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Who has managed to give up well paid job and be SAHM and how did you feeL

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CountessDracula · 08/02/2006 21:55

Pls???

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NotQuiteCockney · 08/02/2006 22:08

Ah, see, I don't do skincare, or shopping, so loss of cash really not an issue.

Klauz33 · 08/02/2006 22:14

Well once you take off the £25,000 year nanny cost, travel, service charge in flat, suits, ocado shops, cleaner - actually you aren't that much worse off.

Also create a space and something fills it - if you are a confident, educated, outgoing person like yourself then you will find that possibilites arise. I found a well paid six month maternity contract within walking distance of home without even really looking for a job!!

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CountessDracula · 08/02/2006 22:16

yes have nursery, p/t nanny, dogwalker, cleaner etc that all cost plenty, plus worky expenses

tbh am quite lazy, don't work long hours (done with that) except on special occasions, however I work bloody hard and am good at what I do while am there.

I could, I think, work half time from home doing something for th ecompany without having to go in so that would be great

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CountessDracula · 08/02/2006 22:16

PPH I AM TRYING!!!

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carefulnow · 08/02/2006 22:17

CD that sounds bloody marvellous, why the dilemma then?

moondog · 08/02/2006 22:19

I find plenty to do (when I'm in the UK-extended periods in Turkey are a different matter)and on heavy days try and remind myself how good it is for my children to have me with them.

I am having 13 sahm over for dinner and plenty of drinks over half term-really looking forward to it.

PrincessPeaHead · 08/02/2006 22:22

ooooh sorry, jolly good then, best of luck...

(pph gets off cd's toes)

handlemecarefully · 08/02/2006 22:22

half time working from home sounds a better plan than going cold turkey and totally quitting a job that you enjoy

ladymuck · 08/02/2006 22:25

I did. Well strictly I took a 5 year career break.
I then had another baby, but after he got to a year felt that I wanted to do something else. Have ended up doing some consultancy for the company, usually working around 2 days (from home) which more or less fits around kids.
Having made the break I wouldn't go back full-time. Dh and I both have decent salaries, but it is hard work for us both to work and have the boys.

Even with just the 2 days (and I do enjoy my job) I still seem to have weeks where I finish work and think, "that's it, I quit", but then I spend 3 days with the stroppy 2 year old and look forward to going back to work!

seb1 · 08/02/2006 22:34

I did, but took redundancy, don't know how I ever found time to work

NeverSayNever · 08/02/2006 22:37

Happy now....gave up a good managers job because my DD kept saying she couldn't remember what i looked like....came down to money or child...child won

Beetroot · 08/02/2006 22:40

dont give up work yo will go mad. yo have to do some thing even if it is part time

Hazellnut · 08/02/2006 22:46

i did (was about one third of our income rather than half) - but to have dd, so have never worked since having dd - haven't regretted it yet but has only been 1 year so different situation really.

Hazellnut · 08/02/2006 22:47

and I HATED my job so wasn't difficult !!

harpsichordcarrier · 08/02/2006 22:50

yes I did
I bloody love it at home
couldn't be happier really
don't miss the old life (well, I miss the taxis and the bars and the MONEY a bit but that's it)
it's hard to manage on a much reduced income but if you want to make a go of it you will
and I have been able to transfer that "passion" someone talked about into my new life

harpsichordcarrier · 08/02/2006 22:51

and, I should make clear, I bloody LOVED my job
but I came to the decision I couldn't do both as well as I wanted to
it's a personal decision

Blondeinlondon · 08/02/2006 22:51

mostly feel okay about it
bit boring at times as almost everyone else has gone back to work so there is no one to hang around idly with

Hazellnut · 08/02/2006 22:54

Hey BiL - I'm not far from you, I'm always around to hang about idly together .

moondog · 08/02/2006 22:57

At the risk of sounding like a Stepford wife,home making is a noble calling.

If you get involved in stuff,you get your fill of the 'being in touch with the world' feeling I find.

soapbox · 08/02/2006 22:58

I did it for 6 months (not mat leave}. Made the decision to jack it all in as was getting bored with it and feeling pulled all the time between work and home.

Suffice to say that it only lasted for 6 months!

It was a horrible time - probably worst 6 months of my life

Still I am not you and you are you! You need to find what works for you!

Good luck

BTW I think moving to the country and giving up the job is too much at the same time! Gives me the heebeegeebies just thinking about it

bobbybobbobbingalong · 08/02/2006 22:59

I think if you go from all to nothing - you will feel depressed. You will miss your nanny and your dog walker.

I lost my job when 17 weeks pg. It was nothing as flash as yours, but it was a painful loss and it took me around 4 months to start to feel normal again.

I have gradually built up my own business and feel very happy, but I know that's because this change has been gradual.

harpsichordcarrier · 08/02/2006 23:00

blimey I agree with moondog
I think I should go to bed
if you want adult company, if you want stimulation, if you want activity you can find it
paid work isn't everything
only boring people get bored, as your mother always told you....

moondog · 08/02/2006 23:01

I thought we agreed on plenty harpsi??!

harpsichordcarrier · 08/02/2006 23:04

yes moondog
not the quilting though
or the cleaning routine
you are a Stepford Wife aren't you??
(ROFL at the idea of moondog being a stepford wifeeee)

handlemecarefully · 08/02/2006 23:05

"only boring people get bored, as your mother always told you.... "

Oh dear, that would be me then! [rueful smile emoticon]