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moondog · 08/02/2006 23:06

Oh haha yes!

Actually am a bit of an SW (says she,smoothing down her pile of fluffy white nappies and remving nourishing meal from freezer...)

harpsichordcarrier · 08/02/2006 23:09

ah hmc you've only be doing it for a little while now....
give it time
are you not enjoying it?

handlemecarefully · 08/02/2006 23:11

Mostly harpsichorder, but there are days when I tire of domestic drudgery. Overall though, yes I'm enjoying it ...

harpsichordcarrier · 08/02/2006 23:13

oh DEFINITELY give up the domestic drudgery
EITHER listen to moondog and have a strict routine (Yawn)
or listen to ME and have a max limit every day... quite a short limit.....

GDG · 08/02/2006 23:14

Me too hmc - I'm a bit bored atm cos got no work on. I don't know what to do with myself when ds3 is asleep and the others are at nursery/school. There are 101 things I could do but they are boring (sorting out old baby clothes, clearing out my wardrobe, sorting out pantry, cleaning skirting boards!!!).

I'm enjoying be able to do stuff for school for the PTA but it will be better when ds3 goes to nursery as then I can go in and do reading and more helping. I also want to take piano lessons.

I think if you are SAHM and you have the kids in school there is a lot you can do. I'm just still a bit restricted by having ds3 with me all the time and ds2 in the afternoons.

handlemecarefully · 08/02/2006 23:15

I think I'll try and listen to you!

harpsichordcarrier · 08/02/2006 23:17

in the summer you can get in the garden GDG... won't be long now
I am on a million committees/organising things so I can do a lot on the phone/email etc
I also do a lot of writing
well I used to....
now I just mumsnet

handlemecarefully · 08/02/2006 23:18

Yes my 101 things are a bit like that Gdg - including the skirting boards! (horrendous isn't it - v.v.sad). Have volunteered for the Pre-School Committee though so perhaps I can do something for that...

Lo's are loving having me at home though

perfumelady · 08/02/2006 23:21

i did it and don't regret it for one minute, i'm always here for the kids which is great, i had about three months doing nothing. i did find the only thing i missed was the social thing you get going to work, but if you have a few friends who you can meet up with then thats not a problem. i have started a few little work from home businesses that keep me busy and i earn more now than i did going to work for somebody else. so def' think about what you could do working from home cause you probably will miss the money.

christie1 · 08/02/2006 23:29

I did it. I found when I was at work, my heart was always at home, I just wanted to be there. When I am at home, my heart is never at work, ever. Is it easy, do I get treated like I am stupid at times, sure, but other people don't matter. I am at peace with my choice and my job or a job will be there again. A three year old or a one year old ,etc. will never be there again. It is worth a try, if you hate it or feel unhappy all the time (be prepared to feel unhappy sometimes, that's life) go back to work but don't feel guilty. I am very tired on mother guilt. We all do our best!

Beetroot · 09/02/2006 08:56

mind bogglingly boring. keep somethng as a sideline cd, just for you.

Love mykids to death and have the sort of job I can do freelance so I pick and choose but if it has beena few months without work i am climbing the walls

WideWebWitch · 09/02/2006 08:57

Oh hello! I've just posted at length on yr other thread. Will see if I have anything to add to this one once I've read it.

WideWebWitch · 09/02/2006 09:03

I tell you what cd, I did give up an ok paid job in London and moved the the countryside with ds. I liked it for about 2 years and then really, really needed something else. I was Chair of the preschool and on lots of committees and tbh I needed them more than they needed me. And as you know I work f/t now and MUCH prefer it to being a sahm. I am at home today and entertaining fantasies about being a sahm again but dh pointed out last night that I hated it towards the end and so a fantasy it will prob remain.

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hannahsaunt · 09/02/2006 09:38

Bear in mind that if you give up cleaner, dog walker, nanny etc then you have to do those jobs (and they are, on the whole, dull/restricting) esp compared to doing an interesting job. Not that I had any of the aforementioned and did said chores anyway but they were infinitely more bearable (and shareable with dh) when I worked (pt) too. As others say, adore my children but they like me more when I have more to occupy my time/brain. Would definitely try to do something - though if your dc's are at school then you would have school hours to do something with like voluntary work.

littlemissbossy · 09/02/2006 09:39

I gave up a well paid job, company car plus all the perks to be a SAHM. However at the same time I did some part time research work for my DHs consultancy company from home just so that I earned my own money, we set up an office at home so that I could do this.
I loved being at home with DS. Yes there were days when the weather was awful and we were stuck indoors and I was bored out of my skull, but I never regretted giving up the 'big' job. Now DS is at school, I have returned to work part time - completely new job/different company. That's being difficult and has taken me a full year to get my head around being organised again with the house routine/taxi-ing the boys everywhere etc and the fact that I now only have a job and not a career.
BTW countess we also moved from surburbia to a v. small rural village and I have never regretted that either

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CountessDracula · 09/02/2006 09:44

No would not find boring walking the dog (I love it, plus dh would do before work as he often does now) When was on mat leave I did every day for 2 hours!

If I had another sprog then would defo go back to work as I find little babies enervating full time!

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eidsvold · 09/02/2006 11:39

was teaching high school and quite well paid.... some management duties in there as well - which I loved doing - had always wanted to be a High school teacher of English and History and was able to do it both here in Aus and in the UK.

Gave it up for a year after dd1 was born - went back for 9 months ( necessary evil) until we emigrated to Australia and then had dd2. I love being at home. Although I am rarely at home with dd1 and her activities.

Despite having a child with sn - my life is a lot less stressful. I enjoy the fun times and having an afternoon rest when the monkeys do and seeing all the amazing things they do that make me laugh/cry/or swell with pride.