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Hurrah! I'm getting hitched - but a question for MNers..!

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Dottydot · 16/01/2006 21:22

Hurrah, hurrah - dp and I have decided to do the civil ceremony thing! It'll give us each parental responsibility for the kids, make us a 'proper' family and all that. I'm getting horribly excited even though it's going to be a small 'do' on a teeny weeny budget..!

Anyway, the dilemma is, we're just sorting out the date and July 29th looked good - a week before our holiday, which would be lovely timing. I told my Mum tonight who reminded me that's my brother's wedding anniversary - he was only married 3 years and his wife left him - all v. traumatic.

Sooooo, I told dp we'd have to sort out another date and she thinks I'm bonkers as my brother's now with someone else and his wedding was about 6 years ago.

What do you think? I still think it's probably best to find another date - it feels a bit doomed if nothing else..!

(and apologies in advance for a million boring threads on how to organise a wedding over the next 6 months)

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morningpaper · 16/01/2006 21:23

find another date or it will niggle!

starlover · 16/01/2006 21:24

hmmm well if you think it would upset your brother then it maybe worth doing another date.

but given that he is now with someone else, and it all happened quite a while ago i think i'd be inclined to stick with it!

motherinferior · 16/01/2006 21:25

I'd change it, actually - go for a week later, it's my birthday.

I'm SO pleased for you. I may not be the marrying type myself but I'm thrilled

Skribble · 16/01/2006 21:27

If it was 6 yrs ago and he has moved on I don't think its that big a deal perhaps only to your Mum. Most men can't remember dates like that anyway its just us ladies that get sentimental about aniversaries usually .

Yorkiegirl · 16/01/2006 21:28

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FrannytheQuinoaEater · 16/01/2006 21:29

I would change it now that you know. Otherwise you will just feel awkward and you won't be able to think of anything else when you see your bro on the day.

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Dottydot · 16/01/2006 21:29

Hmmm - I think I'll phone him tomorrow - we're really close (so you'd think I'd have remembered the date ) so he won't mind talking about it.

MI - thanks!! I didn't think we'd do it, and it sounds unromantic, but it makes sense to tie everything up legally for ds's - and ds1's really excited and is going to carry the ring pillow!!

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Rhubarb · 16/01/2006 21:29

Congrats! If your bro has found happiness with someone else and the split was that long ago, then I would go ahead if that date is the most convenient for you. Have a word with your bro first and see what his reaction is, offer to change it if it's too upsetting for him. He'll probably tell you not to be so silly!

Are we all invited then?????

motherinferior · 16/01/2006 21:29

What are you going to wear???

BudaBabe · 16/01/2006 21:30

Thought we were getting an invite!!!

Congrats!

Ask your brother - say we thought of 29 July - waht do you think?

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Dottydot · 16/01/2006 21:30

Would love to invite you all, but we're doing it on a budget of £150!!! Getting it done at the Register Office, then all off for a meal at the local Italian - everyone pays for themselves but we're getting some wine, and then all back to my Mum's for a party and nibbles!! Biggest expense will be on the rings (not chosen/thought about yet) and some balloons for Mum's house!! (and a new frock, obviously...)

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zephyrcat · 16/01/2006 21:31

It's my b'day too MI!
I'd change it to a date all of your own so that it's not connected with anything else or makes you think of anything else every year for the rest of your lives!

Blu · 16/01/2006 21:31

Ask your brother?
then if he's ok about it you can tell your Mum to stop worrying on his behalf / being superstitious, and if he's genuinely even a teeny bit sensitive about it, your dp will understand that it is a genuine concern.

You don't want your mother lolling around like the bat of doom....

Congratulations!

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Dottydot · 16/01/2006 21:32

MI - tricky decision... I've got a GORGEOUS cream satin and chiffony dress I bought 7 years ago for a friend's wedding, but it's 2 sizes smaller than I currently am... So, do I diet like a crazy thing to get back in it - have only worn it that one time - or do I give up and buy something new?

The masochist in me thinks I should have a go at dieting...

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Blu · 16/01/2006 21:33

Yeah, but we could always bring our on vol au vents in a tupperware box, and dob in towards the cost of balloons...

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Dottydot · 16/01/2006 21:33

Blu - how do you know my mother??!!!

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Mercy · 16/01/2006 21:40

Dottydot, it's your big day - of course you must have something new to wear! And your partner too!

Congratulations!

Pixiefish · 16/01/2006 21:44

My db got married on my birthday and I was well and truly peeved. (selfish of me perhaps but it didn't help that i disliked his wife to be- now x thank goodness). Chat to your db and see what he thinks if I was you.
Congrats to you both xx

Sallystrawberry · 16/01/2006 21:46

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harpsichordcarrier · 16/01/2006 21:57

I agree with blu
ask your brother
oh yes and buy something new for sure
congrats!

bea · 18/01/2006 21:33

hoorah!!! Congrats... congrats... congrats....!!!!

hope the dates sorted!!!!!

pumpkin7 · 18/01/2006 22:31

congrats!!

Check with your brother that hes ok with that date, dont see why not sounds like it was long time ago and every1s moved on.
Then make sure you go out and buy new outfit and your dp too, its your big day after all, treat yourselves!!!

Once again congrats

edodgy · 18/01/2006 22:42

Charles and Diana got married on 29th july I only know that because my birthday is on the 30th!

Somanykiddies · 19/01/2006 11:02

Remember that too coz my birthday is 28th July!

Aloha · 19/01/2006 11:10

Congratulations! I'd say new frock and no pressure is the way to go.