me or dd sits in their seat. like the own the bloody seat. sometimes i do it just to piss them off. and the ALWAYS shove in front of us, never offer to help or anything. just an offer would be nice

rant over

jco · 06/03/2006 14:46

nailpolish, i use to have problems on buses, once got on a bus when about 8 months pregnant with ds, also had to hold 21 month old dd, and a buggy cos it was before the buses that you can wheel them onto were introduced. Remember not one single person offered to help or offered me a seat except this young 15 year old lad who was also standing who offered to hold the buggy and then helped me off at my stop, and they says its the youths of today who are rude!!!

nailpolish · 06/03/2006 15:08

EXACTLY jco! agree totally Smile

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spacecadet · 06/03/2006 15:52

that reminds me of 12 years ago when i was heavily preg with ds1 and dd2 was just a toddler, i can remember being bulldozed out of the way in the bus queue by a group of elderly ladies who then sat there glaring at me when i had to stand up all the way!

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SorenLorensen · 06/03/2006 16:08

I do think the security aspect of typing in your PIN is very dodgy. I went to Tesco the other evening and had a gang of young lads behind me at the checkout, all messing about and swearing (buying large amounts of beer). They were probably completely harmless but I was very aware of them as I put in my PIN - and then I dashed off as fast as possible as I was walking home, alone, in the dark.

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spacecadet · 06/03/2006 19:03

im not convinced that chip and pin is anymore secure anyway.
am sat here drafting a letter to the local rag! bet it doesnt get printed.
will ring up wilko tomorrow and ask who i should address a complaint letter to.

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Flip · 06/03/2006 19:17

I think I live in a lovely sleep area of the country. I've never had any problems with anyone being abusive like that. Infact I was in Leyland nr Preston last week visiting my gran and I took Ds2 in his buggy into town shopping. I must have had every door opened for me and so many people commented on how charming ds2 was and he's not a baby, he's two. I actually commented to my gran on how helpful people had been and it made me want to do nice things for people.

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spacecadet · 06/03/2006 19:19

beleive it or not, i live in a rural area!

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DelGirl · 06/03/2006 19:24

haven't read the whole thread but god that really gets my goat when i'm in a queue and the person behind you is right in your face. Why do they do it, It's often the older generation Angry. It really pees me off and I wish I hd the guts to say something sometimes but I know I shall just go red in the face and start to shake cos i've soken out. grrrrrr on your behalf

NannyL · 06/03/2006 19:32

Im glad you answered that ignorant man back!

Good for you.... and a strongly worded letter of complaint to the store manager about the checkout operator is necessary IMO (And for that you'll probably get at least a £5 voucher!)

eemie · 06/03/2006 19:34

Sorry to say I agree about old people. I was brought up to revere them (Scottish presbyterian). But since having my daughter I've endured so much rudeness and lack of consideration from them that I am now terminally prejudiced.

Of course some are lovely but sadly it's the mean-spirited twisted old b***s that stick in your mind. Not only are they casually rude as a matter of course (barging in front of you, waving their fags in your toddler's face, muttering evil spells just within earshot), they actually go out of their way to be offensive.

I will always love aloha for her brilliant retort to one of them: you should be grateful to those of us with young kids, one day you're going to need them to feed you and wipe your arse and dig your grave.

Cam · 06/03/2006 19:35

I once asked an elderly man who was standing so close to me at the checkout that I couldn't actually reach the pin machine, to please move, and he shouted at me "Who do you think you are?"

I replied "Nobody, obviously, now please move so I can pay for my shopping"

He was with his wife too.

Grumpy old gits.

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spacecadet · 06/03/2006 20:51

blimey, it seems that there are ignorant old gits everywhere, if im lucky enough to live to old age, i promise that i will never be like that(honestWink)

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spacecadet · 08/03/2006 21:40

update-have telephoned wilko's and spoke to the assistant manager, who apologised profusely and said she would investigate the matter, she said it was absoloutely unacceptable the way the cashier behaved, she is going to ring me back tomorrow.

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WestCountryLass · 08/03/2006 21:43

Think your response was very dignified and you ought to compaling about the checkout person Angry

I wonder how long it will be before the "PIN area" gets a yellow box like you get next to cash machines (and road junctions)?

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spacecadet · 08/03/2006 21:46

i told the assistant manageress that i was going to complain to the local rag!

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Flossam · 08/03/2006 21:49

I err, chased an old man down the street a few months ago when he barged in front of me in the que at a bakers, literally pushing the buggy handly into my tummy whilest he pushed into the que. I told him he was very rude and I that I was queing. He told me I was a silly cow and to just bugger off. I walked away but then my blood boiled and chased after him and demanded an apology. Shock Blush He just told me to bugger off again so I told him he was a rude old sod. Blush

cod · 08/03/2006 21:50

spacey you are obsessing

it happened

move on

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spacecadet · 08/03/2006 21:56

cod-im not obsessing, if that man had wanted to, he could have easily read my pin number, what i have complained to the store about is the fact that the cashier did not stop this man from walking straight through the till and standing there, its the shops responsibility to ensure that customers can enter their pin number in privacy.
im not complaining to the newspaper, but they dont know that do they?
and i only phoned them up today i would hardly call that obsessing.

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beetroot · 08/03/2006 21:57

leave her alone cod

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spacecadet · 08/03/2006 21:57

oh and i have moved on thank you. just felt that i would update the thread.
wish i hadnt bothered now.

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