Can I come back?

[carla]

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Carla, everyone is free to post on MN

If you want people to post back to you I think you have to take some things on board

If you post cryptic comments you can't get in a huff because people don't understand exactly what you are on about. If you want people to be helpful you have to be open and honest.

You cannot post asking for help and then lash out at people who are trying to help. Well, actualy that isn't true, you can lash out all you like, but you can't then expect people to post back to you.

I don't know is you are off the booze or not. if you are not, I'd say don't post while pissed and expect people to post back

Get the help you need for your more serious pobelms off MN. We are not trained councellors...you need professional help.

Remember that if you post on a public forum, people have a 'past' who are also posting. You can hurt and upset a lot of peole on here, sometimes without realising it. If you keep doing this then eventualy people will stop posting back to you.

It is your call. I have to say that you upset a hell of a lot of people last week. while you might well be in a bad shape, that doesn't give you licence to hurt others.

If you feel you can 'behave' (for want of a better word), then give it ago,. don't be surprised if people don't welcome you with open arms.

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All I'll say is I think it was horrendously sad that strangers were worried sick about you, panicking etc and you did'nt have the decency to let anyone know, not even a quick post or a thankyou.
I hope you're seeing somebody because you obviously need help (speaking from experience as someone who has been there).

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hi carla
I read some of your thread last week and think it is sad that things had got to that extent. I dont think I have ever 'spoken' to you on here. I just wanted to say I think you need support in RL but there is also no reason why you cant use MN as a friendly support network[if others will be friendly]. I have been at the point of suicide and I have also been a mental health worker and can clearly see you need proffesional help aswell as personal. I do hope you have contacted your gp or local mental health team who will also help you to deal with the other issues you have. As for whether you can 'come back' that is nobodys decision but your own as we dont own the website.

go on the suspense is killing me, are you erm ?

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So you didn't talk to your GP about last weekend, when he phoned?

I still think after just a week you are pushing it if you think you can just move on from a suicide attempt.Recovery from something like that is a long process and I hope you ge the help you need I am not trying to be harsh when I say that you are still attention seeking by playing this 'shall I shan't I tell you my news'game I really hope you get the help you need and deserve but I am not sure MN is the best place for you tbh

at the risk of 'pop' psychology I think you have to look into why last weekend happened if you want to make sure that it doesn't happen again. And I feel that you need all the help and support to do that , and that will start with your GP.

Trying to pretend it didn't happen is, IMHO a very bad idea indeed.

carla now is the time to start talking, not to stop, i can understand you not wanting to talk about the actual incident, but you should be talking to a community mental health nurse, just so that you are talking, and then you will be able to address the other happenings in your life

Not talking online about makes some sense. Not talking to any health professional at all about it doesn't make sense. if you are on anti-depressant medication, then if you had a low like last weekend's, it would make sense to have the dose/medication reviewed.

carla I do think you need to get back in contact with gp. 'I know how difficult it can be as it is hard to look at why you would get to that point. It is over 18mths since my last suicidal thoughts to point of acting out and
I still see a cpn once a week, a psychologist once a week and a psychatrist 3monthly. It is a very long process with no quick fix answer.

Carla, I'm glad you're ok, will you do me a favour though? Just a wee tiny little one... make sure you explain yourself as well as you possibly can when you post, and let us know what's going on with you from time to time because I for one want to know you're ok!

(Stuff everyone else!)

And please see someone IRL it can only help you, it doesn't mean you're a weak person and it doesn't mean you're crazy either, everyone needs help now and then

no you cant........

well what di you expect us to say? of course you can 'come back'.

Carla,

I'm really pleased you're back and ok after last week.

You really remind me of my dad. He can only reach out to people when he's drunk. I love him dearly but I'm so sad that he only phones me when he's drunk and is sad and lonely when he's sober.

I think you can help people here on mumsnet, but I also think you owe it to yourself and your children to get help for yourself - I remember being 9 or 10 years old and having to get into a car with my drunk dad and being scared that he would kill me.

You are so close to getting help - alcoholism is an illness, nothing to be ashamed of.

When my dad was banned from driving I hid it from my friends because I was so ashamed. I never told them about the police turning up at our door or my dad being arrested (I went to a private school - all my friends dads were pillars of the community).

I'm glad you're back - you're very brave - most alcoholics would have abandoned the site and moved elsewhere in denial.

CAT me if you need some support. I've been really feeling for you - I know some mumsnetters have no understanding of what it's like to be an alcoholic. The best thing you can do for you and your family is to face up to it and get some help. I wish my dad had, but 30 years later he hasn't and is left with nothing.

Ditto VC! Except it was (and sadly still is) my Mum... if you want a shoulder and MN seems a bit hostile I'm only an email away at [email protected] (my MSN breaks quite often though, we have a port problem... not the drinking kind )

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Carla

I read your thread last week, didn't post though simply because I didn't have anything to contribute that would have helped.

From your past posts that I've read, you seem a nice person and I know you have contributed to threads I have started and offered advice/support etc so yes, you do have something to offer MN.

I really hope that you can get the help you need.

Welcome back

Carla - I don't know what happened a week ago or whenever as I've been off mn for a few weeks, so I have no background knowledge and no preconceptions about you.

If you want to talk about it, go ahead. From someone who's been at absolute rock bottom, and I mean in a&e rock bottom, I can empathise and sympathise anyone who's been that low and that desperate that they feel that suicide is the only way out.

In the meantime, tell us your news!!

Carla, my Mum has never in all her years admitted there is even the tiniest problem, she's never even admitted feeling scared of what might happen etc... you've made the biggest hardest step by coming out (to like 20,000 people) and admitting that you have the disease, all the rest of the steps you need to take are baby steps... but you need treatment because it is a real disease!