naming babies after family members

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What do you think about giving your ds/dd a name after a family member or friend? have you and why?

yes NomDePlume i am new only been about a few weeks

DS1 has my father’s name as his middle name, and another family member’s middle name as a 3rd name (!). His first name is one of Dh’s uncles actually, but that’s not why we chose it.
DD’s first name is also a distant relative of DH but again, not the reason. Her second name is my mum’s and DH’s gran’s.
DS2 has DH’s 2nd name as his first name (in a version of it), which was also DH’s grandad’s name, and he has my grandad’s name as his 2nd name.
Crikey I didn’t actually realise that until I wrote it down! But TBH apart from DS1’s 2nd and 3rd names, which are kind of “in memory” (sorry if that’s icky) it’s quite by chance, just names we liked which went together.

My ds is named after his grandad (dh's dad) who died when dh was 15.
His middle name is the same as my dad's first name, who is still alive.

It is a lovely name and I did it as it made dh so happy.

Both children have my dh's surname, so I thought it only fair that their middle names were associated with my side of the family.

Ds has William - after both my Dad and Grandad, and dd has Ann - which is my middle name, and was also my dm's mum's name. Dm is Doris - she has never forgiven her mum for that - and would have killed me if I'd landed dd with it!

DS has the same middle name as DH's dad. It was semi purposefully ie not actually naming him after him but it feels nice.

DD's first name is the same as DH's granny's first name, although she (the granny) is known by her second name. That one was deliberate, but it is a name that we like anyway.

My first dd has my Nana's name ( who i wasn't that close to) and my dp's mums name (though she's called something different and i didn't even know it was her name). Everyone was all pleased that we'd called her after them but we didn't , just liked the names and let them all think what they want

I did my family tree and noticed a couple of family names that were carried down the generations so I used them for DS2 (Thomas Samuel). They haven't been used for a couple of generations though. I did come across an ancester that had a child called 'george' that died in infancy then went on to name another child George about 10 years later - I thought that was pretty grim!

Same as nomdeplume, in that dd's middle name is name of my (dead)MiL.
I like the name, and I think it is helping dd understand about her granny, as she has always been told that her middle name is the same as her granny who isn't here any more iyswim.

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I gave my DD a middle name, that was my friends first name.

Me & friend were v v close, so it seemed like a nice thing to do. (plus I liked the name). NOW, tho, turns out my friend wasn't so keen on my DD (cos dd was more important to me than her). So now I wished I hadn't & prob wouldn't again.

Meggmoo

Is there any way you can get the registration changed ?

Sorry, should have said, have fallen out with friend since DD was a year old.

I would have refused BTW.

If he meant that much to to your DH how come you knew nothing about him. ?

DD had dh's first name as her middle name. t wasn't chosen for that reason, it was just one of very few names that went well with her first name.

DS's 1st name is my dh's paternal grandfathers name (dh never met him as he died when dh's father was only 14) and his middle name is my paternal grandfather's name (who died several years ago). There is no family tradition but we bothed liked the names, thought they went well together, and it was just a nice thing to do.

Dh's dad died before dh was 21.
Dh asked if he could call our son, after his dad.
And because I like the name Jack, and didn't have a problem with the idea, I said yes.
Simple as that.

DS has family traditional middle name on DH's side - it's been going for well over 100 years and while it's horrid (and obviously DH's middle name as well) I guess it will be up to DS if he wants to drop it. Would be more worth while if it came with a castle or a title, though the crested teaspoon set's been very handy - not!
Penance for marrying first born son of first born son etc...

Ds1 is named after dh's maternal grandad, and ds2 is named after my maternal Grandad.

Don't think it's at all morose, we liked the names anyway (George and Harry), and it's a lovely tradition to keep family names IMO. :)

We had to give ds a horrid middle name that all males in dh's family have as it used to be part of a double barrelled surname or some such nonsense. If we have a ds2 though I'm refusing to repeat the tradition

We didn't. Fortunately sister has used the family female name as a middle for hers. Brother has our late father's for his.

Ours have different fab places we have been to as their middle names. DH jokes that we will send them packing there when they are 18. On days when they are being awful, we say 'he/she is off to .... today'.

We worry they will go to their respective places one day and wonder what we thought was so fantastic!

DD's middle name is my god mother's name. She died when I was 15.

DH wants to name any future DS after his Grandpa Henry - which I'm fine with - except he wants to use the shortening of HANK!!! Which I will only allow over my dead body.

I must pray for girls!!

DD1 has the middle name Sadie after my beloved Gran who died 2 months before I became pregnant with her, I don't think it is morose at all but think of it as a way of keeping her memory alive and I'm sure she would have loved it that I named my daughter after her.

I asked DP if he wanted DD2 given a middle name after anyone in his family and he said no so we picked a name we liked instead.

As a middle name and if I already really like the name. One of DS's middle names is also my brother's middle name and was the middle name of both my grandfathers - although, TBH, I'd probably have used it anyway. If we have a DD it's very likely she'll also get a "family" middle name as my grandmother was one of about 10 billion sisters in a big Irish family and so most possible names have been covered somewhere...

Middle names here. May as well make people happy. Its not like we ever use the middle name - except when I'm telling them off! I suppose on that basis the middle name should be after someone I don't like much, so I can really say it crossly.

Actually, dd has my gran's name as a middle name, cos I miss my gran. And its a nice name. Ds has a family-handed-down-for-ever middle name which is ok. From dh's family.

DS1 has his great grandfather's name as his middle name - we did it because a) it's a nice name and b) DH was very fond of his grandad. Mine both died when I was very young so I don't really remember them. I think it's a nice thing to do if you want to - not because other people expect you to!