I want another baby, do I need my head read?

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Ok, well I know Anastacia is only 8 weeks old and I know I had the most awful pregnancy, and I know I'm likely to again....but I'm broody and so is DH.

We don't have the finances to have another child (well we didn't with Anastacia but what with the failed coil and me not wanting an abortion that decision was taken out of my hands)...BUT when we do I want to have another baby.

My question is has anyone else out there, knowing that they will have at least 9 months of pain and illness, deliberately got pregnant? How do you plan/cope. I know this is probably a way off for now, but I can't help but wonder.

Oh I'm terrible at remembering names and its even harder trying to remember how many/what gender their kids all are.

you need a list

My sudden urge to have another straight after ds2 has recently dwindled away, might be something to do with the fact that my ds1 has become a bit of a nut case since ds2's arrival. But it could also be a hormonal thing. So maybe you won't be as bothered about it all in a few months.
Will your spd get worse in other pregnancies? I'm curious really because I had minor pain with ds1 and quite bad pain with ds2 but never diagnosed with spd. I remember trying to suggest that to my gp but I couldn't say it!

They say SPD gets worse with each pregnancy.

I'm thinking you maybe right about the hormones, I mean you have to REALLY get into babies to put up with the hard work.

But I just don't feel 'done' though I am thinking I will just have to surpress those urges.

I always got broody fairly soon after the births which reached its height around the "1st birthday".

We always planned to have 4 but my 3rd pregnancy was hideous. I suffered SPD with all 3, starting very mild with No 1 but after a forceps delivery with legs in stirrups (SPD undiagnosed at this time ) this obviously made things a lot worse with No 2 and No 3 - No 3 was a LOT worse - crying every night in bed from 4 months onwards as I couldn't move with extreme pain, difficulty walking up and downstairs and towards the end was not walking very much at all (and the b**ds still let me go over 16 days!!!)

Although I was not at the stage of wheelchair etc, my physiotherapist warned me that another pregnancy could just "knock it over the edge".

After much thought, we both felt that it wouldn't be fair on our existing children. Last time, the 2 of them spent a LOT of time watching TV, doing s** all in the summer as I couldn't move and I feel incredibly guilty for that

So we decided to call it a day and now my youngest is 4 and will be starting school in September.

And now....the thought of a pregnancy and another baby actually turns my stomach. I had a scare beginning of the year and I was absolutely gutted at the thought of a pregnancy.

So yes, the broodiness does go eventually and I feel I have moved on now - onto another exciting chapter of my childrens' lives

Forgot to say, I still have problems with my pelvis 4 years down the line - obviously not severe, but usually a week before my period is due, I get a dull aching which sometimes wakes me up when I turn over.

A little reminder of what would happen if I got pregnant again

I definatley don't feel done either, but what if I never feel 'done' thats my worry.