Anyone going to own up to being a snob?

[rickman]

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me [shame]

I don't ignore or blank people, or indeed treat them any differently, but am ashamed of my snap judgements about people whose accents I find unintelligible.

I have my paradigms challenged daily by a colleague who wears tracksuits, cropped tops, tattoos and ponytails I find abominable, speaks in a near-incomprehensible Hull accent and has a PhD from Oxford and is as sociable, kind and intellectually rigorous as one could wish.
Still shuddered at her get-up for the work Christmas do though.

Of course Im a snob, and Im proud of it.

Better to be a snob, than have low expectations for yourself and live up to them

Me, I'm a snob.
I never go on public transport in case I catch something!

I did not send DS to the local school because I dont like the look of the parents.

I'm a snob, I can feel myself judging when I use public transport and see how badly dressed people are, what rubbish they pour down their kids necks, their attitudes, their whole demeanour.

But I'm loud and proud, I'm not a secret snob

I guess I can be a bit of a snob at times - I get it from my Dad!

i've been told that due to my upbringing, i am a snob. whatever!

when it comes to beauty products and wine, however, some snobbery is essential. non-makeup wearing-swilling-from-screwtop-ladies, you know who you are :o

buses are just gross. sorry, but they are soooo vile. dh thinks so, too. we must have influenced dd1, b/c whenever we drive by a bus, she says, 'ew! yucky, yucky.'

I am ashamed to say yes I am as it goes agains tthe type of upbringing I had in a traditional decent working class area/family.

I drive over the othersid of town to the bigger tescos instead of the one near us as its full of scruffy people from nearby areas. It also stock less and doesn't have an olive bar.

I too hate buses there always seem to be a nutter jibbering away. We have dodgy estates down road from us and can't wait to move further away from them Iwork hard to gain and maintain a certain standard of living. So there.

I can almost guarantee that I am the only mum in dd's class with an oyster card. I also walk lots and lots as a form of exercise instead of going to an expensive/exclusive gym. I also don't carry a handbag that costs as much as a weekend away somewhere lush.

But I am still a snob about some things.....

Oh expat - isn't it true that more and more "decent" wine is now coming with screwtops? At least the stuff from Australia and New Zealand?

Actually reading the dictionary definition I'm pleased to say I am not a snob. Like most people I might 'judge' others, make assumptions and even feel a little disdainful of some of other people's actions / behaviours and values but at the end of the day, I don't truly regard myself as better than anyone else or 'superior'

I think it's a big mistake to look down on people for the area they live and the choices they may have to make. Nobody should be complacent that their situation will never change, you just don't know what's around the corner. There, but for the grace of God, go I...

Rickman I hope I havn't offended you its not that i look down on the people who live on those estates near us, I was one of those people when I was growing up and DH lived in a very 'rough area' but I like Isaiod I have worked hard and hope to protect my standard of living and don't care for they way in which certain factions lead their lives.

im a snob

Do you think that people who live on estates, don't work hard then?

Of course they work hard too, but there is a higher degree of deprivation and crime in areas of social housing some more than others. Without revealing where I live near I can't back up my comments 100%. I do live on an estate.

I know the lack of good quality housing and local facilties can contribute to an areas well being.

'I think it's a big mistake to look down on people for the area they live and the choices they may have to make. Nobody should be complacent that their situation will never change, you just don't know what's around the corner. There, but for the grace of God, go I... '

here, here, Rickman!

Ooh thank you Expat. :o

I see the look of horror on some of the mums faces at school, when they find out where I live. Yet a couple of years ago, I was their neighbour and living exactly the same sort of life. I didn't know it was all going to fall apart and it could just as easily happen to anyone of them.

how you doing btw. rickman? seeing you soon!

Yes Rickman,I agree.You never know what could happen in your life. A friend of mine has had to downsize considerably due to a divorce.In her case a few people think it's karma as she is regarded by some as a snob

Not too bad Nannyme. Kitchen and bathroom is progressing now but the house is still a mess. I've been stressed and have fallen off my no smoking wagon, but I'm fully intending to get back on it.

Very nervous about your visit, very scared you will quickly suss how crap I am. :)

Oh don't worry. Was going to ask about smoking, but thought better of it on public forum, an' all!

Nevermind, start again when stress is less!

I am not a stern matrony person, btw.

See, I spend a lot of time worrying that I will get judged by my postcode.

How sad to find that I am right. I do get judged by my postcode. People may willingly speak to me, but they cannot wait to move further away from me.

How distressing that my son may not get invited to parties because he was conceived in the middle of a property price boom, and his parents ended up in a council estate.

It is no use saying "Oh but I am sure you are different from all the nasty elements on those awful estates". How will you ever know?

You could speak to any one of my neighbours and not 'know' where they live, they are all pleasant, friendly, law abiding people.

This attitude to people who live on council estates I find incredibly offensive, it reminds me of the attitude in America towards black people after slevery was abolished.

"Yes, you may go to school, yes we cannot stop you going where you like, we would not dream of it, you have that right and so you should - but everywhere you go, we are going to move away. Not that we object to you! But we have children, you see...."

my next door neighbours a snob. and in describing her i too become one - yet ironically don't consider myself one.

shes one of those working class people who aspire ( dreadfully) to be middle class. she owns her own ex council house and thinks herself socially superior becuase of it.

she has lowered herself to pleasentries with me on the odd occasion.

refers to herself as a teacher when infact she is a classroom assistant.

she has had two conversations with me, both commenting on the use of foul language, it was pointed and deliberate. i smiled and refrained from telling her to fuck right off.

she is moving very soon, my daughter walks to school with hers, this rather sudden decision has come about since my windows were put through the other weekend, my husband was involved in a fight, and i told her to hurry inside whilst i shouted obscenities at an eminem lookalike who wanted to beat the fair sh*t out of my dh - who was already bleeding profusely over my (new) carpet.

Ah she is misguided Sophie. The terribly mega posh swear and use profanities constantly...