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Please pusuade me I dont want another baby......

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TambaTheDragonSlayer · 19/01/2006 22:41

There are so many important reasons why I shouldnt have a third child...

We only have a 2 bedroomed house
Money is already tight
I want a decent figure back and am doing well working on it
I like having a little more freedom even though they are still young, Im not breastfeeding so am able to leave the kids with sitters
I have a hard enough time coping with the two I have - they are only 3 and 1
Dh would be against the idea

But then i think

well the baby would be in with us for a year anyway
would it really make much of a difference finacially?
I dont have to breast feed so could still have some freedom
I would adjust and cope as we all do
Dh could be sweet talked if i tried hard enough
I am only 23, plenty of time to work on getting a good figure

I dont think I want another baby so why cant i get it out of my head?

Is it because its only in the last few months that the doctor has said I would be able to concieve? As I am now having periods etc

Maybe because the boys arnt as hard work now im getting rose tinted glasses about the work involved?

I like labour - mad arnt i!!!

I think its because Hunker has made me broody

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meggmoo · 19/01/2006 22:43

I think you want another baby.

Cadmum · 19/01/2006 22:43

Go for it!!

(Don't ask me, really as I am not qualified to answer. We are expecting #4 and will only be living in a 2 + den flat in New York City for the next 2 years or so.)

ja9 · 19/01/2006 22:44

ooooohh,

hmmmmmm,

where would baby go after 1st yr? wld u move or wld u hav to hav all 3 children in one room?

Jasnem · 19/01/2006 22:45

Can't do it. Allyour reasons apply to me, except that DP wasn't against.
Igot rid of all baby stuff in an attempt to convince myself I didn't want another one.

No 3 is due in 4 weeks.
Idid hold out a bit longer though -dds are 5&6.

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TambaTheDragonSlayer · 19/01/2006 22:47

nooooo you are supposed to tell me not too!!!!

Weeeeel the front bedroom is huge and the lady that lived here before us had her 3 kids comfotably in it...

NO no no Tamba you do not want another baby!!!

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meggmoo · 19/01/2006 22:48

Tamba, listen to yourself.

you do!

Aero · 19/01/2006 22:50

Three is hard work (as is two and even one), but my neighbour has just told me she's expecting her fourth and for a brief millisecond, I felt just a teensy weensy bit broody for a fourth too, but then my reality check hit home with ds2 screeching something at me and brought me back to earth with a considerable bump.

Sorry, not much help, am I? - I love having three really, but four is definitely out of the question!

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TambaTheDragonSlayer · 19/01/2006 22:51

I dont!!!!

I cant!!!

Sil is pregnant and I am but I think i am just forgetting the hard bits iyswim

you are supposed to be saving my future sanity and pursuading me not to!!

We have no money
No space
I have no patience with children
I would get stressed
My youngest is only 1 (well nearly 2 and would be nearly 3 if I got pregnant in the next six moths)

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Aero · 19/01/2006 22:52

lol

Don't do it Tamba!!!!

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TambaTheDragonSlayer · 19/01/2006 22:53

I think its because the doc has told me i could if i wanted to... its put the mad idea in my head.

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TambaTheDragonSlayer · 19/01/2006 23:00

positive points would be that I still have all my old stuff, like the double buggy etc...

3 kids under 5 though????????

too scary!!!

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bubble99 · 19/01/2006 23:01

See what that Hunker's gone and done to you? Blame the Munker!

80sMum · 19/01/2006 23:05

Don't do it! You've plenty of time. Now is obviously not the best time. Why not wait and see if you stil feel the same way in a few years' time, when your current youngest is at school perhaps? You don't need me to tell you that a baby isn't just a 'baby,' it's someone you'll be responsible for for the next 18 years at least. Think carefully. We all have stop some time!

LadySherlockofLGJ · 19/01/2006 23:07

Tamba and a Baby sitting in a tree

K I S S I N G............

Meet me on MSN sometime and I will talk you out of it............

moondog · 19/01/2006 23:10

God no!!
Don't have another kid.
It'll do you in (it would me.)

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TambaTheDragonSlayer · 19/01/2006 23:13

thats better!

I will be frumpy and stressed and frizzy haired and etc etc etc just what i need to hear!

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TambaTheDragonSlayer · 19/01/2006 23:15

Gosh i was actually getting quite into the idea but deep down I know its the wrong time, i just need to be told that over and over til it sinks in!

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moondog · 19/01/2006 23:18

Leave it for a while.
Hey,you could theoretically have another kid in 20 years so no hurry!
I only started at 33.
Each to their own,but I know some people who had their children very close together who say afterwards that they regret not having the chance to relish each babyhood separately. Instead,they all blur into one.

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TambaTheDragonSlayer · 19/01/2006 23:21

I am totally blaming hunker for this broodyness

you are right moondog. I want to get a job and earn money do we arnt always budgetting everything, I want to make friends and have a social life and I want to enjoy my boys.

I supose its just knowing I can if i want too.

And my baby is such a big boy now, talking and everything

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harpsichordcarrier · 19/01/2006 23:25

er yes Tamba you do want another baby
but not yet
you have LOADS of time
wait a while

Cadmum · 20/01/2006 20:40

Three is fun but even numbers work better for me. Are you sure you would stop at 3??

millie34 · 20/01/2006 21:37

dont do it! at 23 you have lots of time to think about a third. i was 31 having my 1st and 34 having 2nd.

HappyMumof2 · 20/01/2006 21:41

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notasheep · 20/01/2006 21:56

23!!!!!!!!!!!!! You have masses of time ahead,I didnt have my 1st till i was 36.

Enjoy some of your life as a grown up!

expatinscotland · 20/01/2006 21:59

Only 23?!

Good heavens, woman! Put a check on it!

I'm 35 next month!

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