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Anyone going to own up to being a snob?

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rickman · 05/03/2006 23:09

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rickman · 06/03/2006 23:56

Don't they take a lot of drugs as well? :o

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nannyme · 06/03/2006 23:57

This thread is frightening. Frightening how snobbishly discriminatory people can be and also frightening how I identify with parts of this behaviour myself.

Think I need to give myself a good talking to.

I am pretty accepting, as a rule, but I know there are some things I look down upon in a private kind of way - does this count as snobbery? I think it does. Just isn't overt.

(Not council estates or swearing, btw. more naffness and arrogance combined)

sophiecountessofwessex · 06/03/2006 23:57

aye your right there.

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rickman · 06/03/2006 23:58

Better prepare yourself NM! Wink

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sophiecountessofwessex · 06/03/2006 23:58

snobbery is just another way of saying someone judges someone else.

Mytwopenceworth · 07/03/2006 00:01

I'm not a snob, I'm simply better than all of you, it's not snobbery, it's just the natural order of things.

turniphead · 07/03/2006 00:03

potatoes just don't cut it with us turnips

colditz · 07/03/2006 00:04

For Goodness sake, I am trying to be indignant here.....

Grin
Wordsmith · 07/03/2006 00:09

We're probably all snobs according to some definitions. Where I shop is guided by the quality of the food not the clientele, and I take the same attitude to where I live.

My next door neighbours are like Rose and Onslow from 'Keeping up Appearances' - I'm sure we'd have terrible trouble selling our house because their house and front garden looks like a bomb site, but I don't care - they're nice people (well she is, he's a waste of space!) I have a friend who has a nice 4 bed house on a very nice estate (although one couldn't use that word) backing onto the golf course, but I'd find it a chore because it's the sort of place that you could never leave your front lawn unmowed longer than a week in summer without getting disapproving looks, and you have to have a 4x4 or a people carrier.

DS1's nice little school is set to merge with the neighbouring one which has (whisper) council house kids attending, and the rage of indignation from some parents made me want to scream! I really don't think it will automatically lower standards if the less well off kids are allowed to mix with the better off ones!

I think instinctively I am not a snob but I dare say I have been, am and will be in some situations.

nannyme · 07/03/2006 00:15

So are you going to be done up in your finest Burberry, complete with Elizabeth Duke Bling and will your children all be shell suited up and telling me to fcuk off when I get there then? Looking forward to Bernard Matthews sausage pies (made up food, possibly) and chips cooked in lard for lunch...can't wait to meet ys Rickman! Wink

nannyme · 07/03/2006 00:44

rickman, I notice you have not replied. I am hoping that you guessed I was joking - feck! if you didn't!

Wordsmith · 07/03/2006 01:02

She's probably gone to bed.

nannyme · 07/03/2006 01:08

figured that that was the other likely explanation!

hannahsaunt · 07/03/2006 03:48

Only about coffee Grin

bigbaubleeyes · 07/03/2006 17:01

I'm upset by how my comment about the 'dodgy estates' in my original post has made me look like I would discriminate against people based on where they live.

I will restate that i was raised on a council estate with very working class parents as was DH his estate was knocked down and rebuilt.

My point about the estates down the road from us are drug use and crime levels - I'm sure if you had the opportunity to move away from these unpleasant aspects of society you would?

However if one of us lost our job and needed to downsize we would and we would get on with it.

IN NO WAY do I look down upon people who live on council estates but mearly have preference to live away from drugs/crime - which is the case near us. I DID NOT refer to ALL COUNCIL ESTATES and ALL PEOPLE ON THEM. Angry Please read posts carefully.

It is intersting reading the subsequent posts: is it not a fact that we all discrimminate or else how do we chose who we mix/speak to/form relationships with? Therefore the real question is do we do it consciously OR subconsciously and what criteria do you use if you are aware.?

cod · 07/03/2006 17:02

oh COME On this thread was never going to generaate hapinees was it
you post on ti and you take the risk

bigbaubleeyes · 07/03/2006 17:09

Colditz - my DH is black and found your comment about comparing people on coucil estates to the abolition of slavery VERY offensive and so do I -they are in different leagues altogether.

ChampagneandNappies · 07/03/2006 17:12

Absolutely!

prettybird · 07/03/2006 17:13

I always call my slef a snob - and at the very least, am an intellectual snob.

However, I dont' consider my self to be "better" than others. It's just I talk with a fairly posh (Scottish) accent, and just by nature of my upbringing (sheltered middle class) sometimes have difficulty relating to people who have had a tougher upbringing.

When I did Jury service, I realised there was a whole other society out there, and even though I knew I was priviliged, I didn't really know just how privilged I was.

Where I will admit to being a real snob is grammar (typos and stream of conscousness on Mumsent aside!): ds will be taught to "speak proper"! Grin

colditz · 07/03/2006 17:15

BBE - why? Why is it in a different league altogether? I wasn't referring to slavery, I was referring to the social setup in America after the abolishment of slavery. Why do you find my comment offensive, and how is it different to discriminating against people because of where they live?

ChampagneandNappies · 07/03/2006 17:16

......I meant absolutely I'm a snob rather than adding to the discussion!

bigbaubleeyes · 07/03/2006 17:18

Yep your rite COD but no harm in a good discussion! I'm not about to set fire to PC! Its important to exchange views on such topics it broadens you perspective on life! Smile

meowmix · 07/03/2006 17:25

yep. I'm an intellectual snob in that I do look down on people who don't use their brains (and before any jumps in I don't mean in a SAHM/Working mum way AT ALL). I am happier with people who are able to think and articulate discussions. (which is obv. why I love mumsnet so....)

snowleopard · 07/03/2006 17:30

I am a snob about people who can't behave - people who lived in our block of flats who kicked the front door down when they'd lost their key, smashed their own windows so glass showered onto the street, pissed out of the window and lurched around out of their skulls on something or other all day.

So we moved away before having a baby. Is that snobby? I'd never judge anyone on where they live or what they look like, if they are nice. But it makes me miserable that so many people are awful. People who bully their kids as well. People who chuck their junk all over the street. People who get aggressive if you dare to look at them. People who are racist and homophobic. Genuinely wish I didn't have to share the planet with them.

Socci · 07/03/2006 17:31

oh nooooooooo - this has happened before. Everything was fine until someone said they were a snob about new cars on council estates -- see \link{http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk?topicid=1375&threadid=56752\here}