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SAHM's mindless chat....................

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LoveMyGirls · 31/01/2006 13:40

Just wanted to say hi to all the SAHM's and just generally have a chat if thats ok....
i really love being at home with my children and i cant believe i didnt do it sooner, although i will be working again soon (as a childminder) but i do wish i could do this forever i find it so rewarding and im never bored. im only just starting to settle into a routine and ill have to start a new one when i start childminding. what do you all do, how long have you been at home, how long do you intend to stay at home for?

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beatie · 31/01/2006 13:43

Well, you've caught me at a bored time when I am not loving it. But that's because I've recently moved to a new area and had a second baby. Getting out of the house with two is challenging for me.

I'm looking forward to the Spring when we'll get outdoors more - without having to wrestle arms into coats and snowsuits

Anyway, just thought I'd say hello back.

festiveface · 31/01/2006 13:45

HI!

well my boys are both at school but i am still a sahm

I was supposed to be on a course but it has had to close due to few numbers so i am in a bit of a limbo at the moment.

nailpolish · 31/01/2006 13:47

hiya

i love staying at home too, but i do get bored. especially in the winter when its just too cold to go out in the garden or whatever. cant wiat til the summer, when dd2 will be able to walk a bit less wobbly (and not fall over as much)

'routine' is what describes my life!

ive been a sahm for 6 mths now, before that i was a nurse and i worked 2 days a week. became a sahm because i hated my job but i dont know what else i can do! i do some ironing for other people as bit of income.

had a bad experience with a childminder too so a bit wary of putting dd's to childcare while i work (although dd1 does to playgroup 2hrs a day 5 days a week)

i really intend to stay at home until the dd's are at school (youngest dd is 15 mths) but i would like a job now that i can do in the evenings or whatever, and a job when they are at school that i can fit around school holidays! so im not asking for much!

WigWamBam · 31/01/2006 13:47

Dd is coming up for 5 and I've always been at home for her - I didn't work before she was born though. I wouldn't say it didn't bore me; aspects of it bore me rigid, but I'm proud of the end result (my dd!) - she is a reward in herself. She's at school now so I should probably start calling myself a Housewife again now instead of a SAHM!

Nemo1977 · 31/01/2006 13:49

hi
I am a sahm to my ds 2.3yrs and dd 6wks. Have done it since ds was 5mths old. Went back to work for approx 3mths and realised I missed him too much so kicked dh out to work instead..lol I do enjoy it 99% of the time although sometimes can be monotonous. Do agree that when its warmer it is a lot better. Having a luxury half hour here as both kids are asleep. I plan to stay home until they both start school then plan on working part time nights so I can still be around for them.

Nemo1977 · 31/01/2006 13:51

meant to add I was a mental health project worker before although I now ironically suffer quite bad depression.

Jasnem · 31/01/2006 13:54

Hi, I've been a SAHM for 6 years now . I was a nurse in my former life.
My DDs have been at school full time since September, but baby no 3 is due in 3 weeks, so I'm going to be at home for at least 5 more years. I've done various evening/part time jobs, but find it difficult to find anything to fit in with child care - even when they are at school, it's not easy!

I love being at home, but have missed adult company at times. Have slowly built up a circle of friends to visit, so am hoping that this time will be easier.

Jasnem · 31/01/2006 13:54

Hi, I've been a SAHM for 6 years now . I was a nurse in my former life.
My DDs have been at school full time since September, but baby no 3 is due in 3 weeks, so I'm going to be at home for at least 5 more years. I've done various evening/part time jobs, but find it difficult to find anything to fit in with child care - even when they are at school, it's not easy!

I love being at home, but have missed adult company at times. Have slowly built up a circle of friends to visit, so am hoping that this time will be easier.

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LoveMyGirls · 31/01/2006 14:00

nice to meet you all, beatie our babies are around the same age im on the sept thread, hope alice is doing well.
im just off now to feed jess and walk to get chloe from school. chat soon though

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Flamesparrow · 31/01/2006 14:26

Ooh, I was coming on to rant . Thought it was a thread complaining that SAHMs are only capable of mindless chat and not proper conversations.

I am a tad hormonal methinks!!!

I'm due around the same time as Jas....

Been a SAHM for 2 1/2 years, and although most of the time I love it, I do miss grown ups, and find that I forget how to have normal adult conversation Think I'm feeling a bit unfulfilled right now... DH keeps going on about me starting work when the kids are at school full time, which is fine by me, but I think in his world I am meant to take any job I can get to pay off some debts, but I'd like a career of my own

Not that any of that was the mindless chat you were aiming at.... ... I'll go find a good mood somewhere...

nailpolish · 31/01/2006 14:29

i dont want a career

i just want some dosh

Nemo1977 · 31/01/2006 14:34

FS also feel like I have lost the ability to have a 'normal' conversation as my life does seem to revolve around kids. Also miss adult company although am lucky to have now got to the stage where I have a few friends I can visit who have kids similair ages to mine..really helps with the boredom to get out and about..lol

lucy5 · 31/01/2006 14:37

Im a sahm too. Although I do a little bit of work from homeand the occasional bit of teaching. Dd is 5 and has been at school since April.

nailpolish · 31/01/2006 14:37

i was having a girls night the other night at a friends house. felt a right prat always going on about dd's as none of them has children. tried to stop myself but i just couldnt help it

"so what have you been up to?"

"umm, well i took dd's to tickle toes at the library yesterday, it was great, XXX sang all the words perfectly to happy birthday"

they all looked at me with glazed eyes. and that wasnt even the end of it

mind you, i do the same when they are talking about their latest promotion or work night out at the casino etc etc

Jasnem · 31/01/2006 17:22

I hate to say it but the longer you're at home, the worse it gets. I used to be able to have adult conversations, but over the years have lost contact with most of my childless friends, and now spend time discussing schools, and children - marginally better than toilet training and nappies, but not much!

I've found it very difficult to get back to work, to the point where I let my nursing registration lapse this year, so going back is not really an option any more. I just couldn't do it part time (I work with people with dementia, )so will have to retrain now when the baby is bigger anyway.

lars · 31/01/2006 17:30

I am SAHM now, I think the worse thing is no social contact. I go to school and drop off ds and then back home. I do meet up with friends etc, but to be honest they are all working now.so this is difficult but trying to get jobs to fit in is very difficult and is not always worth it. larsxx

ssd · 31/01/2006 17:36

Hi I've been at home nearly 8 yrs and now work part time childminding.

Sometimes I love it and sometimes I don't!

Ds2 starts school in August and hopefully some interesting job'll come up that is term time only and doesn't involve putting kids into childcare (cos I don't want to), but then again I can see me childminding for a bit longer!

JonesTheSteam · 31/01/2006 17:42

I am a SAHM as well, have a DD who is nearly 5 and a DS who is 2 (and won't be going to nursery until 2007!!!)

I used to be a teacher before I had children. Didn't really enjoy it though (well, not all the paperwork and stuff - liked the kids / other staff )

Probably will be at home until at least 2008, as DS won't be in full-time school until then.

I find it fine most of the time, but do miss adult conversation. I have a couple of friends with children the same age as mine, but they work so I don't get to see them during the week.

None of my closest friends have children - I'm working very hard to stay in touch with them - we still meet up regularly and chat regularly on the phone or text each other, but sometimes I wonder if they find me incredibly boring!!!

Jasnem · 31/01/2006 17:44

I've made a big effort since my girls started school to socialise with other adults (almost all other SAHMs or part-time working mums). It's not easy, as I'm not good at making new friends, and it's something that gets harder as I get older, but otherwise I would be visiting the library daily in order to speakto another adult (I did do that when mine were very small and I hadn't discovered toddler groups

lars · 31/01/2006 17:53

I think it's hard to meet real good friends iykwim. I've met people through my children and sometimes it disappoints me to find they are not really true good friends and it can be disappointing.

I think when I was working and when I was alot younger I met people who I had more in common with. larsxx

FioFio · 31/01/2006 17:54

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lars · 31/01/2006 17:57

FioFio, That bad!!!! larsxx

Jasnem · 31/01/2006 17:57

I know what you mean. I still see my best friend from school every week or two, and have one really good friend I met through toddler group, but most others are just someone to chat to and have the occasional meal out with. I just accept that I'll probably loose contact in a few years, or when I/they move out of the area.

Jasnem · 31/01/2006 17:57

I know what you mean. I still see my best friend from school every week or two, and have one really good friend I met through toddler group, but most others are just someone to chat to and have the occasional meal out with. I just accept that I'll probably loose contact in a few years, or when I/they move out of the area.

lars · 31/01/2006 18:06

Jasnem, yes I feel the same and often wonder if I was to move would I still be touch with the same people.

As you live in the W/abbey, you will know it's rather clicky at times and can be difficult to make real good friends. I suppose I am careful with people to a degree as the true saying you can count your true friends on one hand. larsxx