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Mumsnet is making me miserable!

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bourneville · 28/02/2006 12:18

Hi all. I love this site. I am getting addicted to it. I am on dial-up so my stomach tightens every time i log on. But i just can't stop!!! I will before long have broadband (just waiting for my dad to build me a new computer, my current one has no USB port so no broadband...) but tbh i'm rather worried about it cos it's not just the money that bothers me (I am going to phone BT soon in a panic to find out what my bill is so far. I pay by direct debit but i'm sure it's shot through the roof and i could be in serious trouble...)
but anyway, as i was saying, it is starting to feel like an addiction, just logging on "quickly" a few times a day to check threads I'm on but then getting caught up in something. I feel tied to my computer and unable to relax into my real life iykwim, and surely with broadband although that sick feeling about money will go, it will only get worse!

It is hard to be the only one of my close set of friends to have children, so it is great to have mumsnet,it helps me feel part of a group again and not so alone, but it's all so :( !! I think if my friends did have children i wouldn't feel the need so much to come on here. It is starting to take up far too much of my evening time particularly...

Does anyone else feel like this?

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NomDePlume · 28/02/2006 12:19

Pretty much every single regular MNer feels the same, bourneville. You are deffo not alone.

sandyballs · 28/02/2006 12:19

Yes - I'm frightened I'm going to get the sack at work because I'm constantly logging on Blush

Tatties · 28/02/2006 12:33

Yes I feel like this too, but It helps me feel in touch with what's going on, and there is nearly always someone who wants to talk about the same thing. I only have a couple of friends with babies but we don't 'debate' issues and exercise our brains like we do on here.

mousiemousie · 28/02/2006 12:36

it's part of my social life and support network and I don't think that's a bad thing Smile

hunkermunker · 28/02/2006 12:42
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leogaela · 28/02/2006 12:45

I think its important to us if not we wouldn't logon, I've got loads of good advice and information from here and the friendly support.

The addiction thing wears on and off.

Can you plan more stuff in your day so you dont spend so much time at home and therefore on the PC. how about meeting up with some other MNs so that you do have some RL friends that have children and do things with.

Weatherwax · 28/02/2006 12:46

Yes I feel this way and I miss so much! I don't post much and I am in awe of the people on here who contribute so much. There is a lovely thread at the moment about manking real life friends. I just need to remember not talk about mumsnet threads to these real life people, mumsnet people are so real. Confused

eefs · 28/02/2006 12:46

I have to invent acquaintances as trying to quote from as WWW or custardo does not quite have the desired impact with RL friends.

I log on "for 5 min" almost once an hour while at work. scary

Troutpout · 28/02/2006 12:58

Ooh i don't feel like this at all...am i still in the honeymoon period for this dangerous addictive drug then? Wink
Makes me larf.

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bourneville · 28/02/2006 13:00

I don't spend so LONG on here during the day as such, just 15 mins maybe 3 times a day, want to stop doing even that. Evening time is being eaten away though.

I have recently found that when talking to friends mumsnet always comes up (i mean, some topic that was discussed on here) and it's making me aware that it's all i have in my life!! Apart from films & dvds - just as boring for other ppl who aren't geeks like me!! Grin I have one friend who is a nanny and it's fantastic meeting up with her cos we both talk as enthusiastically about kiddy issues, my other friends look pretty blankly at me about it all.

I do know it is very important to me and i would lose a lot if i stopped altogether, but..........

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lockets · 28/02/2006 13:07

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JoolsToo · 28/02/2006 13:12

I don't think you need to worry lockets WinkSmile

it's only a problem if it upsets you that the virtual person thinks you're a nerd - it helps to have elephant hide Grin

lockets · 28/02/2006 13:18

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clerkKent · 01/03/2006 13:09

We are all addicted!

btw You don't need a USB for broadband, just a telephone conection and an operating system newer than Windows 95. BT can help you check it all out.

thewomanwhothoughtshewasahat · 01/03/2006 14:19

I'm going to fail my exams in summer and it will be mn's fault

P0SSUM · 01/03/2006 17:07

i havent made up my mind yet.....i have to say i am shocked by the amount of vitriol that permeates this site. My jaw has dropped on many occasions at the rudeness and judgemental attitude of some of the members. And i've only been logging on for a week. Yet on other threads they come across as much more caring/understanding. I dont get it. What happened to the sistahood man?? Have you not noticed this?

anyway, i'm still here though...

intergalacticwalrus · 01/03/2006 17:11

But it's the rudeness and viriol that makes it so compelling!!!!

DS has been know to be totally neglected when something has kicked off on here.

intergalacticwalrus · 01/03/2006 17:12

vitriol. Oops

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bourneville · 01/03/2006 17:36

yeah i too enjoy the threads that kick off! try to avoid getting in the line of fire though!

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moondog · 01/03/2006 17:38

Bournville,I say that MN of an evening is far more educational than tv.
It's a great place to have a conversation.
It's not Robo Cop Road Kill or some hideous computer game so what is the problem??

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bourneville · 01/03/2006 18:02

Thanks moondog! :) I know all that. Maybe it is just the money that bothers me at the moment. I've spent most of the afternoon logging on & off to check threads that i'm on that keep going, telling myself i'll stop when they've been killed!

But you're right about it being educational, etc etc. I do feel like it prevents me from doing other stuff in the evenings, but you're right, all i'd do otherwise is watch tv or dvds! Blush Or get an earlier night which i also need! So, until I actually figure out what else i'd otherwise like to do, i'll continue then!

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snafu · 01/03/2006 18:13

Umm, I think there's a mix of judgement and understanding because we're (whisper it) actually real human beings, with prejudices and soft spots and all the rest of it. Real human beings are sometimes nice... and sometimes not. There's plenty of 'sistahood' when you need it, ime.

Anyway, I was thinking the other day that what you can't learn on MN ain't worth knowing. That's why I'm still addicted.

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bourneville · 01/03/2006 20:34

is anyone else starting to think in mumsnet speak? i keep adding emoticons in my head, and i even have nearly called dd "dd" when talking about her to ppl Blush. like when you play a computer game for ages - you know those snake type games, an imaginary snake used to eat up the words if i tried to read anything!

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MerlinsBeard · 01/03/2006 20:41

if u r worried about spending the money then stop logging on as much.

take the fuse out the back of the plug if thats what it takes!(have dome it to DPs playstation beforenow!)

Tortington · 01/03/2006 21:23

i kid myself that without the internet i might be errrrrrrrrr jogging ( phhhhhwatattattt) nah errrrr making papier mache fairies with the kids, baking cakes, but the reality is i would prolly we watching the tv.

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